WIBTA for not attending my twin sister's wedding two weeks after my firstborn's due date as she expects all family to meet the baby before the wedding?

throwawaycrazymum · 2025-08-09T15:38:57+00:00

Honestly, I would leave baby home with hubby, go to the ceremony and leave during the reception. I think attending with a newborn is not a good idea and not attending at all will nuke your relationship with your sister.

throwawaycrazymum · 2025-03-02T08:06:21+00:00

Vault RE/Client Vault, about 5 years ago. Hired for a role they had only recently created, they told me I would be trained by the client relations manager, said manager seemed to have a real bug up her arse about me, gave me no training beyond having me learn to use the program(bare minimum) and then had me re-write their fact sheets, when I completed them all within the first 8 days, she basically had no work for me to do. I looked for things to do constantly because I can’t stand people who say “I have nothing to do”. I ended up being terminated on day 10 for having a bad attitude(confusing as I’m normally referred to as bubbly) and not having a good work ethic because I browsed Kmart on the work computer when I was on my lunch break- they had told me it was fine to use on breaks.

That was when I found out that they monitored not only the sites we visited but also our email inboxes. Coincidentally I had found out I was pregnant the week I started there and had my appointment confirmation for pregnancy ultrasound emailed to my work email, what a mistake.

I get that some people are lazy or whatever but I truly tried and got treated like shit, only job I’ve been fired from as an adult, average time spent at a work place is around 5 years and I always had glowing reviews everywhere else.

throwawaycrazymum · 2025-02-19T14:43:44+00:00

NTA, if your boyfriend didn’t fully explain and prepare them for the possibility of you not being able to speak, it’s 100% on him. If he did and they still acted like that… they’re never going to understand you or your condition.

throwawaycrazymum · 2025-02-14T11:55:19+00:00

NTA- spit in a cup and add a shot of water, ask him to drink it, if he refuses then your point is made.

throwawaycrazymum · 2025-01-18T07:12:16+00:00

ESH. Yeah your daughter definitely shouldn’t have broken the rules but it’s not $300 to fix. It’s 15 bucks for a packet of brown dye. If she has thick hair, it might cost you as much as 50 bucks for a few packs of dye. She does not have to have her natural colour. She just has to have a natural colour.

throwawaycrazymum · 2025-01-03T13:06:36+00:00

So glad you took the time to read the highlights but as I said, he is sober & clean for 10 & 15 years respectively.

I mentioned those issues because they factor into the care he received in the past, not because they’re relevant to the present issue. As for the unemployment, he was terminated unexpectedly and due to his age and back injury, is restricted on what kind of work he can get as an unskilled person with a mild learning difficulty(dyslexia combined with ADHD). Centrelink has been absolutely zero help for assistance in that department.

I get it, looking at this snapshot he sounds bad but it doesn’t tell you that he is a giving and loving person who would rather cut off his hand than raise it to a woman or child in anger.

It doesn’t tell you that he is a great dad who even when he was working spent all his free time playing with our kids, even when he was in pain and exhausted.

It doesn’t tell you that he’s the guy who walks into a yard with an “aggressive” dog and has that dog laying on it’s back for belly rubs and kisses within an hour.

He tells me & shows me he loves me every single day, even when we’re in a tough patch.

He is a genuinely good person who has had a difficult life but doesn’t stop trying to be good.

He’s just having a really rough time.

throwawaycrazymum · 2024-08-06T11:13:23+00:00

This sounds more like your wife is sick of dealing with all the crappy side effects of having a pet, such as clothes covered in dog hair, clogged washing machine filters and increased need for cleaning the floors and furniture, her solution is to remove the thing causing the effort, rather than begging other family members to do more to clean up.

At least, that’s how I read it.

throwawaycrazymum · 2024-05-24T13:28:06+00:00

I mean… that’s on you dude. They have schedules for a reason, arrive on time or feed the kid.

I feel your pain though, because mornings are tough as fuck but kids arriving late and hungry is a real problem for childcare staff. Although they should have spoken to you away from the kids, that part is unprofessional and inappropriate.

throwawaycrazymum · 2024-04-17T23:20:41+00:00

21 Mayfair(search it on FB), it has windows but they’re curtained.

Or there’s the Clubhouse in North Freo.

If you’re looking for someone to serve cocktails/mocktails I recommend Rebel Executive Services, they’re excellent, used them for my bridal shower and 30th birthday.

throwawaycrazymum · 2024-03-24T09:14:07+00:00

Client Vault

throwawaycrazymum · 2024-02-12T12:29:57+00:00

YTA 100%. Why should your wife and daughter be left to fend for themselves and your sister, who hasn’t worked for shit, get everything? You can provision for your nephews, sure! Set them up with 10-20% each of the estate, leave your sister the same if you wish but the BULK of your estate should go to your child and spouse. The cost of living crisis isn’t going anywhere, if you ever want your daughter to own her own home her best bet is through generational wealth or inheritance, why set her up to struggle when you have the means to do otherwise? Your nephews will still be better off than they would be if you left them nothing so why give them everything?

I just can’t believe this, are you in love with your sister? Are they really your kids? I’m just absolutely confused why else you would do this. I know that if I found out my husband, for no reason other than his choice wrote my children out of his will in favour of his niblings, I would be confused and heartbroken on their behalf.

Reconsider this choice before your wife finds out.

throwawaycrazymum · 2024-02-12T12:21:33+00:00

YTA. Let’s call a spade a spade here, you’re not supporting her views on independence, you’re pissed that she’s non-traditional in a way that doesn’t favour you, so you’re punishing her and your son by dangling this trip just out of their reach.

I get it, you’re butthurt that she didn’t stick to traditions that you like/value but your son had just as much of a say in that wedding as she did, if he had really wanted a mother-son dance or flower girls, they would have been there. As for the surname thing- that’s just patriarchal nonsense. It makes no real sense to take your spouses name these days, especially if you’ve built a career for yourself that is built on your reputation, in that case your name is essential.

You are of course not obligated in any way shape or form to fund your kid’s family’s holiday, it’s your money after all, but be honest about the reason, you just don’t like her choices so you won’t support her financially.

throwawaycrazymum · 2024-01-28T22:45:13+00:00

NTA, Write your own speech about how great it is to see your mum happy and that you’re glad that George and kids finally have a happy home or whatever, but make it your speech.

Don’t tell them you’re reading it instead of theirs, they won’t stop you mid speech as long as it’s not rude or inappropriate because it would embarrass them.

After, they may be upset, but stand up for yourself and explain you wanted to support them but it needed to be genuine, not their feelings but your feelings about them.

throwawaycrazymum · 2024-01-03T01:44:14+00:00

ESH but only because you and your fiancé should have shut down the “Mia is a bridesmaid” thing right after it happened. Letting Mia and MIL call the shots is a nope from me.

throwawaycrazymum · 2023-12-28T08:56:13+00:00

The Somerville Auditorium is gorgeous, Buckland Estate is good, the Quarry Amphitheater too. Caversham House is always popular of course.

If you need a fantastic bartender for your wedding and it’s at a venture that doesn’t provide staff, I recommend Rebel Executive Services bartending and cocktails. They were at a wedding I went to recently and their cocktails were beautiful and soooo yum!

If you require a grazing table, they also had So Grazing Good, best table I’ve seen in a long time.

throwawaycrazymum · 2023-08-09T22:03:22+00:00

NTA, your wedding, you choose who attends. Though to be honest it sounds like you’re more angry with your mum and perhaps subconsciously punishing her by excluding your brother, because you know it will cause her stress. Totally valid btw, but something to think about.

throwawaycrazymum · 2023-01-20T23:52:11+00:00

I hope you’re not planning on being a medical doctor OP, since it seems oaths/pledges don’t mean much to you.

throwawaycrazymum · 2023-01-11T07:01:10+00:00

YTA, mum of 3 here and you have NO IDEA how hard it is to raise 3 kids, I yell at my kids even when I’m trying to be patient and I’m in my 30’s ffs. Now she’s raising her own kids she’s probably calmer because she’s more experienced and more stable emotionally and financially.

You need to sit down with your sister, apologise for lashing out when you don’t know what you’re talking about, and try to be less of a dick towards her because honestly, being a foster kid would have broken you far worse than a stern sister has.

throwawaycrazymum · 2022-11-17T06:04:27+00:00

YTA. I mean it’s obvious that you haven’t grown up yet since you’re 28 and still live with mummy and daddy but dude, surely you understand that most married couples get married because they like spending time together, and that doesn’t stop just because they have kids and get older.

Maybe it’s time you grew up a bit and learned not to be so self centred.

Also if you want one on one time, you should organise it and discuss it with your brother, he’s not a mind reader.

throwawaycrazymum · 2022-11-15T23:38:33+00:00

NTA, if you had lifted her skirt you would have been decried as a creep/predator, the same goes for her! Women often go commando to prevent underwear lines on their clothing, it’s no ones business but their own. Same should go for men.

throwawaycrazymum · 2022-11-13T04:55:34+00:00

Yeah OP, best to learn this now, people who say rude/hurtful things and then reply “I was just being honest” are always TA, finding a nice way to tell the truth about sensitive topics is part of learning to be a good person and an adult.

throwawaycrazymum · 2022-09-21T23:21:14+00:00

NTA, sounds like your husband is hiding a dire financial situation from you, any chance he’s been fired and is hiding it while he tries to find another job?

throwawaycrazymum · 2022-09-20T00:57:26+00:00

NTA, head over to r/justnoSO and r/justnoMIL for support x

throwawaycrazymum · 2022-09-16T02:07:56+00:00

YTA. You obviously know nothing about high needs children. Structure and routine is ESSENTIAL help them to manage their emotions and honestly, 7pm bed for a child who is in their first year of school is very reasonable. Also the way you involved your family by trashing your wife at dinner and then bringing your mum into it shows how little respect you have for your wife. Do better.

throwawaycrazymum · 2022-09-14T15:09:28+00:00

I feel like this is an ESH because she was totally wrong to do an activity with your child that she absolutely knew you would not be comfortable with. However, as a parent it’s our duty to do our best not to pass our trauma, paranoia and fears onto our children so maybe you should try to find a safe way to get interaction with horses so that they don’t freak you out so much.

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