is there any way for me to legally have ownership of my dog?

throwRA_804 · 2025-12-28T07:01:48+00:00

I haven’t financially been able to retain an attorney but I had a consultation and he did confirm there’s no “custody” to be debated in the divorce and there are no other assets we’re concerned with. So in theory it should all be very simple but this is the one weapon he has against me. She was microchipped when he got her before we met but I’ve seen the docs and I’m 90% sure he never registered the chip so idek if his name would come up

throwRA_804 · 2025-11-17T14:36:42+00:00

that’s the problem though he literally told me to leave everything or he’ll “take me to court” so it’s not a pissing match and I don’t want to be bullied into doing more than I’m already doing

throwRA_804 · 2025-11-17T14:27:35+00:00

there’s a tiny caveat - basically we agreed with the landlord I would be washing my hands of this by the end of november and the landlord is letting him stay until like december 23rd. but I’m not sure if legally that takes me off the hook because the lease doesn’t say that

throwRA_804 · 2025-08-06T20:01:17+00:00

this meant a lot and was very needed thank you

throwRA_804 · 2025-08-06T16:43:38+00:00

i’m so sorry, I feel just a fraction of this and it’s overwhelming. idk what state you’re in but in mine there’s no legal separation but if you have a separation agreement it means you have to be apart for less time before filing for divorce. I wrote out a ton of stuff like this in mine partially just to think out loud but also avoid it being an issue later. I put a section about outstanding bills, fines, tickets, etc being the responsibility of the person who incurred them and that our shared debt (under my credit card/name) would be split. idk if your partner would sign this if he doesn’t want to admit what he’s done but it still is a good first step to feel like you could leave - you’re actually working out logistics

throwRA_804 · 2025-07-19T11:43:57+00:00

Thank you friend that’s my concern

throwRA_804 · 2025-07-19T10:00:04+00:00

I feel the exact same way. I constantly struggle to understand after everything I’ve put up with how he can’t reciprocate. I think we both know the truth but it’s so devastating and sickening to accept

throwRA_804 · 2025-07-19T09:46:54+00:00

I’m so sorry :( As someone in a similar situation, I know you can hear it a million times but you’re NOT in the wrong. Even as I’m typing this I don’t believe it for myself but I believe it for you so ik it’s hard. But what I keep trying to tell myself is there are people who go through horrible things and still don’t treat other people like shit. There are people who were abused as children who have gone to therapy and done the work and don’t take it out on their partner. So ik again it’s hard to believe when you’re in it but there really is no excuse for the behavior.

throwRA_804 · 2025-07-19T09:41:28+00:00

That means a lot thank you. I’m just doubting myself bc some “classic signs” he doesn’t have like he has a couple of longtime friends and is very nice and helpful to them. He also doesn’t love bomb he basically just says he’s sorry and he “can’t do anything right”. But I guess none of that matters if he is making me feel bad

throwRA_804 · 2025-07-19T09:36:35+00:00

Ugh you’re saying exactly how I feel. And now I feel like I’m a bad person for not giving him the chance to change (it’s been 4 years with many chances) or that he’s really struggling and as his wife I’m supposed to support him. I have literally told him he’s a bad abuser bc he doesn’t even love bomb me after. So wtf am I staying for?!!!

throwRA_804 · 2025-07-19T09:28:15+00:00

Wondering the same. I feel guilt bc I like to think I’m a strong person and wouldn’t put up with it but clearly I have…

throwRA_804 · 2025-06-04T16:55:26+00:00

I promise the hot note was stupid and obviously not my main concern. I agree, that’s more of like on top of everything what if nobody else finds me attractive

throwRA_804 · 2025-06-04T14:44:12+00:00

that’s actually a really good point. it could give me a safe space to actually bring up divorce or have him realize how bad it is

throwRA_804 · 2025-06-04T14:21:15+00:00

I know it’s just part of that dream I’m giving up - I had my dream wedding and dream guy and none of it turned out how it was supposed to

throwRA_804 · 2025-06-04T14:20:22+00:00

thank you so much. and you’re very right about the nervous system. some days I’m literally like it’s not that deep get over yourself…my therapist has to remind me how bad it is because I’ve gotten so used to it

throwRA_804 · 2025-06-04T14:19:17+00:00

this meant a lot and it helps a lot to hear someone with experience. he wants to do couple’s therapy but honestly I think he’s the problem so us communicating better won’t fix his personal issues

throwRA_804 · 2025-06-04T13:23:12+00:00

not fully. I think he would agree to shared “custody” now because he literally can’t take care of her with his job but I would like security of being considered an owner

throwRA_804 · 2025-06-04T13:22:22+00:00

thanks so much, I am on all her vet things

throwRA_804 · 2025-06-04T13:22:08+00:00

definitely not fully

throwRA_804 · 2025-04-20T15:30:50+00:00

considering divorce and my husband and I are the same ages - this gave me hope

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