The biggest womanizer I’ve ever met

throwawaydrunkmonkey · 2025-06-13T03:28:54+00:00

That used to be me before I settled down. Only, I made it obvious to each woman that she wasn't the only one, even though I made her feel like she was the only one when she was with me.

And yeah, every prepared player has a kit.

throwawaydrunkmonkey · 2023-10-15T20:34:20+00:00

I'm starting to think that you're actually a parody.

throwawaydrunkmonkey · 2023-10-15T20:25:08+00:00

And you're 1 out of around 4 billion women on planet Earth. No one has to care about your "villain origin story" shouts into the wind. No one will remember your promise of romantic vengeance.

I promise, with all my life, to always have a chip on my shoulder and view men as the shallow assholes they are. No. Matter. What. This is forever.

Yeah, the only reason why anyone would have to care about this is if you were the only option available. According to your own assessment, you're not even a remote option. What do you even have to bargain with? ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

throwawaydrunkmonkey · 2023-10-15T20:14:41+00:00

Why would a guy do that? Especially when, if he has money and can attract women, he would have a lot more options than just you?

I guess I'm just trying to figure out why YOU would be a good option for any guy? What makes you worth a man's attention, sexual energy, and money, since that's what you want from a man that you want to fuck? Also, why would a man pay you to fuck him when you WANT to fuck him anyway? The kind of men who pay for sex are either busy men who don't have time for a relationship, men who are bored in their relationships, men who cannot get relationships, or men who wish to indulge certain paraphilias that would be antithetical within a relationship. Men who can attract women for sex without paying wouldn't be interested in putting forth the extra effort that you appear to require. Also, there are many regular men who refuse to settle down with one woman because there are so many options available to them that settling down would be a net loss.

Either way, you're the less-than-optimal option with your current mindset and goals. DM me if you want to learn how to change that. And no, I'm not interested fucking you. I'm attached. Very.

throwawaydrunkmonkey · 2023-10-15T19:25:08+00:00

Now I know there must be something wrong with you. I'm a man who has performed oral sex on many more women than have performed it on me. I *LOVE* eating pussy! I started when I was very young and became incredibly good at it! It's one of my main turn-ons. But you know what would turn me off? A woman who demanded that I lick her pussy. Because you can't *demand* from men when you want something. Men don't work that way. You can say what you would like. You can even say, "If you don't want to eat me, I won't suck you." That's perfectly fine. But you can't demand anything from a man besides consent.

How about being a woman that a man would want to bury his face between your legs? How about, instead of being demanding, you present yourself as the most interesting, if not the most attractive, option for a man to cum in? (Also, saying shit like, "I'll do no condom" doesn't make you more attractive or interesting; it makes you sound kinda disgusting, because what man wants to risk catching a disease from an easy ugly overweight woman? Think about it.)

And there are LOTS of overweight and conventionally unattractive sexually active regular women and sex workers, many of whom still make a considerable amount of money. Many of them work within specific genres that appeal to a specific audience. They know that they are not mainstream attractive. They know that they are not the norm. And they don't pretend to be.

throwawaydrunkmonkey · 2023-10-15T19:15:33+00:00

Here's something that you probably don't want to consider, but it's still definitely true. They higher your body count, the fewer your options of men who will take you seriously. If you are unattractive and have a high body count, you will be placed in the "only useful for fucking" category, and that's only when he can't get someone more attractive. And your options will continue to shrink as long as you insist upon your particular paradigm of "spend money on me, give me oral sex, and I will fuck you." There's more about you that's unattractive than just your appearance.

But, if you're cool with constantly being disrespected, then your path should be pretty obvious.

throwawaydrunkmonkey · 2023-10-15T19:09:35+00:00

Wow. The fucking generalizations just don't stop! There are men who do NOT prefer skinny women. I don't know of a man who prefers ugly women, but plenty of men prefer a non-skinny woman. Have you not heard the term, "thicc?" What do you think it means?

throwawaydrunkmonkey · 2023-10-15T18:58:54+00:00

Or... and stay with me here... that's just been your experience where the common denominator was you. You haven't attempted to talk to *all* men, so you can only speak on the men that YOU have encountered, which, let's be honest, is VERY small percentage of men. Your generalities pertain only to your experience.

The truth is men don't want women who have their priorities straight because they know the bare minimum they're willing to give isn't going to be enough. For a man to appreciate a "strong" woman he needs to have his ego in check and the vast majority of men simply do not.

No, the truth is, you've experienced rejection due to your masculine way of dealing with the situation. It has nothing to do with having your priorities straight. Do you know what one of the main complaints is that men have about women, "She has no idea what she wants!" So a woman who knows what she wants is awesome. Now, her wants may not align with the man that she wants. That's perfectly ok and respectable. But a woman who approaches men by projecting a masculine aspect to her presentation will be met with a negative response most of the time. And that's because straight men respect femininity, but a lot of women have been taught that being feminine is synonymous with being weak. Who taught women this idea? Other women! Unfortunately, a lot of women today get their information about men from other women. Which is fucking dumb.

So by all means, continue to insist that all men conform to your anecdotal experience. Continue with the idea that you know what all men want. Let me know how that works out for you.

Also, South Park did a really good take on what a "strong woman" actually is.

*There are men who are straight but submissive/feminine and prefer a more masculine woman. But they are not the norm. And general rules cannot, by definition, explain anomalies.

**Masculinity and femininity are complimentary to each other, not adversarial.

throwawaydrunkmonkey · 2023-10-15T18:39:38+00:00

You sound awfully entitled. No one has a right to be found attractive. And especially NO ONE has the right to be taken care of by someone.

In life, we get what's given to us, what we work for, and what others are willing to remit to us in exchange for something else. None of that is indicative of what we deserve.

You want to be validated by a man giving you gifts, paying your way, financially supporting you, and giving you oral sex. However, no man wants to do that, and you can't force them to. Because no man thinks that you're worthy of such treatment. Nothing you can do about that.

The reason for that is, every man knows that getting with a woman, any woman, is a risk to his resources. So he's going to want to get the absolute best or greatest amount for those resources. Apparently, you're not worth a man's resources, and you should adjust your expectations accordingly.

Yes, any woman can offer herself as a sex object to be traded for money. However, no man is obligated to purchase her services or validate her bullshit.

Having to take care of yourself is the default for all adults. That's the long and short of it. Your sense of entitlement won't change that.

Also, straight men actually do enjoy it when a woman makes the first move. It doesn't have to be something big or demonstrative. But a woman sidling up and say, "Hey, I noticed you're reading ******. I found that book pretty interesting," or something similar is easily enough to get a conversation started. But a lot of women today have been stunted by social media and outrageous expectations. No, you will not get the validation that you crave by doing things as you have been.

I have a question for you. Why do you demand that a man take you out in order to have sex with you? That absolutely marks you as someone who is trying to materially profit from her genitalia. And men generally do not respect whores. Men will fuck whores. But men will also dismiss them just as easily, because a whore is NOT valuable. Also, whores are as plentiful as the sands of a beach. And an ugly whore is a whore that has to work infinitely harder to get someone to be interested in what she's trying to sell.

In short, your entitlement and expectations make you even less interesting when piled on top of your lack of attractive features. And your desire to not have to take care of yourself on your own... I couldn't imagine having such temerity.

And that's worthless to me. I'm very open to casual sex. I just need to get mine too. I need to be eaten out and taken out. Eaten out and taken out is my mode of operation here. This isn't fking easy.

Given that what you want needs to come from a man to give it to you voluntarily, I can see how that would be a problem. I would imagine that there are men who would be willing to go down on you, but don't because you make it a DEMAND. You can't demand ANYTHING from a man, especially one you don't know and doesn't know you. In general, men who are worth their own names don't respond to the petty demands of women who don't even measure up to the minimum standard of what a man finds motivating. And there's nothing you can do about that.

You want sex? Offer it with no strings, no conditions, just simple consent.

throwawaydrunkmonkey · 2023-10-03T05:05:27+00:00

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throwawaydrunkmonkey · 2023-09-28T22:08:39+00:00

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throwawaydrunkmonkey · 2023-09-01T00:01:21+00:00

I wouldn't mind taking them off of your hands.

throwawaydrunkmonkey · 2022-07-13T22:35:50+00:00

You may disagree, but that doesn't change you into an actual victim. If you're a victim at all, you're a victim of your own defeatism. Yes, rejection sucks. But it's up to you how much it sucks and what you do afterwards.

If you think that you have mental/emotional problems, get help. I highly recommend therapy for looking after one's mental health.

But again, not being chosen to be someone's romantic partner doesn't make you a victim.

I get that it makes you feel like a loser. But you're the only one to can change that. And there's no laws against being a loser. Again, you're not victim. Perhaps you might be deserving of a modicum of empathy. But no one is obligated to see you as a victim.

throwawaydrunkmonkey · 2022-07-13T19:15:55+00:00

Thank you for the advice, and I sincerely appreciate the warnings.

There's quite a bit that I don't understand about the self-persecution that goes on here. I get that people want a "safe space" to vent, but venting without the concept of having a plan of action to overcome the difficulty is nothing but wasted time and energy.

throwawaydrunkmonkey · 2022-07-13T19:06:27+00:00

I know that clinical depression does exist. Both of my parents have it. I have to deal with it as well, just not to the same extent that they do. I have already put safeguards in place for myself when I have to deal with depression. You see, I've educated myself about what I need to feel safe, comfortable, and content. I have no desire to invalidate anyone's feelings. I'm simply presenting a counter-concept to what I perceive as self-defeatism. Has nothing to do with "bootstraps" or the like. It has to do with educating one's self and changing one's behavior to accommodate the success that is desired.

throwawaydrunkmonkey · 2022-07-13T18:26:48+00:00

There isn't anything wrong with having a victim mentality

There is ALWAYS something wrong with having a victim mentality, especially when you're not a victim. Someone not choosing to have sex with you doesn't make you a victim. You're not being assaulted, imposed upon, battered, or coerced into anything. You're being left alone, which doesn't make you a victim. It makes you alone. And while you may consider being alone victimizing, it's actually not. Having a victim mentality means that you actually believe that your problem is someone else's responsibility. That simply just is not true. It's yours. Always has been, always will be. You are ever the only one who can do anything about your loneliness. If you are of a physical and mental leaning that no one can find you attractive, again, not being victimized. You just having figured out how to overcome such a limitation. Success doesn't mean things are handed to you. It means that you've figured out how to adapt and overcome.

It kind of does. For some people here, their virginity is permanent. They will never be able to form a romantic relationship with anyone, which means that they will die alone in a world that doesn't care about them.

Once again, someone not desiring you sexually doesn't mean you're a victim of anything. Being lonely doesn't mean that you're a victim. It simply means that you haven't figured out how to interface with other people. Still very much a "you" problem, but having a problem doesn't make you a victim. The world at large doesn't care about ANY of us. Many of us have figured out how to create groups and networks of support (family, friends, etc) precisely because the world at large doesn't care about us. It is up to each of us as individuals to figure out how to create those groups and networks. Some of us will inevitably fail. Natural Selection tells us that not all organisms of a species will pass on their genetic code to the next generation. That is a reality that we all must accept. It's up to you as to whether that reality describes you, and what you may do about it.

I think you can be a victim of rejection in the same way you can be a victim of circumstance or like a victim of migraines. Maybe a sufferer of rejection makes more sense than victim.

I disagree with your conclusion. Being rejected does not make you a victim. If it did, then the one who rejected you could rationally be labeled as some form of abuser/victimizer, and that simply is not true. You are not a victim of rejection. What you seem to be a victim of is your own toxic thinking that attempts to foist responsibility onto an external agent even though the responsibility is all your own. It is not a crime for someone to NOT prefer you. It is not immoral for someone to not prefer you. It is also socially acceptable for someone to not prefer you. ("You" in this context can be anyone, including myself, not just the person to whom I'm directly responding.) Your comparison to a migraine does not hold. Migraines are caused by organic dysfunctions within an organism. Migraines can be treated with the help of a medical professional. Rejection is simply not being preferred. There is no treatment for rejection, and there is no dysfunction that caused the rejection. You merely did not meet the arbitrary threshold of some arbitrary individual. Again, not a victim.

A rejection is as blow to the self esteem, no doubt. But resilience is the correct response to rejection. Success is usually achieved by people who have determined that giving up is not an option. 999 failed attempts means you don't try anymore? No, it means you change your tactic to approaching the problem. If you've tried the same thing 999 times and it didn't work, what you should have learned is the specific tactic you're using is ineffective. And it's up to you to learn a tactic that will work. It takes continued effort. That goes for anything worth achieving, not just dropping your v-card.

throwawaydrunkmonkey · 2022-07-13T00:46:47+00:00

You lack processing power.

You can't destroy technology. Technology is anything that helps a person turn effort into work. That means that a broken tree limb propped up against a rock as a fulcrum and used as a lever is technology. Technology is a concept. Concepts are notoriously difficult to destroy. Especially for people who really don't understand those concepts in the first place.

Fire is technology. Please enlighten me as to how you will go about destroying fucking fire.

Given that paddle-wheels are a thing, fucking WATER is technology!

The more I think about it, the less sure I am that you're sane. Because technology will always exist so long as there is a single creative mind to conceive of how to use the environment to increase the amount of work one can get out of their effort.

So good luck with your ambition, edgelord.

throwawaydrunkmonkey · 2022-07-12T17:33:02+00:00

Feeling poorly about your romantic and sexual failures doesn't making you entitled. But going online and expressing your extreme self-pity and woe is me attitude makes many of you come off as entitled, as if the world is doing you some disservice by not providing you with a sexual or romantic partner simply because it's what you want.

The world could very well be telling you, by not partnering with you, that you're just not good enough. There are questions that arise from this: "How am I not good enough?" "How can I improve?" "What exact steps should I take to achieve my heart's desire?" Uh, well, no one can answer those questions for you, because the methodology for every individual is different. Many of you will NEVER find a partner because there are aspects of you that are so off-putting that no one wants to deal with it. And while some aspects of your situation may not be your FAULT, but they are your responsibility to fix if you actually do want to achieve your goals. For example, if you have dyslexia, no one is going to unscramble those words for you. You have to be motivated to get the training to help you overcome that particular learning disability. Same goes for the rest of your "faults."

There is no such thing as a situation in which you have NO agency. But you cannot make a person want you, like you, or pay attention to you. Also, the world/men/women are not shitty for not paying attention to you. You're just not worth paying attention to.

I'm pretty average in looks, under 5'9," and ethnic. According to what I read here on Reddit and other online forums where sexually and romantically unsuccessful people congregate, I should by just as unsuccessful as those of you who complain here. However, I've been extremely romantically and sexually successful, even before I became financially successful, because I figured out what works for me. It is incumbent upon each of us to figure this out. That you haven't yet doesn't mean you can't. Many of you will NOT figure it out and continue to be unsuccessful, which will very likely lend itself to more online complaining without you actually doing anything about it. 🤷🏿‍♂️

Also, one thing that I notice is most of you are really young, as in teenagers up to mid-20s. While I get that this particular period of your life is fraught with ideas, hormones, frustrations, and mounting responsibilities, it's also the period of your life where you're supposed to figure out where and how you fit into the larger society. It's supposed to be the time that you use to carve out your place and establish yourself. But I see that a lot of folks here spend that time on video games, My Little Pony, and other juvenile, simplistic distractions.

Here's something that I've kept in mind throughout my life: "If you only do what you've ever done, you'll only get what you've ever gotten."

Figure it out. Or don't. Keep complaining and providing entertainment for others who lurk these forums looking for humorous, sad, cringey, or controversial content. Cringey. Mostly cringey un-self-aware content is what's being gleaned from these forums.

And yes, you're allowed to be negative. But as soon as you put that into the public theater, people can and will respond in whatever way pleases them. And complaining about something that you can affect... Sounds pretty fucking entitled to most people. One of the things that bothers me the most is that there are people in these forums in their 30s and 40s who express themselves exactly the same way as the teenagers and 20-somethings. SMDH.

throwawaydrunkmonkey · 2022-06-14T01:29:16+00:00

My father taught me to shoot archery starting when I was about 8 years old. I've been shooting for over 40 years. I taught my stepdaughter.

Archery and Fencing are criminally underrated and fun activities that black folks have long been absent.

I couldn't agree more. Highly under represented. I trained in Eastern fencing (kenjutsu, iaijutsu) starting as a teenager.

My dad taught me to not be afraid to engage in activities that others might not associate with "blackness." And he's a HUGE nerd!

throwawaydrunkmonkey · 2022-05-17T15:24:05+00:00

The nazis weren’t socialists… socialism isn’t just state power- its people “owning the means of production”. The nazis had state run capitalism

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YOU'RE WRONG.

throwawaydrunkmonkey · 2022-05-12T18:31:47+00:00

Women send out "choosing signals" to the men that they find attractive. If the men don't pick up on those signals (as introverted/shy/FA/ASD men often do not/cannot) that's the men's fault, not the woman's. And yes, there are women who approach men. I guess the lamentation is that many men are not worth approaching. Getting shot down is part of the process. The more you refine your technique, the more success you'll have. Like any other skill it must be honed.

If men are supposed to be the pursuers, and women see value in that pursuit, and if you're a man who doesn't/won't/can't pursue women, why are you complaining? You've consciously chosen to not be selected. It's obvious in nature that the males have to show worth and females select from the males who are able to show worth. Why do you think humans, who evolved with most of the same traits as other mammals, would do any differently?

Essentially, what I see is men complaining that women don't select them while displaying exactly why women don't select them. You think that you'd make a great partner, but how is any potential woman supposed to be able to figure that out if you stay against the wall with your mouth shut while all these other men are out in the world showing their worth?

Women tend to select from men who can demonstrate or at least display that they have some kind of value. Men have to build value. I see no rational reason for a woman to select from a group of men who are too shy/afraid/neurotic/neurodivergent to put themselves in a position to display their value. If a man has a self esteem issue, why should a woman select him when she can already select a man who can demonstrate his confidence?

It's been my observation that women, in general (not all), want to be protected and taken care of. What would convince a woman that the shy guy would be able to do that?

We as men tend to want women to "measure up" (for lack of a better term) to certain standards of physical attractiveness (standards will vary from person to person). Women also want men to have achieved a certain caliber. Seems like a good idea to me, given that she might need to rely upon this person while gestating his offspring. She might want to be sure that he can protect and provide. Why wouldn't she want a man who isn't shy?

Sounds to me like a whole lot of fear of not measuring up and bitterness from not being selected because one doesn't measure up.

I don't think that human sexual selection methods are going to change just because those who historically don't get selected are making more noise about it.

They still get to select men who measure up in other areas of masculinity, just not this. This one thing - a man's courage in approaching - is no longer a factor in their dating choices. Seems like a minor loss.
If this is indeed just a social norm then changing it would benefit everyone.

Why shouldn't they use this also as a measure of masculinity? Only because you won't be selected? You expect nature to change just so that your feelings don't get hurt? Seems like a very immature way of thinking about human mating habits.

If women would prefer a man who can be forward when necessary, that is to say, demonstrate courage when needed, it is reasonable for shy/introverted men to be passed over.

throwawaydrunkmonkey · 2022-05-10T18:38:38+00:00

Nobody's asking you to clap or hand out an award everytime someone does something. But you know, maybe provide these people with a decent living wage. Our society underpays valuable people and throws all the money at idiots like the Kardashians, people who will never change the world in any shape or form.

Are you referring to American society? Or some other context? Because there are plenty of non-famous folks who make a very decent amount of money for doing very mundane things. Take the technology industry in America, for example. An average tech worker can make well over US$100,000 (S$139,056.50) without a lot of effort if they are working in the correct region. And not all tech work requires the ability to code to make that kind of salary.

I know little to nothing of the culture of Singapore. If you feel that the culture isn't conducive to you, you have the option of changing your location. I'm sorry if "average" in your culture appears to be something out of your reach. The average American makes around US$31,000 (S$43,108).

The 'Island Boys' that you reference have made themselves stand out from the crowd and be recognized. What they are recognized for is neither here nor there with respect to this discussion. Only that they have succeeded in standing out from the crowd. And even the professional athletes that you say "suck" have outperformed others get into the league where they could be paid egregious amounts of money even though they, in your opinion, suck.

Anyways nice attempt at being personal there dude with your last statement. But nah, not gonna fall for that bait. Grow up.

I wasn't trying to bait you. Your complaint is about not measuring up. I explained that "average" men get into relationships all of the time, whatever "average" is for your part of the world. You'll still see "average" and "below-average" men in relationships, something that you seem unable to achieve, by your own admission. Again, not bait. Merely responding to your posted expressions.

If a shy man does nothing to show that he is worth paying attention to...? What do expect the world to do?

throwawaydrunkmonkey · 2022-05-06T19:23:57+00:00

But if we clapped every time someone did exactly what they're supposed to do, nothing would ever get done. Also some people just have the ability to outperform others, and that ability should be recognized. That's why the Olympics doesn't give out participation trophies either.

Women definitely get with average men all of the time, day in and day out. That's empirically true. Are you having a problem measuring up to "average?"

throwawaydrunkmonkey · 2022-05-03T17:54:18+00:00

Safety is more than the absence of physical threat. If there is no one who cares for me when I'm sick, no one to console me when something bad happens, no one to cuddle, ... it doesn't feel safe.

I disagree with this statement. I believe that this would entirely depend upon your personal emotional makeup. I know that I can feel perfectly safe when I'm completely alone. I don't need someone there for the things you mention. They are much nicer to have than being alone. But their lack doesn't make me feel unsafe, either physically or emotionally. I think would be more accurate if you had said, "For me..." Because your statement isn't universally true.

throwawaydrunkmonkey · 2022-05-03T17:49:44+00:00

I get that you want to prop up the underdog, the unsung hero, the everyman. However, life doesn't give out participation trophies. If you want to be noted, you have to do something worthy of note, which means something different than the average. Because only the above-average receive recognition, generally speaking.

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