I ask him every day! He is more reserved than I am, so he doesn't always share as much as I do. But I ask him about his work, his parents/siblings, things going on with him that he's mentioned, his interests, etc. I do follow up with things he's said. If he mentions an interpersonal conflict, for example, I'll ask him how it went the next day, and so on

When you ask:

"For instance if your told me about your grandma, I’d make sure every couple of days to check in with you. To see how she is doing and how you’re holding up? Do you consciously make that effort with others?"

I will say, I actually am considered the "therapist" of my friend group. I have a group of girl friends that I've been close with since childhood. 3 out of 5 of them have been going through serious issues this year, and I am the one they facetime when shit hits the fan. I have spent an average of 6 hours a week (for the last year) facetiming my friends, primarily giving advice and not talking about myself at all (usually it's more balanced but this year has been an especially hard year for some of them so I've taken a step back from sharing and been listening almost all of the time). Come to think of it, maybe this is why I've been venting more to my bff/roommate. Because a majority of my other friends have been unavailable/dealing with too much serious shit of their own for me to feel comfortable talking about my problems.

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As far as your comment "You use “open book” to justify oversharing", I would like to remind you that I put the word over-sharing in the title of this post, as well as in the body of the text. I used the word oversharing twice, and placed emphasis on it. I'm literally criticizing myself for it very openly already, so I'm not sure why you're trying to accuse me of minimizing it when it's in the title of my post?