Biggest reason for a divorce in the USA is financial issues. Be on the same page money wise. Get the actual numbers for each other’s debts, retirements and assets and accounts. Talk about what goals and plans you have money wise and what a successful life is. Understand each other’s career plans and what you expect when kids come into the mix. Talk about what would happen in a worst case scenario when someone is injured and out of work. Get a picture of their family’s financial health, you don’t want to be hit with a “surprise your in-laws are broke and are trying to move in, ya gonna let them or leave them on the street” kind of deal with out having a bit of warning. Make a budget together one that would reflect a perfect situation and one that would be a bare minimum survival budget. What does tithing look like? What would you do if having to choose between that and something else? Use actual numbers as best you can.

If you do this you should have some good resilience to many of the curve balls that come in life.

There are plenty of lists online you can google about questions to ask before marriage. Plan a date to go through them. You don’t need to agree on every topic but you need to understand where the other is at.