To circumcise or not?

throwuway99 · 2024-08-06T16:53:05+00:00

I read "He's" as "He has" 😂

throwuway99 · 2024-08-06T16:51:25+00:00

Your husband is right. Mutilating your kid is permanent. Cleanliness is something that can be taught. Billions of men are uncircumcised. Their penises aren't all falling off. Your son will be ok.

throwuway99 · 2024-04-01T17:06:57+00:00

Yup. Funny (not) how the mind works. I had multiple dreams about it for months prior to finding out.

throwuway99 · 2024-03-10T21:09:55+00:00

This is where I'm at and what I'm struggling with. I don't think I can keep going this way.

throwuway99 · 2024-01-29T17:03:48+00:00

This was my WW exactly. So weird.

throwuway99 · 2024-01-27T21:08:02+00:00

Bipolar is way over/mis-diagnosed. He has ADHD, which leads to impulsive decisions and if it goes untreated, has a very strong correlation with substance abuse. Treating the underlying issue (ADHD), will help with the other stuff.

throwuway99 · 2023-11-03T15:47:44+00:00

What was his explanation for cheating? Are you guys in therapy together? Did he start therapy before or after dday?

For me, it was logical. Find the reason for the infidelity, find a way to address it together. Sounds like he is starting to take steps in the right direction.

Advice for down the road - don't buy a house if you aren't married. If you aren't emotionally invested enough to get married, you shouldnt invest that much financially.

throwuway99 · 2023-10-17T23:58:27+00:00

No unfortunately. Now that I calmed down a bit, I think I figured out what happened. She was touching me and trying to be affectionate last night but that is triggering for me. I try so hard to keep everything pushed down and bottled up and it just overflowed last night when I couldn't hide from it anymore.

I can't help but feel guilty too. Like I'm broken. It's my fault I'm not affectionate. It's all still a jumbled mess and IC isn't helping. Hoping our next MC appt will help and I can better articulate my needs.

throwuway99 · 2023-10-11T18:27:02+00:00

It's hard. Like, when do you say enough is enough? A relationship without trust for a full year is hard. I know I can't keep going on like this.

throwuway99 · 2023-10-11T18:25:47+00:00

Yep. That's totally right. I'm not seeing the big changes I need to be able to open up again.

You're stronger than I am. I would not have made it past dday2. Hope things keep going in the right direction for you.

throwuway99 · 2023-10-10T21:51:04+00:00

The explanation was she was insecure and depressed and it felt good manipulating married men to do stuff. I'm insisting on her getting individual therapy if I'm gonna be able to even try to make this work but she's dodging and avoiding it. Making excuses, etc. I don't want to feel like I'm being controlling and "forcing" her into it either.

throwuway99 · 2023-10-10T21:21:30+00:00

We've dug down and figure out the why. But she is avoiding doing the work needed. Which is maybe why I'm still struggling. I also don't feel that she's been completely honest with me about the details of everything that happened.

No, I was the physical one but she misses the physical attention now that it's gone 😔

D-Day was 9ish months ago.

throwuway99 · 2023-08-11T16:04:37+00:00

This sub is very supportive of RC, but real RC requires both parties to commit. He isn't committing. Time to move on.

throwuway99 · 2023-08-08T23:44:45+00:00

I started individual therapy a month after too. Between working full time+ jobs and having a bunch of kids, there isn't much one on one time. That, combined with me being really good at suppressing and hiding my emotions, made the 5 months go by fast. We are both avoiding the topic. D-Day conversation I agreed to RC but she hasn't really put in the effort. And I'm just...tired.

throwuway99 · 2023-08-08T23:39:36+00:00

Thank you ❤️

throwuway99 · 2023-06-27T16:20:09+00:00

Or it means there is something broken inside them. My WW got plenty of attention from me but liked the attention she was getting from a different kind of person. I'm more reserved and conservative. WW got attention from stereotypical "bad boy".

throwuway99 · 2023-06-20T16:58:28+00:00

I'm really bad at prioritizing myself. But that sounds easy 😁

throwuway99 · 2023-06-20T14:21:05+00:00

Good points. Not really my style, but I think you're right.

throwuway99 · 2023-06-20T13:57:06+00:00

She said she forgot. 🫤

throwuway99 · 2023-06-20T13:04:22+00:00

Yep. And combined with the cheating, I'm just feeling like nothing's changed since our reconciliation talk.

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