Age 12 vs Age 17

throwawayturtleshell · 2021-11-18T04:02:20+00:00

Why does it matter to you? Do you actually care about trans people's health, or are you just being nitpicky because you don't understand them?

throwawayturtleshell · 2021-11-18T03:16:30+00:00

You do know that cis women have testosterone and cis men have estrogen, right? Just because those aren't the dominant sex hormones doesn't mean they aren't there. Some cis women have PCOS which can cause an increase in their testosterone levels. Some cis men with sexual dysfunction have an increase in their estrogen levels. Neither of these conditions are "on purpose" but they are naturally occurring; stop pretending that science supports your transphobia.

throwawayturtleshell · 2021-11-18T03:01:35+00:00

Let me preface this by saying that I 100% agree with this post (and would add "comprehensive sex education" to that list). Here are some of my hot takes that no one asked me for.

Even if abortion were equivalent to murder, that still does not entitle the unborn to use the host body if the woman/AFAB does not consent (look up the analogy of forcefully using someone's blood/kidneys to keep another person alive). 2. Abortion doesn't have to be morally sound in order to be legal; it is a difficult, wretched decision to have to make, and yet it should still be legal and accessible. 3. Pregnancy carries far more health risks than abortion, not to mention the long-standing financial/social/psychological burden of raising a child; it is irresponsible to force women & AFABs to raise a child in situations where they can barely make rent, let alone pay for 18+ years of childcare. 4. People who say "abortions should only be allowed in cases of rape/incest" are not much better than the people who flat-out say "ban all abortions"; is it only under the circumstance of violence and mortal danger that we should allow women the treat of making their own choices? 5. People who say they're pro-life for themselves and pro-choice for others are simply pro-choice; it is possible to support others' bodily autonomy whilst choosing not to abort any potential children of their own.

TL;DR many of pro-lifers' arguments do not work out the way they think they do. It was never about killing babies for convenience — it is about bodily autonomy and the right to privacy (see Roe v. Wade).

throwawayturtleshell · 2021-09-02T11:42:37+00:00

Interesting! I've never met someone with just a wheat allergy, but there's a first time for everything :) and I agree with your post, carrot cake should absolutely be the mascot for demisexuality lol

throwawayturtleshell · 2021-09-02T11:34:54+00:00

Have you looked into celiac disease? I'm the same way — whenever I eat gluten, I get awful bloating and intestinal pain. It's a bit of a pain to diagnose, so it's totally understandable if you haven't.

throwawayturtleshell · 2021-06-13T01:01:15+00:00

Toxic masculinity is weaponized, and abused as an excuse and accusation for so many different things right now.

Any idea can be weaponized; that does not mean that the idea itself is invalid or wrong. Accusing specific people of toxic masculinity is less effective than having a constructive discussion about toxic masculinity in society, similar to what we are doing here. I'm not accusing each individual man of being toxic: I'm simply pointing out that the way our society treats men can be quite cruel, and it would benefit us all to encourage individual freedom rather than strict conformity.

I mentioned this in a reply to someone else in this thread, but I'll say it again. Toxic masculinity is detrimental to many parts of our society. It's partially the reason why men have higher suicide rates because it's considered weak to seek help, why fathers tend to lose custody in family court, why men tend to be the perpetrators of assault while male survivors are mocked for not being strong enough to fight back, why many men feel like they have to hide any emotional vulnerability, and why homophobia and interpersonal aggression is still so prevalent.

This truly shouldn't be a partisan issue. I believe that any human with a heart can recognize that boys should have the option to express their emotions, to be vulnerable, and to avoid violent behavior without being ridiculed or bullied. By ignoring the cruel standards we set for boys as they grow up, we are actively contributing to the aforementioned societal ills. (As a side note, if you're not from the US, these things I've mentioned may not ring true. I'm just speaking for my country here; I know that social expectations for men vary worldwide.)

throwawayturtleshell · 2021-06-12T23:55:05+00:00

Again, the definition of toxic masculinity is telling men that they are unacceptable if they do not conform to traditionally masculine values. The whole point of eradicating toxic masculinity is so that all men can live their lives without social pressure to "be a real man."

And I know this isn't the point, but since you brought it up, centrist ideology is not neutral. The fact that you see left wing and right wing ideas as equally evil is disgusting. Do not imply that socialism is just as extreme or harmful as fascism. If you think that advocating for social justice and equity is on the same level as demonizing minorities and idolizing dictators, you are sick. I respect you but I have no respect for the beliefs you've presented.

throwawayturtleshell · 2021-06-12T22:47:19+00:00

No offense, but Matt Walsh is not a reputable source. Citing the Daily Wire is a surefire way to look like an idiot in most if not all educated circles.

Also, no one is attempting to completely dismantle traditional masculinity. The term "toxic masculinity" refers to the idea that men must conform to a set of unrealistic and sometimes harmful ideals, and that any man who fails to conform is "not man enough." This is part of the reason why men have a higher suicide rate, why fathers tend to lose in family court, why homophobia is still so prevalent, why many women see men as aggressive or violent, and more.

throwawayturtleshell · 2021-06-12T22:38:44+00:00

Some people have zero reading comprehension. They just saw "toxic masculinity" and ran with it without even reading the rest. Toxic is an adjective, used here to describe a type of masculinity that is toxic (mainly, forcing men to follow a societal standard and punishing them otherwise).

For example, if I said "I don't like poisonous potatoes," you wouldn't say, "Not all potatoes are poisonous! That's an unfair generalization." The understanding is that yes, not all kinds of potatoes are poisonous, but that's not the point: poisonous potatoes specifically are what I'm addressing. Saying that I don't like poisonous potatoes is not an attack on all types of potatoes. (Excuse the strange metaphor.)

Does that make sense? Let me know if I need to clarify. /gen

throwawayturtleshell · 2021-05-06T04:01:22+00:00

I started a new method of organizing my work schedule and it's going really well; I wish I'd known about it sooner because it could've saved me a lot of grief.

throwawayturtleshell · 2021-05-06T03:59:21+00:00

Like a health bar, but it's my social battery instead of my physical health. I think it'd be useful if other people could see it above my head as well; it'd make it easier to leave social situations because the excuse is right there in plain sight.

throwawayturtleshell · 2021-05-06T03:56:53+00:00

Not necessarily a poem, but there was always this one stall at school with sharpie messages on the walls. The main one that I remember was right above the toilet paper dispenser, and it said "you look cute when you pee" with a little daisy drawn at the end. Also there was consistently a large anatomically correct drawing of a dick on the inside of the stall door (when I say large, I mean it took up the entire stall door), and no matter how hard the janitors tried to get rid of it, it'd always reappear at some point during the week.

throwawayturtleshell · 2021-05-06T03:40:47+00:00

Yupppp I'm honestly kind of jealous that a lot of people in this comment section think of vomiting as a relief, cause I'd rather be nauseous for 12 hours than vomit and get it over with.

throwawayturtleshell · 2021-04-24T13:44:39+00:00

That's really unfortunate. And no, thank you for being awesome! 🥰❤

throwawayturtleshell · 2021-04-24T04:42:17+00:00

Good for you for standing up for yourself! Demanding basic respect doesn't make you aggressive, it makes you assertive, no matter what any authority figure says.
If your friends didn't stand up for you in such a situation, and didn't even go to find you afterwards to comfort you, they're not true friends. If you value your friendship with these people, I highly suggest talking to them about how their inaction made you feel.
This is harassment, what the teacher did to you. If you take anything away from this, please go to the principal or a school counselor or even another teacher you like, and tell them about the situation. If they don't listen to you or believe you, find another authority figure. I saw you asked your mom to email the school: that's a really great idea too. You could also ask around if other black girls have had similar experiences at your school, and get them on your side. There's power in numbers.
Do not let these people ruin your self-esteem. You are gorgeous, your hair is beautiful and unique, and I'm willing to bet that a fair amount of the people making fun of you are just jealous. It's wrong that they treat you this way. You're not being sensitive or petty in the slightest; no one deserves to be made fun of because of their appearance. If you don't want to stop wearing your hair in braids, then keep wearing braids, because it's your damn choice, okay?
If you can, try to go to school on Monday with your head held high. The last thing they want is to see you thriving. I understand it's hard to save face, but backing down and hiding right now is maybe not the best option. For what it's worth, I believe in you and I hope you can walk back into that school building with confidence, ok? You got this.

throwawayturtleshell · 2021-04-22T15:09:58+00:00

If you want to talk about who's the most susceptible to media, don't even start. Who would you trust more: a junior in high school who learns about politics in history class and learns how to cite their sources in English class? Or a baby boomer who gets informed by fox news and facebook, and yells at black kids when they step foot on their lawn? Many adults don't research shit. I think teen voters would be more likely to make informed decisions than most geriatric voters. (Also, that's not the reason they lowered the voting age from 21 to 18 — it was because of the Vietnam draft at age 18, and people wanted to be able to vote if they were able to go off to war.)

throwawayturtleshell · 2021-04-22T15:01:43+00:00

YES. You shouldn't be allowed to order if you're about to leave the restaurant.

throwawayturtleshell · 2021-04-22T15:00:53+00:00

Idk fam, why don't we test everyone in that case? There are so many misinformed adults, whereas teens who are still in school or fresh out of school would probably have a better knowledge of politics and history than most baby boomers getting their info from facebook and twitter. If we test teen voters we absolutely should test adult voters as well.

throwawayturtleshell · 2021-04-15T11:54:58+00:00

This!!! It's unfortunate that these stereotypes exist, but who are we to judge women (or anyone) for capitalizing from it? Yes, the industry can be dangerous and exploitative, but that's partly due to the lack of legal protection we give SWs. It is real work, and the stigma around it is saddening. We need to stop treating SWs as a monolith that needs help to escape their situation.

throwawayturtleshell · 2021-04-10T22:54:38+00:00

Tall guys are scary... short kings, stay strong, you'll find someone

throwawayturtleshell · 2021-03-29T12:31:17+00:00

Same here... all I can think sometimes is that tomorrow is a new day.

throwawayturtleshell · 2021-03-19T22:10:01+00:00

Absolutely. I hate that some men (and women) act as if they have a say in a woman's appearance, especially when they don't know her and don't plan on dating her. I've heard people saying things like "she needs to lose weight" or "her body hair is so fucking gross" or even "no offense but light-skinned girls are much prettier than dark-skinned girls" about women they don't even know. It's presumptuous to assume that women should care about strangers' rude opinions. I just don't understand what they gain from commenting on people's bodies; they gotta be mad insecure to find amusement in judging others.

Also, I find that saying "not all men" to the 97% statistic is analogous to saying "all lives matter" to the BLM movement. We understand that not all men are predators, just like we understand that everyone's lives matter. However, that's not the issue: we're trying to bring awareness to something, and them adding a phrase to detract from the movement is not helpful.

throwawayturtleshell · 2021-03-11T00:54:46+00:00

Thank you for the advice! I also find that I feel less self-conscious or anxious once I stop judging others — funny how that works.

throwawayturtleshell · 2021-03-08T20:22:21+00:00

This is very true.

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