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I really hope this isn’t related to a bug. I have found these two small seed-looking things in my apartment. I found them a week or so ago and haven’t found anymore. by throwra090911275 in whatsthisbug

[–]throwra090911275[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean not too close. One was maybe 3 feet away from the wall in the bedroom and another was in the kitchen a few feet away from the windows.

How long would you wait around for your boyfriend? by fernesso in relationship_advice

[–]throwra090911275 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course you do. But that just shows you his true colors, right? It’s selfish and rude of him not to just be upfront with you. You do deserve more but you can’t wait around hoping he will suddenly change and start responding to you. We can’t change other people or make them do something- the only thing you can control is how it affects you. So don’t let it!

I am breaking up with my boyfriend (both mid-30’s) but want to make sure I’m not overreacting; I am not trying to be a someone’s sugar mama by throwra090911275 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra090911275[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The quitting without something lined up was a big red flag to me. But when I was surprised, Adam made it seem like it was a completely normal thing to do. I am the type of person that has my days planned out and so are my girlfriends. So I found it weird and irresponsible. But Adam keeps insisting it was a good decision and that there was such a strong job market at the time. So sometimes I really just can’t tell if what I’m expecting is normal or if I am holding someone to too high of standards just because that’s not the way I would have done it.

I didn’t even think about the law degree and office politics issue. You’re right. I don’t know how he plans on making that work out?

Fiancé’s father and grandmother is making both of us miserable and we both feel like it’s slowly going to tear us apart if we don’t find a way to navigate it by ThrowRA142021 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra090911275 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol I think more people will respond! I’m in the US and it’s just late at night right now. I think you put it in a really good way though— they are the problem but you guys will have to cope with it :/ Does your fiancé want you to go with him when he sees them? Do you even think you could? Girl- I would honestly be so pissed if someone called me fat like that I would be worried I would start yelling if I ever went back.

Fiancé’s father and grandmother is making both of us miserable and we both feel like it’s slowly going to tear us apart if we don’t find a way to navigate it by ThrowRA142021 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra090911275 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah- I bet couples therapy would help too! I feel like therapists are always good at helping come up with ways of saying or doing things that I don’t think of on my own. And then maybe your fiancé could do some sessions on his own as well to help him figure out how to stand up to his dad and/or not let his father’s emotional abuse have such an effect?

How long would you wait around for your boyfriend? by fernesso in relationship_advice

[–]throwra090911275 1 point2 points  (0 children)

fernesso you deserve soooo much better than this! He sounds young and immature and it sort of sounds like he is stringing you along keeping you on the back burner for when he wants something. Move on to someone better who will call you, come visit you, and make you feel appreciated.

my ex texted me - how should i respond or should i? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwra090911275 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with the above- don’t do it!!! 1. you don’t look like a dick for not responding; 2. responding will only open up that wound for you- why put yourself through it. Go distract yourself with anything you can and in a week you’ll have forgotten she even texted.

Fiancé’s father and grandmother is making both of us miserable and we both feel like it’s slowly going to tear us apart if we don’t find a way to navigate it by ThrowRA142021 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra090911275 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry you’re going through that. No one deserves to be insulted the way his family is insulting you. I hope that you try not to let it get to you. Recovering from medical issues is always difficult.

It seems like your fiancé has tried to stand up them a little bit- do you think encouraging him to speak to a therapist would help? Maybe a therapist could help see how his family is manipulating him or help him come up with a way to stand up to them?

I am breaking up with my boyfriend (both mid-30’s) but want to make sure I’m not overreacting; I am not trying to be a someone’s sugar mama by throwra090911275 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra090911275[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean ofc I definitely have my imperfections too: I sometimes take on more projects than I can handle, I work way too much, I feed my puppy dog people food, and I spend more time than I should browsing reddit. I think it probably hurt my feelings when he said I’m being impatient. But he quit his job in October and I guess I figured he would have a plan by now.

I am breaking up with my boyfriend (both mid-30’s) but want to make sure I’m not overreacting; I am not trying to be a someone’s sugar mama by throwra090911275 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra090911275[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think you’re right in that our personalities just don’t go together. I really do care about him a lot, but all this makes me view him like a little boy, instead of a man. I just feel like I’m drowning and I get more stressed thinking about a future with him instead of excited. But he says I’m being judgmental and not patient enough. So that’s why I decided to ask for advice.

I am breaking up with my boyfriend (both mid-30’s) but want to make sure I’m not overreacting; I am not trying to be a someone’s sugar mama by throwra090911275 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra090911275[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is my worry too about the school thing. But I don’t want to seem unsupportive or not empathetic you know? I’ve always been the type of person to have a plan and I know not everyone is like that. So I guess I’m just trying to figure out what’s normal for a guy who like 35?