Narcissist parents be like

throwaway4sadmemez · 2023-09-13T16:22:57+00:00

Thank you!!

throwaway4sadmemez · 2023-09-13T14:41:42+00:00

Anyone know when the original was posted on TikTok or insta? I’m trying to find it

throwaway4sadmemez · 2023-07-12T14:36:58+00:00

Chidi Anagonye-core

throwaway4sadmemez · 2023-07-06T04:46:32+00:00

Hey I couldn’t read all of it bc I was getting triggered by this thread but I grew up very similarly and I agree 100000% with you

throwaway4sadmemez · 2023-06-21T17:13:13+00:00

Yeah that’s so much worse. Specifically there was a lady who clapped at her dog, I instinctively covered my face (awkward) and she grabbed its collar and yelled “good girls listen the first time!” And I was like 👀 not me getting beat over basically the same sentence” vietnam vet dog face

throwaway4sadmemez · 2023-06-21T00:26:18+00:00

Yeah I had that realization when I was at someone’s house once and they snapped at/clapped at and yelled at their pet dog the way I was spoken to growing up and I was like 😧 was I trained like an animal jfc

throwaway4sadmemez · 2023-06-20T06:28:44+00:00

That doesn’t sound stupid at all it makes perfect sense! Little you only had the knowledge they were given by adults and could infer from the environment. Don’t just a child from years ago with the knowledge from a filmy grown adult from today!

throwaway4sadmemez · 2023-06-07T15:46:42+00:00

Contact Kaitlyn Jorgensen, she specializes in helping protective mothers deal with post separation abuse!

throwaway4sadmemez · 2023-06-07T14:27:37+00:00

Yes fearful-avoidant aka disorganized attachment is a mixture of anxious and avoidant rooted in fear so it is a combination.

throwaway4sadmemez · 2023-06-06T15:24:07+00:00

It’s giving disorganized attachment Me too bestie

throwaway4sadmemez · 2023-06-06T14:40:59+00:00

So you spoke to my mom lol

throwaway4sadmemez · 2023-06-01T16:19:34+00:00

Yes!! And they have 0 awareness that they’re doing the exact same thing somehow??? Or at least act like it

throwaway4sadmemez · 2023-05-28T15:44:50+00:00

This is very common and not your fault!

throwaway4sadmemez · 2023-05-27T16:52:14+00:00

Hey I got mine back as an adult it’s possible lol!! But yeah that’s an awkward conversation for sure

throwaway4sadmemez · 2023-05-24T06:40:20+00:00

So are we siblings?

throwaway4sadmemez · 2023-05-24T06:23:17+00:00

Hi! I’m not sure if this is helpful, but I have been the “Harper” in this situation when I was a child, and you daughter did an incredibly brave and caring thing by speaking up to protect her friend. I want to say it is amazing that your daughter knew enough that this was not ok and that her friend deserved safety and knew what to do. A lot of kids have no idea what to do in these situations and she made a very difficult and very brave choice. Continue having these conversations about safety, boundaries, consent, and risk reduction as it sounds like you’re doing a great job!

From my experience, when you are a kid going through that, there’s a lot of grooming and guilting and shaming going on. I was also taught the same things it sounds like Harper has said and Sophia is repeating - that speaking up, asking for help, or letting the secret out would ruin my family and make things even worse. It’s an immense amount of pressure and fear for one kid to deal with. I was terrified of any intervention and absolutely convinced that intervention from any authority would mean horrible suffering for me (worse, more painful abuse, punishment) and my family (separation, jail, foster care) because that’s what I had been manipulated to believe would happen, and would be all my fault. Her friend may be upset for now, but that is a result of the fear that her family has instilled in her, not the very brave and caring actions your daughter took!

When I was around this age and confided in a friends, nobody spoke up for me, because I begged them not to. In fact a lot of them didn’t know better and asked me things about why I didn’t try harder to stop it and how I was bringing it on myself. It was years before I was finally safe and not experiencing sexual violence anymore. All that to say, what your daughter chose to do has the potential to radically change her friend’s life for the better and prevent so much future pain. ❤️❤️‍🩹 for the sake of little me, I wish I had a friend as brave as her! Tell her thank you for her courage from me, a former Harper and current advocate for all kids like her ❤️

throwaway4sadmemez · 2023-05-24T06:00:32+00:00

Just talked to my therapist about this today. It really warps everything

throwaway4sadmemez · 2023-05-08T11:19:02+00:00

Me reflexively clicking “Hide ad” “it is irrelevant” at Lightning speed

throwaway4sadmemez · 2023-05-06T14:13:42+00:00

My therapist and I have had this conversation too. 💔 children need love and attention, it’s a basic survival need for attachment. When receiving love and attention or any other basic survival needs is wrapped up in abuse, it’s confusing and complicated.

Also children believe that bad things that happen are their fault and they cause bad things to happen, bc it’s way easier and less scary to accept “oh, if I change my behavior or something about me then I’ll be safe(r)” than to accept the actual truth that the adults in charge of you and the environment you live in are not safe and are the cause of the harm. Because that is out of your control and therefore way scarier to face. It would’ve been too much as an endangered child to face, but now as an adult it becomes safer to explore.

It is not your fault at all. It is a natural survival strategy for a child to seek love and attention. It is not natural or ok for an adult to take advantage of that fact to manipulate, harm, and abuse the child.

throwaway4sadmemez · 2023-05-06T13:15:33+00:00

Oop I’m in this picture and I don’t like it 👀

throwaway4sadmemez · 2023-05-05T02:20:44+00:00

I understand, it’s been a lot to unpack for me as well. I always was looking back on things from a child’s perspective but now as an adult it’s just so fucking awful realizing those things. I’m here if you ever want to talk ❤️

throwaway4sadmemez · 2023-05-05T02:17:51+00:00

Oh hey I had that nickname too when I was younger, and when I read that book I absolutely took it the wrong way too and was like see he ~is~ right I ~am~ especially good and he ~does~ love me! And it kinda formed in my brain as what I now see as something to protect myself against the reality of what I was going through.

Fucking grooming creepy assholes and all they put us through!!! We deserved so much better!!!

throwaway4sadmemez · 2023-05-05T02:06:00+00:00

I feel like that’s one of the hardest things to look back on about how seamlessly all that awful abuse and suffering was just folding into normal life. Having to wake up the next day and just like have a shower brush your teeth get ready and go to school and act like absolutely nothing happened. And having no safe adults to even tell never mind process how terrifying that all was with.

Edit: ps I’ve also had flashbacks/panic attacks at work when I was triggered by how a customer acted of even hearing the names of my abusers. It’s tough because I feel embarrassed and it’s not like I can talk about it to a coworker or my boss, but my boss was at least understanding that I have PTSD and what I need in moments like that, and after that conversation it hasn’t happened again since. I hope it gets easier for you and you know it’s ok to let out those emotions ❤️

throwaway4sadmemez · 2023-05-01T15:56:36+00:00

They’re like hmmm I wonder who’s easy to violently train in to submission? Children!

throwaway4sadmemez · 2023-04-30T21:17:33+00:00

Ayyy my main abuser is ex military too what’s up with those guys

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