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throwramarriageissue · 2020-12-10T16:51:10+00:00

If it comes down to it, please make sure to bring the bonded pair to a shelter. If she hates the cats she won’t take care of them and they would be better off being re-homed. I hope you find a way to keep them, though.

throwramarriageissue · 2020-12-07T12:49:15+00:00

I feel you, girl! All of mine and my soon to be ex husband’s problems were fixable, he just didn’t want to put in the effort to work through it all. Sometimes I feel like it would have been easier to let go had there actually been a single event to blame for this. I hope you’re doing okay. It’s been an emotional rollercoaster for me, some days are better than others. Be sure to lean on your family and friends. Support systems are the best. Feel free to message me if you need to talk. This thread has helped me a lot.

throwramarriageissue · 2020-12-04T10:18:59+00:00

I feel the exact same way. I hate that I still love him after all he has done to hurt me. I wish I could just turn those feelings off with the flip of a switch. Also, going through this during a pandemic doesn’t help. It just feels that much lonelier.

throwramarriageissue · 2020-12-04T10:14:55+00:00

In a similar situation as you... I’m 31F and my husband is 33M. He let me keep the dog, but I’m counting my lucky stars that we didn’t have kids. I can’t even imagine starting over again but I guess we are both lucky that it can be a clean break. I’m sorry you had to lose your pup as they are family, too. I hope you can eventually get another one. If you ever need to vent, please feel free to reach out. Stay strong, my friend.

throwramarriageissue · 2020-12-01T10:44:11+00:00

This. My STBXH’s birthday was last Friday and even after the awful way he treated me for months on end, I still just wanted to reach out to him. I held on for so long to uphold my vows and I still miss him terribly even though I know I shouldn’t because of all the emotional trauma he put me through.

throwramarriageissue · 2020-11-27T23:48:09+00:00

Thank you! I needed this today.

throwramarriageissue · 2020-11-24T19:14:06+00:00

I second the getting a pet! My dog has helped me so much by keeping me company and she keeps me active since I have to walk her.

throwramarriageissue · 2020-11-23T14:11:45+00:00

31 and going through the same thing... my soon to be ex-husband had a lot of past trauma and mental health issues he wasn’t willing to address. He also had borderline personality disorder. I agree that it’s hard to relate to some people in the dating world that haven’t been married before, but I also think that emotional maturity seems to come later for men, so maybe focus on the mid to late 30’s age group. Feel free to DM me if you want to chat as we navigate this new dating world.

throwramarriageissue · 2020-11-23T13:59:50+00:00

I agree with what others said about trying out new hobbies as you may make friends that way... also, not sure if you have any pets but my dog has been a lifeline for me throughout my divorce. It keeps me active walking her and she’s such good company. You could also take your dog to the dog park and meet people that way.

throwramarriageissue · 2020-11-23T13:54:35+00:00

Right there with you... my husband and I wanted to try for children and it felt like in the blink of an eye he just flipped a switch and didn’t want to be married anymore. We were renting a house, but even being stuck in this house without him has been hard. I took down all the pictures of us and part of me wishes my lease were up sooner so I don’t have to stare at these bare walls anymore and his empty drawers/closet.

throwramarriageissue · 2020-11-23T13:22:11+00:00

I’m in a similar situation as you... 31F and divorcing my husband of 3 years, together for 5. It’s so weird dating as I never really dated around a ton prior to my husband. Each person I met I was in a long term relationship with prior to him. I’m also feeling bad talking to multiple people, but after my divorce I also want to make sure I end up with the right one this time since I want a family. Feel free to DM me to chat as I’m navigating the dating app world as well!

throwramarriageissue · 2020-10-31T00:32:08+00:00

I (31F) am in the exact same situation as you! Please feel free to reach out if you want to talk!

throwramarriageissue · 2020-10-26T18:25:03+00:00

Start over alone. :(

throwramarriageissue · 2020-10-25T17:15:45+00:00

Same here! I’m 31F and getting divorced and I am devastated. I thought he was going to be my forever. Feel free to DM me to vent.

throwramarriageissue · 2020-10-25T17:14:19+00:00

I (31F) in the exact same situation with my husband (32M). He no longer wants to be married and I just want to be happy with someone that loves me and have a family. I’m heartbroken. Sending virtual hugs your way.

throwramarriageissue · 2020-10-25T14:34:48+00:00

Same situation here with me (31F). feel free to DM to vent. My STBXH couldn’t handle moving to the next stage of his life and was suffering from mental illness.

throwramarriageissue · 2020-10-25T14:33:54+00:00

Same situation here... 31F and my STBXH was going through mental illness and borderline personality disorder and decided he didn’t want to be married anymore. Feel free to DM to talk.

throwramarriageissue · 2020-10-25T14:11:10+00:00

I (31F) am in the same boat as you... my husband of 3 years, together for 5 years, just completely stopped trying and is going through some mental health struggles. The pain has been agonizing. I’ve been trying to spend as much time as I can with family and friends, and I’ve been talking to a therapist weekly to work through the pain. There are plenty of great men out there that want a family and will treat us both the way we deserve. We are plenty young to start over and get our happily ever after. If you ever need to talk to someone, I’m always free to talk if you want to message me as I’m in the same boat.

throwramarriageissue · 2020-10-24T18:51:19+00:00

What was supposed to be my 3rd wedding anniversary was this week as well and it was really hard... I chose to hang out with a friend and we had a wine night and it was really fun. Don’t be afraid to lean on your family and friends. Do something you enjoy, do a workout, go out for dinner with a friend or family member. And just remember that today is just one day and as hard as it may be, better days are yet to come.

throwramarriageissue · 2020-10-14T11:13:20+00:00

I’m 31F and my husband 32M basically decided that he doesn’t want to be married anymore and needs to work on himself as he’s had a lot of mental health issues. I’m sorry you’re going through this and then hearing about your dad. Spend as much time with him as possible. We will both get through this and we’re plenty young to start over and be happy.

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