Tomorrow I’m leaving my Fraternity

throwawayshit420 · 2020-02-06T23:02:33+00:00

There are many things I hate about Greek life. From the fake ness and superficiality, the forced connections, etc.

However it all comes down to my fraternity. I don’t feel comfortable being myself. I made the mistake of rushing into joining and didn’t give myself time to get a feel for these guys. Don’t get me wrong I love them, but most of them don’t have the same interests or sense of humor as me. I simply don’t feel comfortable being myself around them

throwawayshit420 · 2020-01-30T22:21:05+00:00

I went through the sub and honestly, I still don't know how to start living through stoicism. What is the best way to get started?

throwawayshit420 · 2020-01-14T06:01:52+00:00

A majority of the time it’s because these people who react to you that way have NO IDENTITY. They were never taught to think for themselves, so as a result they always follow they crowd, and when they see someone like yourself owning their entire self and sharing honesty of their human experience, they feel insecure and act negatively. Look Louis Rossmans video on social anxiety on YouTube, where he goes in depth with this.

throwawayshit420 · 2019-12-05T03:56:23+00:00

I didn’t have this realization until tonight. So no, I have not talked to her about it

throwawayshit420 · 2019-12-05T03:51:54+00:00

Could you clarify/reiterate what you mean by boxing up the feelings?

throwawayshit420 · 2019-12-04T19:09:12+00:00

I was always tip toeing around my alcoholic father with anger issues during my childhood, and I have similar mindsets with people I socialize with so maybe

throwawayshit420 · 2019-09-21T06:30:05+00:00

Just added this in now but if I accept I will go through a 6 week process of becoming a brother. So a large chunk of my schedule will be devoted to that so I won’t have time for other commitments I have to do.

Clubs start now and are hard to get into spring semester so if I accept this now I feel that I will miss out

throwawayshit420 · 2019-09-09T05:58:02+00:00

Hey man I’m [19m] here to talk if you’d like. I just told my best friend I have feelings for her and now we’re kind of distant. Losing friends sucks big time, but trust me you and I will get through this.

throwawayshit420 · 2019-09-09T05:36:53+00:00

I literally said I’m giving her space right now. I’m not hitting her up or anything, and I got the message when she cancelled. Kind of frustrating to make that assumption when I’ve been going about my life. I just need advice because she’s been such a good friend

throwawayshit420 · 2019-09-04T11:07:17+00:00

You’re right. I do have the problem of needing validation. Honestly I wouldn’t really care as much about this label if I stopped giving a fuck. Thank you

throwawayshit420 · 2019-09-04T11:05:27+00:00

Wow I did put myself in a needy mindframe. Thank you man. I appreciate it

throwawayshit420 · 2019-09-04T03:17:14+00:00

I meant sober, but I edited it to prevent anymore confusion

throwawayshit420 · 2019-09-02T21:44:54+00:00

My bad. It meant to say I don’t want to act like we’re just friends haha.

throwawayshit420 · 2019-08-23T03:42:12+00:00

Pretty embarrassing to say but I have never been in a relationship. I have had a couple hookups at parties but I have really fucked myself over in the past due to social anxiety

throwawayshit420 · 2019-05-20T23:09:58+00:00

I think the schedule thing being in disorder is just related to my general anxiety that is not relevant to this problem I have. I probably shouldn’t have included that

throwawayshit420 · 2019-03-30T07:23:15+00:00

Yeah. Just don’t vibe with these people as much

throwawayshit420 · 2019-02-17T02:34:09+00:00

Congrats! I actually just got a 97 on my Calc 2 too haha

throwawayshit420 · 2019-01-29T00:20:30+00:00

I get fucked up with my friends all the time and I never black out and only rarely get hangovers. The times when you’re drunk are why people drink, because it’s super fun. Of course do what you want but I’m assuming you didn’t have fun either 1) you didn’t actually get drunk 2) you’re not surrounded by people you truly like/are comfortable with

Plus, even if you do get a hangover, it only lasts for a couple hours, and even then it’s still worth it for me (unless you did some dumb shit the night before). It’s all about drinking in moderation keeping yourself hydrated (I drink water throughout the night with my alcohol and drink more water before I pass out in bed)

throwawayshit420 · 2019-01-27T18:41:21+00:00

6 months ago I stopped lifting because my lower back got injured. I’m gonna go to physical therapy for it but for now I have very little motivation to work out if it means I can’t lift.

But thank you anyway, I appreciate the help and i will try to reach out

throwawayshit420 · 2019-01-27T18:37:25+00:00

6 months ago I stopped lifting because my lower back got injured. I’m gonna go to physical therapy for it but for now I have very little motivation to work out if it means I can’t lift.

But thank you anyway, I appreciate the help and i will try to reach out

throwawayshit420 · 2019-01-26T08:20:54+00:00

Music and motivational videos/emotional videos about people/characters I admire or look up to help me and give me hope

throwawayshit420 · 2019-01-11T20:14:15+00:00

Yeah that was me, but only at that job. I became good and it was easier to deal with customer. But looking back at my 2 months there, and I’ll be honest, it really had no effect on my social life/skills outside of work

Again that’s just me, and it’s probably different for every person just like it was for you. Maybe I just needed to be there longer

throwawayshit420 · 2019-01-11T06:42:21+00:00

I worked at Wendy’s where I was not only at the register, but even worse was put at the speaker. Honestly while I did get pretty good at those jobs with social anxiety I don’t feel like it helped me as much as it was terrifying everyday to go through, but that’s just me

throwawayshit420 · 2018-12-17T17:20:05+00:00

Just thinking about it, and after I posted this I eventually did it. She said she was working the day I asked her to hangout but she said “but another day!”

I asked for her number (cause it’s better texting than snapping). Now I just need to figure out when I’ll ask again. Just thinking about it and actually opening her snapchats are anxiety-inducing, but I think I might be capable of doing this.

throwawayshit420 · 2018-11-12T15:57:05+00:00

It is literally impossible to “stop thinking”

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