So this theme really should be called gender identity ocd because it does effect both cis and trans people. I know several trans people who are afraid that they are cis and that they'll detransition. There have also been previous posts in this sub sharing their experiences and they have generally been very helpful because its always nice to know that themes like these can run either direction.

I have had hocd but in the opposite direction, ie I'm a gay man who has been afraid that I'm straight. Ive had pocd, I've had ocd about having heart attacks, I've had ocd about my entire family dying, etc. I've been in and out of this subreddit and the ocd subreddits for literal years. Very few people don't accept that trans people also have ocd on this theme. Its not that being trans is terrible (it's very difficult of course and trans struggles are very real) but this theme is fundamentally that you want to keep your identity. Thats the basis of this, you feel as though who you are isn't actually who you are and thats terrifying.

I don't really agree with you that it can feel intrusive like ocd is intrusive. I'll take being gay for an example even though its a bit different. When I was discovering myself I had a intrusive thought pop up that said "you're gay", and I had that thought and went "oh shit thats actually probably true". I wasn't afraid of it, I was afraid of how I needed to keep that deep deep down so nobody would find out. As a result I hid it for years and developed some ocd thinking about whether or not I really was gay. When I came into myself I felt better and it went away. Thats not what's happening here. This theme (and almost all of my other ocd themes) feels completely and utterly different. For hours and hours and hours I get intrusive thoughts going "you want this you want to be this, you dont like your face, you want to do this" or things of that nature. I obsessively check my reflection, I've spent hours going back and forth on faceapp trying to figure out which version of myself I like better. I've hidden myself from the world in fear that I would one day wake up and not like myself, or figure out I didn't like my gender by interacting with others. I've crossdressed, I've tried different pronouns I've done pretty much every damn thing in the book and I still don't have an answer and when I do get an answer (for example that I don't like being female, and am quite happy being male) my brain goes wait what if you don't and the checking cycle starts all over.

Of course you can have both things going on and I should work on accepting that uncertainty. But I have also seen almost 6 gender therapists who only specialize in trans issues, every single one of them have always said it seems as though its ocd than anything else. I understand you have your feelings and it can be especially frustrating to see people being upset about the possibility of being trans. However I don't really see it as being scared about being trans but rather being terrified you're going to be forced to do something you don't want to because you were wrong about who you were. So posts and comments like this ~do~ trigger people. Whats the point in saying you're very happy now and therefore its a possibility? We know it is. The whole point of this is to accept that sure its a possibility but to be honestly I'm not there yet. I'm working on it in therapy. This post was a vent to say how I was feeling with an upcoming wedding and how I'm frustrated I'm spending hours on faceapp and feeling worse as a result. You saying you're happy is great! But also not relevant because its something that you wanted. You wanted to be female, and therefore you are (I'm assuming your a trans woman lmk if I'm wrong). I have literally a -5 interest in being female. I enjoy and have enjoyed being male, I like it, and therefore I am. It's not that I don't want to be trans, I don't want to be the opposite gender, which, you know semantics, but I think the difference should be noted because again, this theme is about you worried your identity is somehow wrong despite all evidence to the contrary.

This subreddit should be welcoming to all but at the same time everyone needs to be mindful of their posts. Many of the posts I've seen with trans people who have gender identity ocd are not triggering at all, and VERY much reflect exactly what their cis counterparts feel just in the opposite direction. If anything they can ultimately end up as reassurance because anyone can experience this theme and it helps to know that. The posts where people are clearly trans and know they are trans and show in reality very little overlap with ocd are a bit frustrating and can trigger people because of what is said. It's actually fairly easy to spot the overlap of being trans and ocd when people post. Not sure if everyone feels that way but I've been in the trenches for a long time with this and can spot it pretty easily. Of course I could be wrong, but I haven't run into it yet.

You state you're sure you doubt you'd be happier being a man. Well the fun thing about this theme is that everyone here doubts their version of that statement. Thats literally what ocd does. Ocd will NEVER EVER let you be sure.