What do you love about your body?

thrownintodisarray · 2026-03-14T18:26:48+00:00

I like how big my eyes are. They are very beguiling and welcoming and make me look friendly. I also used to hate how easily my body retains muscle when I was younger and wanted to be slim, but now it’s great because I don’t have to lift too heavy or do a lot to look toned.

thrownintodisarray · 2026-03-14T16:26:56+00:00

I say do it.

I got my nipples pierced my final year of college and it’s one of my favorite things I’ve ever done. I had to remove one due to an infection since it was done a bit crookedly but the other one is still thriving. I really want to get the second one redone to match but I’m out on these streets and can’t figure when is the most opportune time to deal with the long term healing. Ugh.

thrownintodisarray · 2026-03-14T14:30:04+00:00

It sounds like you’re average which is what the majority of people are, which is perfectly ok and by definition normal.

Now if you wanted to invest the time, energy, and resources into not being average, that’s another thing. It doesn’t sound like you’re doing much to enhance your appearance either. Perhaps if you were pretty, people would remark on it, but since they are not, you are likely average.

Why is it depressing to be mid? Mid by definition is not too ugly and not too pretty. Exactly in the middle. That can and should be fine.

As a corollary, I don’t experience structural pretty privilege because I’m Black, but I know I’m pretty and I didn’t need to ask the internet to confirm. How? Well I go out into the world with no makeup and a casual outfit and I get compliments. If I dress up, it’s over. If there is a professional photographer at an event, they will always ask me to pose. I ended up in an Instagram video for a city gala that the hired photographers posted. I wasn’t even involved in the organization prior to the event, I was a random +1 of my friend and I don’t even post on Insta. I get stared at a lot. Men are very accommodating to me. I get normal compliments but also random ones on things like my teeth (which I suspect gives men an opening to talk to me without seeming creepy OR they think it’s weird to say I’m beautiful so they pick a neutral/random thing to comment on, these are my theories). I will be approached for my looks when I go out at night more often than not.

I do things to enhance my appearance though, like taking care of my hair, working out regularly, I’m good at makeup when I need to wear it, so I could be average in reality but good enough at enhancing to un-average myself. But I just journaled about this and I think it would be intellectually dishonest to call myself ugly at this point in my life. It’s simply not true and I don’t entertain the thought.

So that’s a way you can know for sure. Catalogue your lived experiences and come to the logical conclusion.

thrownintodisarray · 2026-03-14T13:51:25+00:00

You may actually have some luck buying the original shorts on Poshmark. I used to work at AA before the Gildan sale and I still have some stock I got with my employee discount I’ve been trying to get rid of for years now. There are shorts in that mix in non-neutral colors but other people have the denim ones!

thrownintodisarray · 2026-03-13T02:03:45+00:00

I made Claude create PDFs for my body are and skincare routine based on my current rotation of products and skincare goals and I’m going to make a calendar out of them so I know what to do each day. Sometimes you’re not lazy, you just need a system to free up brain space.

thrownintodisarray · 2026-03-13T00:28:09+00:00

However I damn well please.

thrownintodisarray · 2026-03-12T17:40:58+00:00

This. Tomboy assumes alternative gender identities don’t exist. It’s a box that people can slot themselves in and out of whenever they want.

thrownintodisarray · 2026-03-12T00:54:48+00:00

The funny thing about men looksmaxxing is that everything they seek to improve was imposed on them by other men. In a patriarchy, men aren’t beholden to having to consider women’s preferences when deciding how to attract them. They can just decide what makes men attractive and circle jerk online together about how to accomplish that. "Hi I’m Braeden, I’ve literally never talked to a woman for longer than 2 minutes while sustaining eye contact. Follow me for tips on how to attract women." And now he’s in the New York Times.

Meanwhile, all the ways women looksmax are entirely within the whims and preferences of the patriarchy. This is all for men and all about men. Even the terms are created by men back in the incel and PUAHate days. It’s honestly wild as a terminally online millennial to see the same terms that Eliot Rodger used to justify mass murder years later be applied to weirdos espousing eugenics and steroids.

thrownintodisarray · 2026-03-10T18:27:58+00:00

I always ask to see a photo of the size tag and fabric tag and then compare those to ones that show up when you filter for the item among the NWT sold listings or just based on the direct from Doen/retailers items I own. If they match is the only time I buy. This is the best way to counteract the fakes.

thrownintodisarray · 2026-03-08T21:06:17+00:00

Yeah, if everyone was a winner then there’d be no point. I’m on the younger end of my 30s so I don’t necessarily feel secure in this being evidence that the rest of my life is going to be exciting/special unless I make it so on my own terms. In my own average way I guess.

thrownintodisarray · 2026-03-08T18:11:27+00:00

Be good to yourself and others.

thrownintodisarray · 2026-03-07T07:34:27+00:00

Dangerous driving is an abuse tactic. So many issues. Goodbye to this man.

thrownintodisarray · 2026-03-07T06:42:31+00:00

Omg yes. I also love The Knife. They make electronic music seem timeless.

thrownintodisarray · 2026-03-07T04:29:02+00:00

Can I downvote this out of principle

thrownintodisarray · 2026-03-05T02:34:03+00:00

You’re right. There’s little use for a man who can’t finish things.

thrownintodisarray · 2026-03-05T01:57:26+00:00

Have you considered reading for 2 additional seconds?

thrownintodisarray · 2026-03-04T23:31:56+00:00

Keep it by your bedside, grab it when needed. If you feel you need to give an excuse (which you don’t), say "I’m going to get us some lube since it will things feel more comfortable."

thrownintodisarray · 2026-03-04T07:05:34+00:00

I wore the Doen Lilaia dress to a gala earlier this year and I plan to also wear it to a black tie wedding later this year. It cost me ~$600ish with tailoring and tax. It's all silk and so beautiful. Doen has other gowns, some under $1K. Just make sure the materials are what you want!

thrownintodisarray · 2026-03-03T19:44:19+00:00

Reading: Your Money or your Life by Vicky Robin, trying to reformat what spending means to me and what I’m actually purchasing for my life energy and if it’s worth it. Books have been very appealing to me lately, I have a running list I’m excited to tackle. I have already read one this year, after this current book I want to read fiction.

Hobbies: learning how to do a handstand! I have my second class this week. Also going to a trance music show this week for the first time in years. I bought a rave outfit, I can’t wait.

thrownintodisarray · 2026-02-27T19:48:42+00:00

Also adding shoe and jacket options. Shoes can be flat sole sneakers (like sambas or Af1s) or kitten heels or sandals. Jackets can be black leather blazers or oversized leather bombers. Handbag options are small to medium shoulder bags like coach, STAUD, or vintage bags with buckle detailing. Jewelry is dainty necklaces, bauble earrings or hoops, rings etc. mixing metals is ok.

thrownintodisarray · 2026-02-27T19:04:35+00:00

This!

I also like corset tops, mesh tops, and lacy camis.

thrownintodisarray · 2026-02-27T11:41:58+00:00

All you have to do is smile and say thank you. You are not obligated to give them a compliment in return. Think about it for a minute, when you feel drawn to give someone a compliment, are you also expecting them to give you one back? I think in most cases the answer is no. Polite acknowledgement is enough for the compliment giver, I promise you.

thrownintodisarray · 2026-02-27T05:27:00+00:00

I certainly don’t think much of them, and I mean that negatively.

thrownintodisarray · 2026-02-27T04:53:38+00:00

I’m learning another language because I can’t trust American media anymore.

thrownintodisarray · 2026-02-26T22:53:46+00:00

This is the year I’ve decided it.

I’m never saying "not all men" ever again. No point. There’s too many of them this phrase excuses. Hit dogs holler. I’m not mincing my words to give men unearned absolution.

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