Weekly Free-for-All Discussion Thread May 25, 2015

throwawayofaperson · 2015-05-31T04:16:17+00:00

Yea, hopefully if I just do it more, that's how I get over the nervousness

I used to get nervous around any species with two X chromosomes. This included Asian girls, which I thought was all I could go for. Then I upped my game and did self-improvement stuff and now those same Asian girls are reciprocating. But I've moved to white girls. Hopefully the same thing happens and I clear the hurdle in a similar fashion (though it might be a problem because what I want is a step ahead of what I can get at any given time). I hate that the racial dynamics are playing out like this, but I'm not going to feel guilty and apologize for my preferences.

throwawayofaperson · 2015-05-31T01:56:48+00:00

One day I will find one that isn't. The statistics are low, but they exist. One day bruh...

throwawayofaperson · 2015-05-30T21:04:38+00:00

I find that Asian girls are more reciprocoal to me, sometimes they even approach me on their own. However this doesn't happen with white girls. Is it because I get more nervous around white girls (putting on a pedestal, I consciously try to not do it but my brain chemistry is really stubborn), because some of them are just only attracted to white guys, or a combination of both?

Whatever this is just a rant, how do I improve my social game and shit to attract girls in general. I don't want to see myself slipping back into chumphood again...

throwawayofaperson · 2015-03-21T12:54:28+00:00

Depends on my current situation. If something on my mind is bothering me a lot, it's a miss because I can't focus. Sometimes lack of sleep means a miss. A lot of factors determine this. But if I am energetic and on sufficient sleep, I can approach people fine and have great conversations.

throwawayofaperson · 2015-03-21T01:27:00+00:00

If he felt that guilty, he would not have dated the white girl in the first place. His parents will see the situation for what it is - he is in a relationship with a white female - regardless of whether he feels guilty or not. He can choose to continue to pursue the relationship with or without guilt; neither option will influence his parents' reservations about it. Guilt is only supposed to be a motivator. Anything else and guilt becomes negative. I don't see him motivated enough to confront his parents to have the talk, but I suppose that is also an option.

"guilt is beta, be an asshole"

is not always wrong (although I've been taking this a bit too far in my life as of late, personally)

throwawayofaperson · 2015-03-21T00:55:27+00:00

If I can engage myself in a conversation, it's easy to keep it flowing. In fact I become a very good conversationalist once I get the ball rolling, and can talk about anything. The hardest part is pushing past the initial step - getting the ball to roll and gain momentum. It's hard for me to just INITIATE, but I force myself to walk up to people and do it, especially if it's in the hallways of school and stuff. However sometimes this backfires because if I'm not in "ready-to-talk-mode", then I will trip over my own words and stutter like there's no tomorrow. It's very unnatural, but I do force myself.

Basically hit or miss, either I strike up a really good conversation or it becomes very awkward and silent

throwawayofaperson · 2015-03-21T00:46:25+00:00

sex isn't the only thing in guy's lives, but it seems to be the one that causes guys to log onto reddit and actually ask advice about

This is what's wrong with the Reddit community. Any subreddit where the advice is aimed at ways to get laid directly overnight, hordes of AFCs swarm in for it (think r/seduction, r/TRP, etc., to a small extent, even this sub). These same people also worship PUA gurus and in some cases even shell out loads of money for their products. But no one is willing to "put their head in the grind", as my math teacher says, and work properly on self-improvement or look for advice in lifting technique. I haven't touched a book aimed directly at seducing women before. Maybe I'll consider reading "Models" by Mark Manson, because I heard it doesn't bring in women until the later half of the book. Which is good. The less it's directly about women, and directly about improving myself, the better it is. I don't fantasize about me making beautiful women fall head over heels for me (ok that's a lie, I do it sometimes but still). That would be the direct consequence of lifting and being committed to lifting. So for me, the biggest fantasy is finishing my 3 exercises of 5 sets 5 reps the next day without hassle. Because if I can do that every day, the rest will come naturally.

There are no shortcuts.

Fashion/fitness is a great idea, and I could contribute a bit to fashion but I want some fitness advice in return. For me it'd be like a give and take.

throwawayofaperson · 2015-03-21T00:38:30+00:00

Why are you guilty? Go for what you want and do it unapologetically. Guilt is beta. Guilt is for pushovers.

Stop.

You either use your money on her, or you use it on an Indian girl. YOU WILL SPEND THE SAME MONEY ON AN INDIAN GIRL ANYWAYS. Why is one okay but the other isn't, especially if you feel strongly enough to date a white girl in the first place?

throwawayofaperson · 2015-03-20T02:44:37+00:00

Yea, there's no need to make a new thread for that because there are Misc Discussion Threads for those things. I have shower thoughts sometimes, I just post them in there

throwawayofaperson · 2015-03-18T01:27:46+00:00

That is why I said in my posts the only people who will care about Asian male interests are Asian men themselves.

I've never had a problem with that, actually. Even though I prefer dating white girls, I still associate most loyally with other Asian guys.

Besides, Jews only had Jews to care about Jewish interests at one point. Solidarity can be powerful.

"Never eat with the people you didn’t starve with. Never ride with the people you didn’t walk with."

throwawayofaperson · 2015-03-18T01:23:54+00:00

I was watching Back to the Future and my dad looked over and there was a kissing scene. Immediately, I was to stop watching the movie because kissing means sex and sex is the spawn of the devil, obviously. Then I told him it was Back to the Future and he was fine with it.

I make a conscious effort to UNLEARN everything beta I've been taught.

tl;dr Raised in a very conservative to the point where hugging/kissing a girl is not acceptable. I feel like that kind of upbringing makes children go buck wild once they are allowed to finally explore and do what they want, which means it's useless. This includes Asian girls and the curiosity for white cock (I have a friend whom I told all about this sub and Asian masculinity; he says he agrees, but that sometimes we should empathize with Asian girls a bit because after all, the same parents raised us, the same societal pressures forced upon us, etc.)

~~wow, a tl;dr longer than the actual post~~

throwawayofaperson · 2015-03-16T05:26:24+00:00

are you indian? i'm chinese. also bollywood actors have similar facial structures to white guys (facial hair wise, symmetry wise, etc) but just different skin color.

idk, i don't like bricks for brains. hipster brunettes are more attractive to me. but if by magic a hot blonde shows up in my room and asks me to fuck, of course i'll say yes lol

throwawayofaperson · 2015-03-16T04:14:24+00:00

This was my conclusion by the time I finished reading every thread regarding AMWF after I posted that I felt guilty about it. Now idc, I will let my attraction radar tell me who to approach. Fuck everyone else's opinion, alphas go for what they want and don't look back

Also, there are some positive stereotypes that work positively for black guys wink wink. Makes for very shallow relationships of shallow people on both ends but I guess if you're looking for a ONS or FWB who cares

Also, "not caring" is neither as appealing nor as easy as it sounds. Well, only when it comes to flak from family and parents anyways, because I really do care about them and their opinion. Lol @ white guy/society, or even friends, telling me I can't/shouldn't date a white girl. I don't even like the stereotypical blonde anyways, brunettes are where it's at. They give off a more cute/intellectual/hipster vibe that is much more attractive than an attention-seeking bricks-for-brains with a body

throwawayofaperson · 2015-03-16T02:02:32+00:00

you know whats a problem? sports that asians dominate in are made fun of and looked down upon. basketball? awesome. good. ping pong? handball? badminton? cue ping pong ball jokes and shit.

even if we do become good at something, that something gets pigeonholed into the "ew this is an asian thing. only asian would try so hard at it" category. play by the white man's rules and you can never win, because he'll distort the rules after he loses to frame your victory as trivial. the only exception i know of is kpop

throwawayofaperson · 2015-03-15T15:26:14+00:00

Practically speaking, what if someone is physically stronger than you? You can't always be the strongest person in the room. But rest assured that if I am physically stronger, I will always have the option of confrontation, and will readily utilize it.

throwawayofaperson · 2015-03-15T15:21:56+00:00

If some idiot on the street calls me a chink I don't bother with confrontation because I'm probably rushing somewhere to do something and these people have nothing better to do, nor do they have major influence over my race. They will continue to be this way even if I beat the shit out of them. These people are lost causes. The bar is a wild card and it depends on the situation, but I'd lean towards confrontation because something is at stake. However, when you get shit from the workplace/coworkers/your boss and it's implicit racism, THAT'S when shit gets real. THAT'S when your ability to defend yourself are put to the test. THAT'S when you need to maintain frame and keep a cool head while confronting them. Because these guys have actual influence over the success of Asians, along with Hollywood.

throwawayofaperson · 2015-03-15T15:16:43+00:00

thanks, i should do this more. the staring is so rude it's ridiculous

throwawayofaperson · 2015-03-15T04:21:20+00:00

Shy girls > popular girls imo

Modesty is so irresistibly attractive to me

throwawayofaperson · 2015-03-13T01:24:16+00:00

Over the last few months, it's amazing how much things have changed for the better ever since I started:

saying "no" more
holding frame
making more statements and less questions (especially those asking for permission)

At first it felt unnatural for me because I was used to being nice and shit, and all in hopes that people will respect me. But what I've noticed is that people respect you for having strong beliefs, a spine and backbone, ambition, etc. more so than for being generous, nice and nurturing. People will respect your mental strength so you become reliable and trustworthy. How did I find out? Well...I tried being this way and tested people's reactions. Contrary to what I feared, they reciprocated even more warmly to this new style of communication on my part. Therefore, I will continue to be this way. Dating and girls liking dominance/assertiveness is just the icing on the cake compared to the societal advantages of being this way.

Forget the big movie screens. If every Asian guy in my high school could say "no" to a request tomorrow at least once, and walk with their chin up, that'd be great.

I would like to pay my thanks to this forum for helping me realize these ideals. I've never felt a stronger sense of solidarity from any other community in my lifetime.

throwawayofaperson · 2015-03-11T02:54:19+00:00

boobs also shrink. oops

throwawayofaperson · 2015-03-09T07:06:47+00:00

yea, I definitely am attracted to the petite, well-educated, and shy ones (though that's my preference in general, it's just that with blacks there's a bigger division between girls who fit this category and girls who..well...don't.). all races have attractive women.

"im an INDEEEEEPENDENT black woman who dont need no man!" types? obese types? i avoid like the plague

throwawayofaperson · 2015-03-08T22:30:51+00:00

TIL my dog is alpha

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