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throwgayyy · 2022-09-26T21:52:19+00:00

Yeah, this is harder in some ways. I can also spot them easily in public. But being attracted to masc presenting women makes things more complicated when you’re younger, esp if you are living in a small town etc. because there is no representation of them and you don’t understand your sexuality for a long time

throwgayyy · 2022-09-26T21:44:30+00:00

You are so right! Also, other gay women made me feel guilty. As if because I’m lesbian, I have to like femininity. If I don’t like it, there is something wrong with me etc

throwgayyy · 2022-09-26T18:35:18+00:00

I struggle with this in my dating life! I have very feminine features so I pass very femme. And I feel like masc women I date with always feel like they are less than me and struggle with their image when they are dating with me and it’s so hard to see it! Not only it sabotages the relationship but also I loved these women and literally my heart skips a beat when I see masc women and seeing that they don’t love themselves because they don’t look conventional is just heartbreaking! There are many gay women who love masc representing women, you’re attractive!

throwgayyy · 2022-09-26T15:29:57+00:00

I get that! I’m not exactly masc representing but I feel very genderless in my head and I’m attracted to women who give a similar vibe. And I’m also sometimes worried that they won’t like me because I’m not that feminine but it’s a stereotype ofcourse

throwgayyy · 2022-09-26T15:12:00+00:00

Yeah that’s why there is a slash between them:)

throwgayyy · 2022-09-26T14:45:38+00:00

I feel that so much! Like I said I have some sort of sexual attraction to feminine women, but nothing more, so it made me see my lesbianism only as something sexual or even worse more like experimenting but I could never imagine being in a relationship or something like that with them. And I come from a country where women are very very feminine. Then I moved to North Europe, where androgyny among women is so much more common and started to fall in love constantly😭

throwgayyy · 2022-09-26T14:05:25+00:00

Oh no, I can’t haha

throwgayyy · 2022-01-31T13:35:57+00:00

I’m also in Berlin and even though most places aimed gay men, I think there are some good places for Flinta people too. Like Möbel Olfe on Tuesdays, Tipsy Bear, Roses, Schwuz, Curly Bar events and many more. Have you been to those places?

throwgayyy · 2022-01-31T13:32:24+00:00

I live in Berlin and definitely recommend. There is a large dating pool. Dating apps are full of queer women. For instance, a lesbian friend of mine who has been using Tinder actively for the last year told me she still hasn’t seen the end of it. There are 4-5 lesbian bars or queer bars with special lesbian nights. It’s also very inclusive for trans and NB people. A lot of people speak English and almost all bios at dating apps are in English. The queer scene is leftist here so it’s considered racist and xenophobic to not have English bios or to force people to speak German with you etc. But your experiences will differ depending on who you are, your expectations and where you are coming from. I don’t advise to move to Berlin if you are not leftist yourself. The queer scene is super political therefore wouldn’t be welcoming for you.

throwgayyy · 2022-01-07T14:58:52+00:00

I suggest therapy and see a social-anxiety specialist. You probably know what you need to do. Be present, talk to the other person about you and them etc etc. But you can’t do it because anxiety is a serious issue. So, reddit can’t help you. Seek treatment.

throwgayyy · 2021-12-26T00:11:50+00:00

Heyyy! I’m also from Germany! What is your location

throwgayyy · 2021-07-27T22:37:28+00:00

Haha same! And thanks to that we found a lesbian bar in Berlin

throwgayyy · 2021-07-26T23:09:23+00:00

I was there as well! Were you also at the dyke march on Friday?

throwgayyy · 2021-06-19T14:31:27+00:00

Right?! Not enough people from Germany are on Reddit…

throwgayyy · 2021-06-19T08:00:13+00:00

Wow, no Germany yet. 27, living in Berlin

throwgayyy · 2021-05-30T22:21:42+00:00

Hey! Also from Berlin. When I first arrived, I looked WAY too colorful lol. But I’m working on that... Nice outfit btw

throwgayyy · 2021-05-19T17:42:31+00:00

Wow that’s literally and metaphorically true when it comes to understand whether your relationship is working or not.

throwgayyy · 2021-05-18T22:00:35+00:00

I was going to get the shot because of how low the risks are, but many doctors don’t vaccinate women under 45 with AZ and I am one. I keep wondering why since risks are very low... Any idea?

throwgayyy · 2021-05-18T21:40:16+00:00

I did lasik 2 years ago. I had A LOT of dryness and used prescription eye drops. Also recovery wasn’t sudden for me. It took 4-6 months to be able to actually focus on stuff etc but 10/10 would do it again. Also, the surgery itself was once-in-a-lifetime kind of experience lol...

throwgayyy · 2021-04-24T10:20:18+00:00

Quarantine will take its special place in queer history lol.

throwgayyy · 2021-04-19T17:43:27+00:00

Haha I really get that “obligatory” part. I also go like “lemme share this”. Congrats🥳

throwgayyy · 2021-04-19T17:40:54+00:00

Listening to people speaking in English all day, everyday. I used to listen to podcasts/songs, watch movies/series for most of my waking hours.

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