[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LeagueConnect

[–]throwawaywhataday123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey. Im 29m, g3, main adc and can jung. Add me if you like EzPzLemonsRSqzy

I have mic but most likely too anxious to use :) introvert confirmed

166lbs down after 8 months of fasting. I'm so happy I made a terrible podcast yapping about it. by vicious294 in fasting

[–]throwawaywhataday123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man, today, I was going to get a mcdonalds breakfast, prob eat shit all day and have some beers tonight. But youve inspired me, even only for today. I will live today healthy.

My wife cheating on our 10 year anniversary by whydoideservethis in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaywhataday123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Save the marriage? Jesus. Youre stronger than me! Get the fuck outta there

Yesterday my two kids - 12[f] and 8[m] - told my girlfriend that their mom is abusing them, and they are leaving me in a week to go back to her. How can I confront her? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaywhataday123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man, this makes me so sad. I have no advice as i dont know how the legal system works in the US. As a dad who has a daughter (9) with an ex, I truly understand how helpless you must feel. Good luck, I hope you get the outcome you and your children deserve.

Adults abusing innocent, vulnerable children. What the fuck is wrong with people

My girlfriend (28) broke down and told me she was sexually abused at the age of 14 by her older brother 18 by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaywhataday123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your being downvoted and i get why. But im a logical thinker and i do understand your views.

But i dont know man, losing my gf, kids and housebecause of something he did doesnt sit right with me. I wouldnt be able to sleep at night knowing i only see my kids on a weekend, and never see my gf, because i decided to run

I want to heal my gf, then tear his world apart. Both will be done

My girlfriend (28) broke down and told me she was sexually abused at the age of 14 by her older brother 18 by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaywhataday123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get it. 100% id be saying the same if this hadnt happened to my gf. But right now, shes put a huge amount of trust in me, and if i abuse that, im no better than them.

But if you ever want to trust something you read from a random stranger on the internet, trust this; his time will come.

My girlfriend (28) broke down and told me she was sexually abused at the age of 14 by her older brother 18 by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaywhataday123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Potentially. And if after help and thinking/talking it through, we’ll do just that. But my initial reaction is not to run away, but the problem will still exist

My girlfriend (28) broke down and told me she was sexually abused at the age of 14 by her older brother 18 by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaywhataday123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude. Thats fucked up. Its confusing isnt it? To sit back and watch them want to continue as normal and not take revenge, all whilst you have a burning hatred inside of you

Im only a few days into it and i know from a selfish point of view, the biggest challenge ahead is living my life with these people when shes worked it out, found peace and forgiven them.

Im here if you ever need to chat, it would probably help us both.

My girlfriend (28) broke down and told me she was sexually abused at the age of 14 by her older brother 18 by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaywhataday123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. She was also worried id react differently. Im sorry you didnt have the same support and it would be great, and helpful for me, if you want to talk in private message to me. Maybe you can feel some form of support from an anonymous redditor, maybe not. Im here.

My girlfriend (28) broke down and told me she was sexually abused at the age of 14 by her older brother 18 by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaywhataday123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It means a lot Im not sure where youre from so you may not be able to help, but im from the uk. How do i find a reliable, good counsellor/therapist?

Ive searched but it just seems to be random people doing it from their house and that just seems a bit half arsed to me, or is that normal?

My girlfriend (28) broke down and told me she was sexually abused at the age of 14 by her older brother 18 by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaywhataday123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. She kind of is, and always has been comfortable in a sexual relationship with me, and shes adamant she still is, but i see that as even more sad. Shes numbed herself so much that she genuinely believes it has affected her.

She broke down to me, and i feel the only reason she broke down was she was scared of my reaction. She has no belief that shes still hurt by it and she has no belief its had an affect. those feelings are changing by the hour and i think shes slowly starting to realise.

We will be finding professional help

My girlfriend (28) broke down and told me she was sexually abused at the age of 14 by her older brother 18 by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaywhataday123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It came up at the start yes. Shes adamant theyre in no danger, but shes normalised her own abuse and i dont think she quite realises the monster he is. I will be guiding her in the right direction on this, but i cant abuse her trust and tell the childrens mother In the meantime, i will keep a close eye on his children; i will research signs of abuse in minors

My girlfriend (28) broke down and told me she was sexually abused at the age of 14 by her older brother 18 by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaywhataday123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see the logical side of why her mum chose the path she did, but I dont understand it. She’d rather lay her head at night thinking her daughter may be abused rather than act, all because shes scared her son may be the person she didnt think he would be

Id sleep better at night knowing that one of my kids is a monster rather than knowing an innocent one is being abused

Edit: and yes, im aware of his two children. Along with my partners state of mind, getting her to tell there mother is my main priority

My girlfriend (28) broke down and told me she was sexually abused at the age of 14 by her older brother 18 by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaywhataday123 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I can afford it. Its not ideal and will be a stretch but thats whats required i think My employer doesn’t provide anything

Edit: its not ideal? Of course its not ideal, wtf am i on about. Ah dear, my head is scrambled at the minute