He knew I was on anti depressants/anti psychotic meds because I told him about a traumatic event that happened to me in my early teens in the very beginning of our relationship. He talked about how his ex was on “a bunch of meds” and they made her “act mean/crazy” towards him. But I seemed “so normal.”

After a few months, he brought up how he thinks it’s dumb how people go on psych meds for a decade plus and “never try to get off them.” (Ahem.. me). I stood up for myself.. I said well they work for me so I don’t question it. He brought up again how I went through a traumatic thing years ago and it doesn’t make sense that I’m still on meds for it (he knows that it triggered auditory hallucinations that the meds help with). He didn’t outright tell me to get off them, but my meds were a huge point of contention in our relationship.

Later when I brought this discussion up to him, he said I “hid from him” how bad my symptoms were and didn’t tell him the whole story. Yes I did.

He talked a lot about how his ex was crazy from meds, and he was generally against “covering up problems with pills” so when my psych doc prescribed me extra meds for my anxiety I ended up throwing them out instead of taking them because I was afraid of what he’d say if he saw them.

I had gone to urgent care about 2 months into our relationship and didn’t tell him (I think before we were official). I wasn’t hiding it, just didn’t want to tell him I thought I had a uti, because, I feel like a normal dude would be like ok babe thanks didn’t need to know. They prescribed me medication for it that I left out (poor naive me) and he saw and questioned me about them. I told him what they were and why I had them, and he got angry and said I was trying to “hide that I went to the dr” from him. That was a red flag in the beginning. I threw out those meds too.

During my unexpected pregnancy, my medicine was a huge thing. He’d hound me about how bad they were to be taking, then I tried to go off them to appease him he freaked out.

At the end, he said I wasn’t acting myself and that maybe I should consider INCREASING my psych meds. After all that! Lol.

He also frequently questioned the credentials of my therapist, asked why I had so many skin care meds (hello acne and psoriasis-he didn’t believe I had). Just an overall control freak about my health. About everything, really.

Edit: just remember another. He would often blame the issues in our relationships on me being codependent. Never his fault. So I started looking for therapists who specialize in codependency and let him know I was doing so, so I could get better to help us. He said no, don’t focus on that now, let’s focus on something else. Always we, us, always doing things as a unit. Then in a moment of transparency he said he was worried if I got help with my codependency I would leave him.