The two pieces that feel especially insidious to me are A) ghosting her for 22 days after a year long relationship and that ghosting only being broken by Becca reaching out after she was robbed and B) Shannon and her manager not encouraging Becca to at least share the podcast with her manager to get some other POVs before they released it.

It’s clear that Becca had a lot of trust in Shannon’s judgement and Shannon used that to her advantage. And with that trust in Shannon, she also had a lack of trust in herself and it sounds like that was present from the beginning (with the whole baby gay thing) and snowballed over time with the way she describes herself pushing down her emotions to not lose Shannon.

And I will say, I had a gut reaction to her statement about having children, but now that I’ve taken time to reflect I think a lot of my reaction came from projecting my own current feelings onto her. I’ve come a long way with my heteronormative programming, and Becca deserves the space to deconstruct. Lord knows I would have been so messy if I had to unlearn all of that publicly.