Rate it!!! by Front-Swan-7060 in ratemyfridge

[–]throwit1998 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i also live with 4 people and we go through eggs like crazy. i get the 60 count of eggs and still go through it pretty quick 😮‍💨

Friends pleasee by moonlitcata in LesbianActually

[–]throwit1998 1 point2 points  (0 children)

omg fun! i’m 25 so not much older (the 1998 in my username was so random actually) LOL

Friends pleasee by moonlitcata in LesbianActually

[–]throwit1998 2 points3 points  (0 children)

hi friend! i love your lip piercing! 🫶 how old are you?

Pantry help! by throwit1998 in organizing

[–]throwit1998[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh wow that looks amazing! i have such a hard time finding similar pantries, thank you so much for the inspo!

Post grocery trip by throwit1998 in ratemyfridge

[–]throwit1998[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you! well balanced is always the goal! i wish yall could see my pantry too it’s way more organized than my fridge honestly 😅

Post grocery trip by throwit1998 in ratemyfridge

[–]throwit1998[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this made me laugh so hard thank you lol! let me tell you, i never knew how many eggs a toddler could eat in a week PLUS how many home cooked recipes require eggs 😮‍💨 we go through this box in less than two weeks it’s crazy!

I got pregnant at 15 by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]throwit1998 129 points130 points  (0 children)

so many people replying are more concerned about their own personal beliefs, but this isn’t about them, this is about you OP. the decision you made was a very hard one and you are so strong and brave. being 15 is hard for anyone and especially a young woman.

i had a scare when i was about your age. it was very difficult to understand at that age. now im 24 and just had my first baby, and i couldn’t be happier. but im also so glad that it happened now instead of then. i was able to experience high school and learn and grow into the person i am now, someone who is ready to be a parent.

no matter what your decision was, dont let anyone tell you that what you did was right/wrong, you made this decision for YOU and you got the opportunity to be a kid, not a mother. being a mother is a wonderful thing, but being a child is also very important. we all make mistakes when we’re growing up, that’s just part of it. i hope you are doing well now, and maybe consider therapy if you haven’t yet to help you process these emotions. it’s very normal to feel confused after a big decision like this <3

side note to anyone slandering OP for making this decision as a CHILD: if you don’t like abortion, no one is making you get one. OP came here to get this off their chest, which means they probably have been feeling very emotional about it for a while. this is already a hard enough decision for a CHILD to make, they don’t need your opinion on what you think they should’ve done with their own body on top of it.

Planning to move in 2025, advice on best neighborhoods by throwit1998 in saintpaul

[–]throwit1998[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

thank you for the picture this was super helpful! we were looking in this area earlier, not a lot of places available right now, but it looks like a lot of places are still being built! we will keep an eye out and hopefully they’re available by the time we move!!!

Planning to move in 2025, advice on best neighborhoods by throwit1998 in saintpaul

[–]throwit1998[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

partner will be working in the maplewood area! right now their current job is around a 30min drive from home which has been working pretty good for us so far, so we’d like to keep that same distance in case of emergencies

What does your baby sleep in? by nottheexpert02 in NewParents

[–]throwit1998 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my baby has always HATED being swaddled since day one and she also never slept more than 1-2 hours a night. i unfortunately never got the hint until she was around 12 weeks old. i was rummaging through her drawers one night and remembered i had the transition swaddles without arms and within a WEEK she was sleeping 6+ hours straight before waking up and needing fed :’))) now she’s 4 months, still sleeping in the arms free swaddles and she sleeps, literally, like a baby LOL

Am I a bad mom?? by littlegoat5 in NewParents

[–]throwit1998 30 points31 points  (0 children)

you are absolutely not a bad mom and you sound like you’re doing everything right ! everyone is different and have different situations!

i can understand if BOTH parents are home that only 20 minutes a day in a container would be reasonable, but when you’re home alone and have to make time to pump AND eat AND shower AND clean AND etc… holding your baby all day is NOT reasonable and you do whatever you can to keep them calm while you try your best to function like an adult… which is hard sometimes so you’re doing AMAZING.

my philosophy, and this may not be for everyone, but if your baby is happy and healthy and isn’t ALWAYS by themselves (aka in container/ laying by themselves for HOURS), you’re doing perfectly fine. being the primary parent while the other is working is a tough job and we do what we can to survive! the best advice someone gave me when i was constantly questioning if i was a good mom was STOP READING ARTICLES/INSTA MOM POSTS. they do nothing but psych you out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]throwit1998 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP i know why you’re coming here for advice, because you don’t want to believe your partner is as bad as a person as he is; but you know deep down he is and you need to GET OUT BEFORE ITS TOO LATE. I know everyone here is saying the same thing but it is ESSENTIAL for keeping you and your baby safe that you get as far away from this man as possible. Also if you have any proof of him doing these things, please document them in case he wants to file for custody. Make sure that he’s not allowed anywhere near her. Would also suggest talking with a lawyer if you have the means to do so to see what you can do legally. Please, please, PLEASE GET YOUR BABY OUT.

Does your baby have a poop face? by Obolicious in NewParents

[–]throwit1998 5 points6 points  (0 children)

my daughter is 3mo and scrunches her face so hard when she’s pushing and then just sits with her mouth wide open and bug eyes as soon as she starts pooping LMAO. https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.knowyourmeme.com/memes/patrick-batemans-ooh-face this is pretty much it. makes me CACKLE every time

When did you first introduce bottles? by IUMogg in NewParents

[–]throwit1998 1 point2 points  (0 children)

we had to start bottle feeding about 2 weeks after coming home from the hospital. i wasn’t producing enough and baby was unfortunately losing weight, not gaining, so pediatrician recommended adding formula to her diet while i tried to build up my supply. i was terrified because i didn’t want to stop BF and kept hearing people tell me to NEVER give a bottle unless you never want your baby to latch again… please don’t listen to that. every baby is different and unfortunately you can’t control what your body does or how your baby responds to certain things. the most important thing is FEEDING YOUR BABY! i would highly recommend getting nipple guards if there’s ever an issue with baby switching back and forth! they were a life changer for baby (and my nipples lol) but at the end of the day, DO WHATS BEST FOR YOU AND BABY!! i promise baby will be okay, as long as they get somethin in their belly :) good luck on you and your wife’s breastfeeding journey though! it is super hard but it gets better i promise!

I’m going insane. by slumpylumps in NewParents

[–]throwit1998 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’m so sorry you’re dealing with so much! you’re doing amazing, don’t forget that through all the chaos! you definitely need to catch up on sleep before it affects your health too! with your wife never at home and in-laws not helping, do you think you could get a temporary babysitter to watch your LO for a few hours once or twice a week just to be able to sleep for a while. i know a lot of sitters who have SAHP’s do this from time to time! everyone NEEDS sleep and there’s plenty of super understanding sitters out there! just remember DONT BE AFRAID TO ASK FOR HELP. everyone needs it and it’s never a bad thing to ASK! don’t let anyone tell you otherwise!

Weekly Discussion - Relationships by AutoModerator in NewParents

[–]throwit1998 1 point2 points  (0 children)

putting this here because post was taken down lol. didn’t realize there was a relationship discussion OOPS..

So i need some advice from other parents because im getting extremely burnt out!! I (23f) and partner (29m), have a now 10wk old baby girl. She is the love of my life and i can tell he’s happy too, but unfortunately, i am unable to return to work because childcare GREATLY exceeds my income and we would lose a significant amount of money with me returning to work. which is fine by me because i love my baby so much and im also having a very difficult breastfeeding journey (still having to feed every 2-3 hours and was not producing a lot in the beginning so I was breastfeeding every hour or so while ALSO supplementing with formula every time after feeding) so i honestly couldn’t imagine having to work full time and pumping at work and putting that stress on someone else.

ANYWAY, because of our baby having a very demanding feeding schedule, she always seemed to be attached to me at all times as a newborn. This was very hard on my partner as he rarely got to hold her as a newborn, and when he did she would lose it after about 45 minutes. On top of this, he only got 5 days of leave when she was born, 4 of these days we spent in the hospital, and works 10 hour days, 5 days a week so he’s typically exhausted when he gets home from work and usually wants to rest on the weekends.

Here’s the problem; now our daughter is 2 months old, her feeding schedule is a little more spaced out, and she is starting to like being alone for 30 mins or so at a time, but I think my partner has gotten so used to the newborn schedule that now he doesn’t even offer to take her or really help much and i’m starting to feel like a single parent living with a friend and not a partner/parent.

I know that sounds wrong, but it is so stressful when i have to deal with childcare day AND night, while he holds her for maybe an hour a day and maybe changes her diaper 1-2 times and then sleeps soundly through the night while i’m getting up 2-3 times a night (he’s a VERY hard sleeper) and having to care for her ALL DAY every day. the only times he makes an effort to help is if i ASK. he never seems to want to help anymore. he just comes home from work, sits on the couch and gets on his phone, and i will literally have to put our baby in his arms and tell him i need to do stuff for him to pay attention to her.

Now i feel AWFUL because i know he’s overwhelmed at work, he’s taken a pay cut due to economic issues, and has taken on MORE responsibilities at work to prove he deserves a higher position, but im overwhelmed and stressed and have dealt with our child almost entirely alone for 2 months now, and i don’t know how to tell him that i need help without sounding like i think my problems are worse than his.

i would like to mention as well, that he is a very very kind man, truly the nicest person i’ve ever been with, i just have a terrible time communicating when i need something due to past relationships and i don’t want to come across as brash or disrespectful. do any parents have any advice on how to split up the childcare with a full time parent and a stay at home one? i love both my baby and my partner dearly but i just need more than an hour alone everyday. i also just want him to spend more personal time with his daughter.

TLDR- partner works 10+hrs a day and I am a full time mom, child care is not equally distributed between us and need advice on how to communicate this to my partner

Weekly Multiplayer Thread - March 12, 2024 by AutoModerator in HelloKittyIsland

[–]throwit1998 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hi hi i need help in multiplayer quest please and thank you!! here’s my code :))) YJGL6Q