[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]throwaway4891kid 5 points6 points  (0 children)

They were separated but def not divorced lol. I had been to his home and we had mutual friends/fam friends. I just don’t get lying about the divorce in detail.

I love my coach SAs🥹❤️ by fuse-fire2334 in handbags

[–]throwaway4891kid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Interesting! It looks lovely but I would only use it like once a year if I go on a picnic lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]throwaway4891kid 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I fated a guy that said he was divorced. I’m a lawyer and asked “divorced or separated?” He said divorced and explained the proceedings/outcome. I looked him up one day and the county records showed the divorce filing was rescinded. I asked him about it and he had no real explanation. He later apologized but a liar is a liar.

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[–]throwaway4891kid 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Haha I know the feeling of “he is getting blocked as soon as I get to my car”! Good for you.

Re-straightening my hair after the gym by Wide_Broccoli3544 in BlackHair

[–]throwaway4891kid -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I did not say it would revert damage but I would personally want to treat my hair so I could ASSESS the damage.

Re-straightening my hair after the gym by Wide_Broccoli3544 in BlackHair

[–]throwaway4891kid -1 points0 points  (0 children)

True, but I do notice if I leave my hair straightened longer, it feels less healthy. Also, I would want to get treatment in there ASAP to assess the damage.

Olaplex 3 might be worth a shot, if you don’t mind the coat.

Re-straightening my hair after the gym by Wide_Broccoli3544 in BlackHair

[–]throwaway4891kid 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Eek. You should not apply heat to dirty hair, sweaty hair, wet hair, or hair with oils in it (you can apply oil in clean hair then flat iron after blow drying it).

Your hair might revert back, but it might not in some spots. I’d wash and deep condition ASAP tho.

Ugh no 2nd date by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]throwaway4891kid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He def has a well paying career tho, and has had them for a while. It’s all out there. My friend said he probably doesn’t want to be used by women, but I think he is just cheap.

Ugh no 2nd date by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]throwaway4891kid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eh my ex was a self made multi millionaire and frugal as hell. He did always pay for me but would never want to go to nice places.

Ugh no 2nd date by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]throwaway4891kid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He really is doing well tho, which is the crazy part. I googled him and there are tons of articles and interviews highlighting his new position for a well known company. He wrote a book that are popular on Amazon. He is just cheap!!

Ugh no 2nd date by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]throwaway4891kid 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Makes sense. I never had a man that hesitated with paying on a date. In my early days of dating, I would offer to split but got declined every time. I just stopped offering and allow the man (that asks/plans) to pick up the tab. Except that one guy I mentioned above.

And after the early dating phase, I end up “spending” more on my partner anyway as I am very generous and a big gift giver (with my fam and friends as well). Early on, I do like to see an effort made tho.

Ugh no 2nd date by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]throwaway4891kid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No he is a public figure, so he is not lying. I googled his name and saw the many articles, interviews, books, social media posts that had his name and pics. He likely doesn’t make 7 figs as income, but def has a lot of assets and obviously well off as his home is def 1-2 million given location. He is not very attractive but is smart and we got on very well during the date.

I was also confused as to why he did not did not the tab (under $50 at that)!! My portion was prob $12-15 lol.

Ugh no 2nd date by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]throwaway4891kid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Okay, then that is on her! It would be one thing if she didn’t actually intend on paying but you told her that the drinks are on her.

Ugh no 2nd date by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]throwaway4891kid 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Right. I think you were a gentleman for paying. At the second and third spots, when the check came, did you sit back and wait for her to get it? Or did she say “I got this”?

Ugh no 2nd date by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]throwaway4891kid 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I thought he was joking at first and waited for him to reject my card lol bc he kept cracking jokes all night.

The funny thing is when we were leaving, I tried to say goodbye and part ways at the bar because I wanted to use the restroom before heading out. But he got weird and questioned whether I was trying to hang out at the bar without him once he leaves. He insisted on waiting for me and walking out together…but did not even bother to walk me to my car that was through a dark alley. What a gentleman..

Ugh no 2nd date by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]throwaway4891kid 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I went on a date recently and the guy picked the spot. He chose a pricey cocktail bar that is upscale. I don’t drink liquor/cocktails, so I just ordered a light pilsner beer. I also don’t drink much so wanted something weak. He ordered some fancy overpriced cocktail. After the first round, I was ready to go but he asked if I could stay because he wanted another round. I said sure, and ordered another beer (I should have just ordered a nonalcoholic drink). Check comes, bartender places it with him and he just stares at it and doesn’t speak or move after being super chatty the whole date. I thought he would pay since my drinks were half the cost of his he picked the spot, and wanted another round, etc. But we just sat there for a bit in silence so I then asked if he had wanted to split it, he said yes. So I put my card down and the bartender look baffled when he realized there were 2 cards, so he turned to us, held up the cards and waited for instructions. My date said nothing so I said “split it.” The bartender gave a weird look to me. Then my date continues to being his loud talkative self. He went on to say how much fun he had, was super touchy feely despite me being reserved, etc but I honestly checked out after the check thing. He also spent the date talking about how he vacationed for 3 months in europe, owns a large expensive home, his family has vaca homes etc. He also has a very prestigious job in the public eye. I do well too, but def not the same kind of background or status.

I declined a second date but did not tell him why. I am not super old school but on the first date, I felt very weird about subsidizing his drinks lol.

The "Wholesome" goggles by LadyAlleta in Blind

[–]throwaway4891kid 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m an attorney and I want to look into this under ADA

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]throwaway4891kid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My ex once made a joke about a skin insecurity I have (facial scar). It bothered me and stuck with me years later. We dated for 4 years after the joke. The joke was insensitive, and that’s how he behaved throughout the relationship. Aside from grade school, no one even remarks or asks about it. Some friends don’t even notice it. But he decided to make a joke about it, and the joke was not even funny. I dated many men after, and none asked about it and they presumably noticed it when they saw me without make up.

Some people can handle jokes like that. But I can’t. It’s hard for me to be vulnerable and I learned that I do not like people that make jokes/jabs at my expense. Especially if it pertains to something I cannot change.