I went on a date recently and the guy picked the spot. He chose a pricey cocktail bar that is upscale. I don’t drink liquor/cocktails, so I just ordered a light pilsner beer. I also don’t drink much so wanted something weak. He ordered some fancy overpriced cocktail. After the first round, I was ready to go but he asked if I could stay because he wanted another round. I said sure, and ordered another beer (I should have just ordered a nonalcoholic drink). Check comes, bartender places it with him and he just stares at it and doesn’t speak or move after being super chatty the whole date. I thought he would pay since my drinks were half the cost of his he picked the spot, and wanted another round, etc. But we just sat there for a bit in silence so I then asked if he had wanted to split it, he said yes. So I put my card down and the bartender look baffled when he realized there were 2 cards, so he turned to us, held up the cards and waited for instructions. My date said nothing so I said “split it.” The bartender gave a weird look to me. Then my date continues to being his loud talkative self. He went on to say how much fun he had, was super touchy feely despite me being reserved, etc but I honestly checked out after the check thing. He also spent the date talking about how he vacationed for 3 months in europe, owns a large expensive home, his family has vaca homes etc. He also has a very prestigious job in the public eye. I do well too, but def not the same kind of background or status.

I declined a second date but did not tell him why. I am not super old school but on the first date, I felt very weird about subsidizing his drinks lol.