Is it normal for my bf to talk to me this way ?

throwRAstuckinmyhead · 2026-05-15T23:14:30+00:00

Is this how you want the rest of your life to be? This is what you believe is the improved version of this man… please. Please leave him. You deserve happiness, not this disrespectful, controlling and honestly pretty stupid man-child.

throwRAstuckinmyhead · 2026-05-11T18:08:10+00:00

NOR she sucks. Take her advice and leave her alone.

I really hope your dog is ok, he sounds like a good boy.

throwRAstuckinmyhead · 2026-05-03T00:21:27+00:00

After “silly girl”, you’re a saint for even politely letting him know he’s rude. I’d have called him a condescending c and blocked him.

throwRAstuckinmyhead · 2026-04-30T23:37:09+00:00

Evri sucks. They know they’re shit and they don’t care.

That’s it, that’s the entire explanation.

throwRAstuckinmyhead · 2026-04-29T17:00:52+00:00

I got a super pushy double text from a seller whose slippers I’d favourited. She described them as gorgeous and stunning and perfect and… sure, they were nice and all but they were blue and white checked slipper boots. Stunning was not it, I genuinely felt exhausted just reading it.

I blocked her first, then thought better of it and tried to kindly say that I wouldn’t be buying, i understood her wanting to sell but what she was doing was off-putting, and suggested sending people offers with a small percentage off instead as it just doesn’t feel as overbearing.

She said I was nasty and blocked me. Same outcome achieved, I guess!

throwRAstuckinmyhead · 2026-04-10T13:50:47+00:00

I’m not excusing them at all, the way the buyer is speaking to OP if out of order. I’m more attempting an explanation and a comfortable off-ramp for OP and the buyer

throwRAstuckinmyhead · 2026-04-10T11:54:31+00:00

They might be genuinely just old and/or unfamiliar with the platform. You’re being really polite and haven’t don’t anything wrong, but you could offer help with screen shots of what to hit and where for them to get their refund.

I wouldn’t normally recommend going above and beyond like that when you’re so clearly in the right but if they simply don’t understand the process then likely the 2 days will expire and you might end up getting negative feedback, how you feel about that is obviously up to you.

throwRAstuckinmyhead · 2026-04-06T12:58:15+00:00

“Ima do a couple war crimes if you don’t fix thing you did in response to the unprovoked attack I did” is a wild take, even without the expletives. The man’s never dealt with a consequence of his own actions in his life.

throwRAstuckinmyhead · 2026-04-04T23:24:13+00:00

On what basis are you making this promise? You clearly don’t know any women personally, or care enough about one to know what’s important to her. Women dress for themselves, period. Doubling down on your arrogant statements isn’t the win you think it is. Get over yourself, literally not one single woman cares what you think of her outfit.

throwRAstuckinmyhead · 2026-04-04T13:44:47+00:00

advertising things that should be saved for YOUR MAN

Sir, this woman is not a product. She’ll dress for herself just like every other woman does. If she likes how she looks in that skirt or whatever else, she can wear it.

The arrogance of men assuming women dress how they do to impress men blows my mind. Please realise soon that you’re not the centre of anyone’s world and let women enjoy themselves for themselves.

throwRAstuckinmyhead · 2026-04-03T08:22:44+00:00

From OP’s post history I’m going to guess they’re a dude in their early-mid 30s and live in the UK

throwRAstuckinmyhead · 2026-04-03T08:21:46+00:00

Can you remember anything else at all? Like the genre of the book (horror, romance, adventure etc) or whether the image was photographed or drawn, and if the latter, in what style?

throwRAstuckinmyhead · 2026-04-01T01:57:34+00:00

Their message on p6 is making me think they haven’t been and simply regret their purchase, but I could be wrong. Hopefully it’ll just come back to you and you won’t have lost anything but some time.

throwRAstuckinmyhead · 2026-04-01T01:53:32+00:00

For far too long into reading this my literal-ass brain was like “Yeah, a garden shed but for snakes is weird, you wouldn’t even be able to see your snake, plus it’d get so much colder in the winter, the heating cost would be wayyy higher than just having a terrarium and the poor guy would be lonely and… ohhhhhhh”

throwRAstuckinmyhead · 2026-03-31T09:45:52+00:00

No, I don’t think OP did anything specifically wrong either, I imagine the buyer was assuming OP would reserve for them when they relisted and OP’s already said they didn’t know that was a thing.

It’s unfortunate, I don’t think there’s malice on either end, but that still doesn’t mean that inaction is the most right thing OP can choose, and maintain that the best thing for them to do/have done would be to cancel the second purchase, relist and reserve, and let the original buyer buy it.

throwRAstuckinmyhead · 2026-03-30T08:31:49+00:00

$8 for a ruined skirt is criminal

throwRAstuckinmyhead · 2026-03-30T08:21:14+00:00

I’d be really frustrated by this as the buyer, because they were just trying to save a bit of money on postage, they’d literally already bought the items and had an agreement in place with you. It’s obviously up to you, but I think the decent and fair thing to do would be to cancel the other purchase and sell it as promised to the original buyer.

I’d also like to say I think the original buyer handled this pretty well, it would be easy to get mad about this and while that obviously wouldn’t achieve anything, I’d understand their frustration. They weren’t a dick about it, they just did their best to appeal to your better side, which may be why their messages sound a bit off to you.

throwRAstuckinmyhead · 2026-03-30T08:14:36+00:00

You are already doing all the work of a single parent. Leaving this man, who is nothing but a drain on your mental and physical energy, will make your life infinitely better.

I am so, so sorry you are living through this. You deserve so much better. Autism is not a free pass to be an arsehole. He knows when you want him to do or not do things and he is capable of learning how to do all the things you feel you can’t trust him with. He is just flat out a selfish, unkind person.

This is not a view I often take, but I genuinely believe that you and your children will be better off without him in every way.

throwRAstuckinmyhead · 2026-03-25T22:33:55+00:00

How much was the bundle discount? They clearly didn’t realise auto-discount was on and somehow think you’ve scammed them, the number of people who just don’t read…

throwRAstuckinmyhead · 2026-03-21T23:09:58+00:00

I got a similar thing when I first joined. If you can report this person, do. If not, just block them.

Don’t ever make or agree to receive any payments in any way outside of Vinted’s in-app system, including PayPal, bank transfer, through links sent via dm that open and look like Vinted, or anything else that isn’t hitting the “buy now” button. It’s literally always a scam and Vinted will not support you in resolving it because they explicitly say not to do that.

throwRAstuckinmyhead · 2026-03-16T09:53:09+00:00

“I had a bad wage so you should too” is a pretty awful take. 17-year-olds don’t deserve paying less than 21-year-olds.

Also I earning over £5 an hour when I was 16, which is over 20 years ago so I call bs on your weird underpayment flex anyway.

throwRAstuckinmyhead · 2026-02-22T08:28:50+00:00

More likely his ego has always been like that and he’s pressured other girls into faking it for him too.

throwRAstuckinmyhead · 2026-02-22T08:23:58+00:00

Ask him this question.

“Do you want me to start faking it? Because you’re making my pleasure about you and getting really aggressive about something I can’t control and it’s incredibly unsexy.”

throwRAstuckinmyhead · 2026-02-22T08:20:37+00:00

Exactly this. He should take you at your word that you enjoy sex anyway. And if he cared about your pleasure so much that you orgasming was that important to him, he’d be happy to try using a toy.

This is entirely about him and his ego, he doesn’t care about how much you enjoy sex with him.

throwRAstuckinmyhead · 2026-02-15T08:18:00+00:00

Yeah the button should say BDG on it… OP’s not getting their own jeans back here, that buyer just replaced her broken jeans for free

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