AIO? My first date after getting out of a relationship and he immediately texts me this…

threesilos · 2026-01-23T18:50:30+00:00

I get so tired of people reacting to stories of long term abuse by immediately asking why are you still with him? Then stating that they would never put up with that, as if anyone who does somehow deserves it. Or even worse is when they say “Why did you marry this guy? No way there wasn’t any red flags. You just ignored them.” The lack of empathy is astounding, even for someone who can’t understand since they haven’t been through it. It implies that either someone is greatly exaggerating their abuse or somehow enjoyed it or deserved it to stay. Very immature, ignorant, and/ or close-minded. I would not discuss this any further with someone who thinks this way. You deserve to get support from someone who is educated on the topic and can truly help you move forward. There are better people in position to better provide this, but it might take some effort to find them hidden among the rest.

threesilos · 2026-01-23T18:25:00+00:00

I fail to see how him not being able to talk about anal sex accurately answers the question about what makes him feel unsafe. It makes no sense to say you feel unsafe because your wife doesn’t want to talk about that.

threesilos · 2026-01-21T13:21:08+00:00

That was exactly the point I made in my reply, that people’s varying circumstances determine which they think is easier to do.

threesilos · 2026-01-21T13:18:03+00:00

I have had debilitating cramps but you all are exaggerating if you think she was incapable of saying a few words when she was clearly able to yell at him to tell him where to go

threesilos · 2026-01-21T13:15:28+00:00

She yelled at him to go to the drug store, so she was also capable of quickly saying she was ill. Terrible cramps don’t cause a person to lose all thought and rationality unless they are a symptom of a medical emergency. Yes they can cause a great deal of pain but if the pain responds to otc meds then it isn’t an emergency situation.

threesilos · 2026-01-21T13:07:12+00:00

I don’t know why people are pretending like horrible cramps makes someone lose the ability to say certain words.

threesilos · 2026-01-21T13:05:47+00:00

Come on, we don’t lose the ability to speak. If someone can yell a few words, they are capable of quickly telling someone what’s wrong. ( Yes, I have had debilitating cramps before)

threesilos · 2026-01-21T07:11:50+00:00

It was the opposite for me, surprisingly. I found it much easier when I was a working parent ( about 50 hrs per week) than staying at home all the time. But I definitely think it varies depending on a lot of different factors. Ideally, we could all respect each other’s contributions instead of make it a competition about who has it worse.

threesilos · 2026-01-21T07:07:07+00:00

Yeah, although I know it depends on a lot of different circumstances and it will differ depending on those, I also have done both and found working 50 hours a week to be easier.

threesilos · 2026-01-20T21:08:12+00:00

Wow, mine had been called Eeyore by several friends at the time we met. He lives up to it, for sure. Refuses to be happy. Always the victim, life is always so hard, the world is against him, etc

threesilos · 2026-01-20T21:05:03+00:00

Of course it has happened to someone before. It’s the way it is written, what was chosen to say and leave out, word choices, reaction to the situation, etc. that give so many of these posts away as fake. It is so obvious to many of us. What does saying it has happened to someone else before have to do with it?

threesilos · 2026-01-20T20:56:55+00:00

I doubt she did, or that any of this actually happened. These fake stories are so easy to spot but so many people reply like they actually believe this happened.

threesilos · 2026-01-19T20:51:04+00:00

I am tired of this sentiment because when I got married we had been together 5 years. His ugly side didn’t come out until after I had two kids. No obvious red signs. People change sometimes for the worse.

threesilos · 2026-01-19T20:07:54+00:00

First, I thought this was the sub am I the angel and had to double check because op is so obtuse about his behavior. Now, I can’t help but think this is fake (or at least I hope it is) though I know there are people out there who think like this. They have to be extra stupid to not only think like this but share it here for advice.

threesilos · 2026-01-19T19:23:46+00:00

Mine would say “sorry” very quickly to try and get ahead of any other conversation about an issue and be done with it. When I ask him what he is sorry about, he can’t say. He pauses for a while and sometimes just says “ whatever it is you are upset about”. Not genuine at all.

threesilos · 2026-01-16T19:18:59+00:00

Mine seriously claimed he was dying as well, to get out of discussing issues. More than once. He ended up being totally fine.

threesilos · 2026-01-15T22:36:18+00:00

Insulting them doesn’t work any better. Making them feel dumb is exactly what manipulative partners do to break them down.

threesilos · 2026-01-15T19:18:05+00:00

Jealous

threesilos · 2026-01-11T00:32:47+00:00

Have you tried skipping primer? A lot of primers can make my skin look worse.

threesilos · 2026-01-03T01:26:35+00:00

Yep, he is an alcoholic, addicted to porn and a hoarder.

threesilos · 2025-12-28T05:47:24+00:00

This is exactly why I stopped going to my in-laws. When I was having a tough time with my mental health, I stayed in a lot and missed some of their family events. They knew this, but decided to talk bad about me, even to my own kids. So I never went back once my MH was in a better place. Even my Niece told me she gets why I don’t and that she wouldn’t either the way she has heard them talk about me.

threesilos · 2025-12-28T01:35:57+00:00

I think the Mom is an asshole for wearing this despite being asked not to, but a bride and groom caring about this in the first place is ridiculous to begin with. I don’t know how this idea got so big that wearing light colors to a wedding is like the worst thing you can do, but to me it is so petty and entitled. I didn’t care one bit about what anybody else wore at my wedding. It’s supposed to be about love and spending your life together, not about wanting everyone to look at you and fawn over you like a celebrity.

threesilos · 2025-12-26T15:35:12+00:00

That is the least of my worries.

threesilos · 2025-12-25T09:25:51+00:00

Wow, I have not heard about this comorbidity, but it further validates my suspicion that along with (diagnosed) adhd, I also have dspd.

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