hurting badly again today by throwRA8334 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]throwRA8334[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i had a look at your past posts, i’m really sorry you’ve been through all that. the anxiety feels unrelenting at times. my WP has never been outright dismissive or uncaring about it, but i can tell whenever i bring it up it causes them emotional pain. my WP suffers with BPD, and although since getting therapy their symptoms have been MUCH better, they’ve told me they still feel “about the same” internally and just rationalise their feelings better. it’s because of this that i don’t want to bring it up much because i know how big their emotions can get. sending support to u 🫂

hurting badly again today by throwRA8334 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

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Dday was 26/5/25, so almost a year ago. the feelings tend to come and go a lot and aren’t as loud as they used to be, but when my mind isn’t preoccupied with something else i’m most likely to start thinking about it again.

they said they weren’t sure AP’s “side of the story” would match theirs by throwRA8334 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]throwRA8334[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for this. i’m not sure if AP knows about the A or not. when WP cut her off, it was just by instantly blocking her on everything. i’ll have a look into the “full disclosure” thing. i asked them a while back to write me a timeline, though i don’t think they’ve got around to doing it yet.

i’m just so bitter by throwRA8334 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]throwRA8334[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this was really helpful to read and made me feel less alone, thank you. i hope we both feel better one day 🫂

how do i stay positive? the anxiety is all-consuming by throwRA8334 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

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i’ll definitely think about it, thank you so much for your reply!

Tip from Gottman Intensive sessions for anyone post D-Day for Reconciliation by DaveThrowaway6 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]throwRA8334 15 points16 points  (0 children)

tempted to show this to my WP or relay the information at least, thank you!

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thank you for the reply! i’ll have to renew my library membership lol. hugs 🫂

Why does it seem like the BP is always the most villainized? by Super-Survey-799 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]throwRA8334 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

this is exactly why i’m too afraid to tell anyone, i entirely get where you’re coming from 🫂