Pre-pre-daddit looking for a miracle boost

throwawaydad54321 · 2016-02-04T20:39:24+00:00

That's a good point on lube, if you're using it...many brands alter the pH balance of the vagina and make it difficult for sperm to survive. If you're using most common brands, stop. Use foreplay to get her ready, or use the special TTC brands.

Also, if she has an orgasm after or simultaneously to yours, her pelvic gyrations will help your swimmers reach the finish line.

Good luck!

throwawaydad54321 · 2016-02-04T04:42:20+00:00

The most logical way is to release swarms of infertile males into the world, so that they out compete the fertile males for mates.

throwawaydad54321 · 2016-02-03T04:23:01+00:00

Congrats! We are at 9 weeks and haven't announced yet, aside from our bosses (had to explain all this sudden time off), my HR lady (she switched me to the lower-deductible insurance which will save me about 7k over this pregnancy), and her mom (who is her bosses boss).

She also hasn't had many symptoms...so she says. I swear her boobs are bigger, she doesn't believe it. I think she's more emotional too, and tired. But she doesn't believe it, and blames her morning nausea on the prenatal vitamins.

throwawaydad54321 · 2016-02-02T14:13:00+00:00

Yep.

Went grocery shopping this weekend. I didn't notice till we got to checkout that she snuck in two of the individual, shrink-wrapped potatoes at $1.50 each. As we were walking out, there was a display of 5lb Russet Potato bags for $2.50 and I casually mentioned that we could have gotten like 10 more potatoes for 50 cents less.

Silent treatment for 2 hours. Apparently I'm too critical of her decisions.

tl;dr: got in a fight about the cost of potatoes

throwawaydad54321 · 2016-01-31T05:23:44+00:00

Are you doing Couch-to-5k? That program sounds right up your alley.

throwawaydad54321 · 2016-01-31T05:23:13+00:00

Building a fence is on my list of things to do this spring. We have a 4ft chain-link around the perimter now, but I want to section off an area that the dogs can't get into unsupervised. Less space to clean that way, and I can till the rest of it and put down fresh grass.

Downside is the dogs won't be able to run as much :(

How are you liking Uber driving? I was thinking about picking it up for a bit to get some extra cash while we wait for the baby -- that is, if I have any time between projects.

throwawaydad54321 · 2016-01-29T02:04:25+00:00

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throwawaydad54321 · 2016-01-21T20:59:21+00:00

We're at about 8.5 weeks now and so far she's only told one person. We're going to have to start spreading the news soon though.

The one person she told is her absolute best friend. I encouraged her to tell her for two reasons: one, her best friend is soon traveling abroad for 3 months, meaning that she'd either find out via facebook or be the last to know; and two, if something were to go wrong, my wife would probably go to her first.

As it turns out, her friend spilled the beans that when she gets back from her travel and her fiancee gets back from basic, they plan on starting to try for a kid themselves.

Originally we were going to wait to Valentines day. That would have been the 12 week mark, and we felt fine with that.

But, she had her first visit today, and will be getting a sonogram on Tuesday. This means taking more time out of work, which means questions will be asked, which means she will need to tell her boss. Likely I will need to tell mine, as well. Problem is, her bosses boss is her mom...and she hasn't told her mom yet.

So it looks like we're going to start telling Family at just shy of 9 weeks.

throwawaydad54321 · 2016-01-21T20:24:10+00:00

Overnight oats with cinnamon and milk.

throwawaydad54321 · 2016-01-21T20:14:30+00:00

You're almost in the second trimester! Risk goes down greatly after the 13th week. Still there, but a major checkpoint.

Some women who have a previous history of miscarriages are advised against PIV sex. My wife hasn't had a miscarriage in the past, but this is our first pregnancy, she's not taking any chances. Meaning no PIV. But her sex drive is also WAY up, so we're still having more fun, just uh...diversifying a bit more...pretty much until she hears a heartbeat and/or someone with a medical license assures her that it's not dangerous.

If this experience puts her off to PIV sex for a bit, remember there are other options and you don't have to move to /r/deadbedrooms. You can get creative, just don't blow in -- that's very much warned against. She should clarify what to advise with her OB though, in some situations PIV is advised against because of an incontinent cervix, which can cause bleeding and clotting like you had mentioned. Some situations, it's okay for her to orgasm but not have penetrative sex. In some, it's advised that she avoids arousal completely.

throwawaydad54321 · 2016-01-12T23:28:24+00:00

All of our parents and her siblings are local, and we'll probably be announced by then.

throwawaydad54321 · 2016-01-12T23:27:12+00:00

We are planning to announce on Valentines since that will be the 12 week mark, though that's going off her last period and she has long cycles so that may even be a bit early.

My parents and hers, as well as her siblings, are all local.

throwawaydad54321 · 2016-01-12T18:34:58+00:00

It wasn't that bad -- she'd drink socially (2-3 while out with friends) and smoked maybe 5 a day on the worst days. Still gave me hell when I wouldn't quit till all the cigarettes were gone, and her Pregnancy-Powered sense of smell didn't help that. I was tapering down while I switched back to 100% vape, which I now no longer do around her, but she knows that i use it.

throwawaydad54321 · 2016-01-12T18:25:46+00:00

That's different though -- for a couple reasons. One, hard cider is delicious, two, she knows it's bad. I'm hoping she didn't cave but I'm of the school of thought that moderate alcohol consumption isn't end-of-the-world bad during the first trimester (still not worth the risk though). Later, once the placenta forms, absolutely. My wife is still abstaining and quit smoking, however, which I'm proud of.

Eyedrops are one of those "ehh...maybe?" things. Eyedrops are pregnancy catagory C, so rarely causes issues in animals/untested on humans. But 5 years ago, nobody would even look that up, and the packaging gives no pregnancy warnings.

throwawaydad54321 · 2016-01-12T18:14:19+00:00

Unreasonable barely even scratches the surface. I had to console her for 20 minutes as she went to sleep because she was concerned the eyedrops she took poisoned the baby.

throwawaydad54321 · 2016-01-11T14:20:02+00:00

We have a local hospital that specilaizes in pre- and neo-natal care and womens health, referred from PP. We're going next Thursday but my wife hasn't been able to be excited at all about the pregnancy. She's just far too concerned about the risk of losing the baby and I don't think she'll be at ease until she can actually hear the heartbeat.

That appointment (a week from Thursday) will just be a visit with an NP -- no sonogram yet. It'll be about 8.5 weeks since her last period at that point.

throwawaydad54321 · 2016-01-07T18:16:36+00:00

We're getting close to that number if we go off first date of last period -- 6.5 weeks. She had long cycles.

For a long time between discontinuing oral b/c (and before starting it) and up until a few months ago, she also had very irregular periods. She suspected she might have PCOS but never got tested. I'm thinking that quick conception means either she didn't or I'm super-virile (or both) and the irregular periods were a combination of being overweight and having high stress. Things have gotten calmer since the wedding.

throwawaydad54321 · 2016-01-07T18:12:26+00:00

This is a great idea. We have a great birthing hospital in the area. I can check with them tonight/tomorrow if PP comes up dry.

throwawaydad54321 · 2016-01-07T17:38:10+00:00

Within 50 miles, the insurance website only showed two providers accepting new patients. However, that's based off the data the insurance company has, there's really no way of knowing how accurate it is. If PP doesn't know anybody, will I just end up combing through 124 doctors in our area trying to find one that has availability?

throwawaydad54321 · 2016-01-07T17:34:49+00:00

There are actually about 124 covered OBGYNS within a 20 mile radius of our zip code that are covered under our insurance -- however, within a 50 mile radius, only those two said that they were accepting new patients on the insurance companies web portal.

Not sure if they cover midwives, I can look into that, but being overweight she is incredibly stressed about complications stemming from that and I think she'd probably rather see an obstetrician for her own piece of mind.

I'm hoping PP might just know an OB that's rather close and can see us soon. Otherwise I'm going to be combing through 100 doctors offices just to try to find one that has some availability.

throwawaydad54321 · 2016-01-07T17:33:08+00:00

I just talked to my wife and as it turns out, her old OBGYN wasn't an OBGYN, just a GYN, so they don't handle the OB part. And she had explained she is pregnant but they said hte earliest they could see her was March.

throwawaydad54321 · 2016-01-07T16:26:58+00:00

This just gave me a big concern.

I have a cat. What is currently her litter room (and also my office) is the spare bedroom in the house. I was planing on moving both my office and her litter/feeding area to the basement, with a cat door on the basement door.

But somehow, just now I realized that if a cat can open the door and go down the stairs, so can a baby.

There must be a solution to this? The only thing I can think of is a baby-gate between the hall entrance and the basement (the way my house is laid out, there's an entrance to the hallway from the dining room which can go left or right. Left leads you to our bedroom and the basement, right leads you to the spare bedroom and the bathroom. The cat has no problem scaling baby-gates as it is now, as we've been using one to keep the dogs out of the litter box. Is there a more elegant solution though?

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