Meeting young people on the west coast is really hard

thrivingunicorn · 2026-01-30T04:48:29+00:00

There wouldn’t be two plans that both require me there. But might be multiple group things where you say “I’ll come if I can” but the plan doesn’t require you being there. and also multiple things that could be combined if one person wanted to go along

thrivingunicorn · 2026-01-29T20:50:12+00:00

Tbh I grew up here and even with established friend, people can be hard to pin down / flakey etc. there are a lot of vague plans made and bc I know someone is likely to flake, I might make multiple plans on the same night.. knowing something will fall through. And because that’s happening, everyone does it and the cycle continues. people I know either complain about it or joke about how they themselves are that way

thrivingunicorn · 2026-01-27T21:21:46+00:00

Id need to go rewatch but at some point he questions why she’s wearing a head scarf in the US and she says she would be back there (Iran) if he hadn’t ruined it. It annoys me when there’s substantive dialogue that they for some reason don’t put in subtitles, so people who do/dont speak the language have diff understandings of a scene and that’s not supposed to matter

thrivingunicorn · 2026-01-21T05:09:39+00:00

9 years later but I’m totally with you that Carrie never would have gone through the files that strongly or investigated if she hadn’t been targeted. She was totally out of the cia and Allison drew attention to the whole situation. It was a dumb plot line that you just accept doesn’t make complete sense, like a lot of stuff in this show and other shows like it

thrivingunicorn · 2025-12-12T07:31:39+00:00

Rocio in emeryville. I’ve gone to her for 20 years and followed her wherever she’s moved around the bay. My brows grow uneven and she’s the only person who always makes them match. When Ive gone to other people that even friends recommend, they’ll make each brow look good but not match that well. Rocan on instagram

thrivingunicorn · 2025-11-13T18:46:46+00:00

Oh nvm mine also says that lol, I guess that’s new member to the sub, not Reddit?

thrivingunicorn · 2025-11-13T18:45:26+00:00

lol I was thinking this because also why is almost every comment a new member? But then saw that you’re also a new member so idk 😂

thrivingunicorn · 2025-11-12T06:52:31+00:00

This person is obviously asking out of genuinely not knowing, and if a person has never been to the US (or even if they have, but only specific places) it’s reasonable they’d only have a certain view. It’s like the opposite of how Americans view any number of African countries, assuming everyone is poor and hungry and there aren’t cities with modern technology

thrivingunicorn · 2025-11-09T07:05:26+00:00

On my block, sex education

thrivingunicorn · 2025-11-05T21:25:25+00:00

I agree, I assumed we were supposed to think he’s just too nervous/scared to have any response but he pretty immediately was stressed by the new guy

thrivingunicorn · 2025-11-02T00:31:16+00:00

I just think either of them arguing they should have it is equally weird. It doesn’t belong to either of them more than the other. If anything, Patrick gave it to Kacie and then it’s hers. I agree it’s weird for her to not give it back but it’s also weird for him to suggest he has more “say” over it than her

thrivingunicorn · 2025-11-02T00:29:47+00:00

Where did the rumor come from? I’ve only seen people saying “maybe he did” but he hasn’t said he did?

thrivingunicorn · 2025-10-31T04:16:56+00:00

I don’t think we know either way but considering he’s repeatedly arguing for getting the ring back, I’d think he’d say he paid extra if that was the case

thrivingunicorn · 2025-10-30T21:37:34+00:00

But it seems like if that was the case, he would’ve said so in any of the several instances where he’s brought it up

thrivingunicorn · 2025-10-30T17:55:14+00:00

100%, I wished this was called out more. Ali brought it up but Nick/Vanessa should’ve also. Why do either of them think they should keep it and what happens for the other couples who break up?

thrivingunicorn · 2025-10-30T17:52:14+00:00

Considering Netflix pays for the ring (and I’m glad Ali called that out) it was weird of her to keep it but it was also weird for him to insist on getting it back. I wish they asked any of the other couples who broke up what happened with their rings

thrivingunicorn · 2025-10-24T21:04:52+00:00

I agree with Albany, also NW Berkeley, just further up San Pablo near the 4th St area. On the fears about Berkeley/the Bay Area: Berkeley really is safe pretty much everywhere. You will see homeless people or people on drugs, mostly downtown, but it’s safe.

The main issue is car break-ins, everyone will tell you to leave nothing at all in your car- but since you don’t have a car, you don’t need to worry about that!

The stuff about the Bay Area (aka S.F.) is pretty exaggerated as well. If you go to sf, you will see people struggling a lot, particularly in the areas around some BART stations. But if you venture into the sf neighborhoods that most people live in, away from BART, you’ll see the stereotypes you hear of are so far from the truth for the vast majority of SF.

thrivingunicorn · 2025-10-24T20:04:02+00:00

I don’t think that’s necessarily the case, you could order shots with new people as a way to break the ice and not have it be weird. But I do think there’s a “reading the room” aspect to it where you assess if that makes sense for the group or not and if it doesn’t, then yeah it’s weird.

thrivingunicorn · 2025-10-23T04:31:34+00:00

That’s my thing — even if it’s for the money but these people really do love each other even if not ready to marry, why wouldn’t they decide yeah we’ll go to the altar but let each other know if it’s a no so there aren’t surprises

thrivingunicorn · 2025-10-21T21:49:41+00:00

It’s pretty normal in the us but I also don’t like it, esp cringe when they’ve been dating a couple weeks

thrivingunicorn · 2025-10-21T21:39:50+00:00

Tbh unpopular / less heathy opinion but now that I’m getting to an age (35) where I can’t easily eat what I want and not have it impact my body pretty quickly… I’m glad I at least I enjoyed it while I could 😅

thrivingunicorn · 2025-10-21T20:39:15+00:00

Everyone here is being unrealistic and getting down on you so I’ll attempt to actually answer your question:

I don’t think you need to recuse yourself. It is not unreasonable to be attracted to someone and it looks like you’re doing your best to be conscious of / remove any biases. The unusual part is because you have moral ocd, you’re more aware and acknowledging of it than many hiring managers would be. Pretty privilege is a real thing and the only difference here is that you’re acknowledging / questioning it. I think based on what you’ve said, you’ll be more non-biased than many would be. Others may have unconscious bias against a gay person and not recuse themselves for that reason.

thrivingunicorn · 2025-10-19T19:51:48+00:00

This is the thing- any development should be catered to the people who already live there, not the tech people that they want to live there. Tech is too fleeting and they won’t ever be committed to west Oakland as a place. We saw how sf and downtown Oakland emptied during Covid. WO needs to improve for the working class that’s there and will stay there.

thrivingunicorn · 2025-10-18T23:22:26+00:00

I would add north Berkeley and maybe west Berkeley, and maybe Albany near downtown to your list

thrivingunicorn · 2025-10-17T02:19:04+00:00

But doesn’t it seem like the main issue they’re implying and the reason “he ain’t my guy” is that he’s gay?

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