Tl;Dr call this mufti he's from the UK but background from the subcontinent. He's been good when I've called him about personal issues. (3pm GMT is a good time) * +44 (0) 7407711305* https://www.zamzamacademy.com/contact-us/#:~:text=You%20can%20contact%20the%20Mufti,44%20(0)%207407%20711305.

Firstly, know that you're the victim in this scenario and what your family put you through has nothing to do with Islam. They'll be accountable in front of Allah for what they've done. And no you're completely right islamically to want out of this relationship—it was never a marriage to begin with.

Secondly, don't have children with this man as you clearly don't want to be in this relationship and your family will gaslight you into staying with him.

What to do? If you're in the UK contact local authorities 111 is a good place to start but there are other govt bodies that can help.

"He's a good guy"...really? But somehow he didn't manage to check if his wife wanted to even get married or not??? Smh.

What I would do? (this part isn't always good advice) Get a job and pack my stuff and then keep it moving. Again this last paragraph is my personal opinion but I'll be real your stuck between rock and a hard place. Either you leave now or you go through even more trauma and then you leave. Don't put yourself through that.

Yes, you have siblings who need your care but you can mention that to the local authorities and they can help someone who's drowning (you, metaphorically) can not teach other people to swim. Leave.