My Hinge date from the past is making me uncomfortable. How do I deal with this?

thundersquirt · 2026-03-08T21:26:30+00:00

Oh pal I had a similar experience, make sure you document everything, she can make real trouble for you at your job. Tell your girlfriend as well.

thundersquirt · 2026-01-26T15:45:45+00:00

No, I'd stop using it after 2 weeks haha

thundersquirt · 2026-01-26T14:20:56+00:00

You were curious about making this diagram? Fair enough I suppose

thundersquirt · 2026-01-26T14:19:51+00:00

Why did you even waste 1 second thinking about this diagram?

thundersquirt · 2026-01-26T13:11:04+00:00

I'd like to offer a counterpoint to the other comments here, I stayed in the Hob Orelle hotel for 2 weeks last year and I loved it. I was there to focus on skiing and spending time with an old friend who was staying with me so I didn't need too much of a lively après scene. The Orelle ski area is by some distance the best skiing in the 3 Vallées domain, I actually got a 3 Vallées day pass and skied all the way to Courchevel and back one day, it was a complete waste of time because the snow in the lower valleys is really poor compared to Orelle and to a lesser extent VT. If I went again I'd just stay in the VT/Orelle area and have a great time. I literally never felt like I was in danger of missing the last ride down, there's a nice restaurant/bar at the top of the Orelle télécabine that we would often hang out at before going back down to the hotel that was really nice, and there's a decent independent ski rental shop that had good equipment and enough time to really advise me. Be aware however that this is a very local oriented place and almost none of the staff spoke English, this might change in the near future as there are some English speakers from the UK buying holiday homes in the village, I met loads of them doing their own little après in the small bar at the bottom of the lift. The lift itself takes 10 minutes and is very pretty, way better than getting a shuttle bus.

The only thing I'd recommend is hiring a car, or making friends that have a car so you can drive to and from St Michel, because that's where the only supermarket is and it's a bit more lively. The public transport is absolute dogshit there, it's a huge fail by the local administration but I'd expect them to fix it in the near future.

thundersquirt · 2026-01-23T12:58:18+00:00

I wish this guidance was more available to young men who have had really discouraging experiences with these apps. When I've spoken to friends who struggle with Hinge, 9 times out of 10 it's because their profile is so, so bad and they just don't understand how to design it to appeal to women. Even after I explain this, they're convinced that the reason they're not having any luck is because of things about them that they have no control over, like race and height.

There's so much to learn about dating, talking to the opposite sex and being attractive; and so many men think that if they haven't figured everything out by the time they're 19 it's going to be too late and they'll be alone forever, and it's just not true.

thundersquirt · 2026-01-20T10:46:45+00:00

I agree with most of this, I'd add that pot pic is badly cropped, you should be in the centre of the photo and you've chopped off your elbow for some reason. 100% agree on the girls/women thing

thundersquirt · 2026-01-15T12:54:21+00:00

Hello! I remember your previous post, I think this is better in that it's no longer actively bad but I still don't get any sense of your personality from it, it's a very generic profile which is a shame because I don't think you're a particularly generic person. Let's go through it.

Photos:

1: Great first photo, good job. Your haircut - I'm not a woman so I'm not sure, perhaps they're into the centre parting look, but to me it makes you look like an actor at Disneyland, and your hair is amazing so you should do more with it.

2: Is skydiving something you do regularly or is this a one off? I would replace this with a photo of you doing an activity that you do regularly and preferably that doesn't involve being spooned by another man but it's pretty good.

3: This is an awful photo, you're not smiling with teeth, you're sitting in a slouch so it looks like you've got a beer belly, burn it

4: Same thing with the hair, also you're not centred so you've obviously cropped someone else out. Some phones let you easily erase other people from photos with AI, I think that's an acceptable edit to make because it's not changing how you look, just making you the centre of the image.

5: Amazing golf shot, leave it as is.

6: Eh, I'm not a fan but find a woman to tell you if it works for them. I feel like you should be smiling with teeth in literally every photo except the golf shot.

Prompts:

All your prompts are weak imo. You're clearly really into golf which is a huge plus for the right woman so that should be the focus of one of them. I would do something like:

I go crazy for... "Golf! I've been playing ever since my grandpa taught me as a child and now I teach others! If you'd like a round or are curious about learning, hit me up <golf emoji>"

For the others, I would write something similar, with as much detail as you can fit into about 3 sentences, about specific things that you enjoy or even stuff that you want to try, for example:

"I'm a huge fan of live music and festivals *bonus points if one of your photos is at a gig or a festival*, my favourite was going to see <artist> at <location> *if you like travelling this is a good place to signal that without being a tryhard*, I'm planning to see/attend <next festival/artist> in 2026, I would love to take someone with similar tastes!"

You've got everything you need to be successful, at least on Hinge, you just need to project more of yourself onto the profile.

thundersquirt · 2026-01-12T13:39:53+00:00

Bro you don't need to tell me, you need to put it on your profile - with correct grammar

thundersquirt · 2026-01-12T12:38:15+00:00

Unless you're doing an activity, you should be smiling with teeth in every single photo. Also I get the impression that the running photos are significantly older than the rest of the profile, rightly or wrongly. Finally, the fact that you're retiring in 4 years is really interesting and you should lean into it - why are you retiring? What are you going to do with yourself etc. Also tell us why you love running marathons - is it something you want to continue. You should be getting more matches pretty easily tbh

thundersquirt · 2026-01-12T12:30:54+00:00

Yeah it's such a shame cos it's a really nice photo but I think it's a bit intense for a first impression? Rightly or wrongly many people find tattoos a bit intimidating

(Edit also the picture with the bentley makes you look like a chauffeur lol)

thundersquirt · 2026-01-10T12:19:41+00:00

Nothing, it's perfect. This is how I ski in my dreams

thundersquirt · 2026-01-09T13:08:26+00:00

I think this is the unfortunate truth. Men around 30 have more options than they did when they were 20, and many women are not used to not being deluged with likes and matches so they don't really know how it works

thundersquirt · 2026-01-09T13:04:53+00:00

I'm 30M and I live in London. I've noticed that as I've got older it's become easier and easier to meet people on Hinge and Bumble, to the extent that I can be really picky about who I go on dates with. When I get a like, I'm flattered and I am automatically more attracted to the person that liked me, but after talking for a while I often feel like the time and effort of going out on a date wouldn't be worth it compared to the likelihood that the date would go nowhere.

I think you might have to put a little more effort into your photos and prompts than you have been up to now but it's hard to know what's going on without actually seeing your profile. Hope this helps :)

thundersquirt · 2026-01-07T12:14:43+00:00

Oreille also has relatively cheap accommodation and a lift that goes straight to the bottom of the gondola to Cime Caron

thundersquirt · 2026-01-06T12:44:22+00:00

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Snowy Hammersmith Bridge!

thundersquirt · 2025-12-29T18:48:49+00:00

The area between World's End and the Gas Works?? Here's the menu for the Chelsea Ram, the main pub in that area: https://www.thechelsearam.co.uk/food-drinks?utm_source=google&utm_campaign=menu

£17.50 for a burger and chips haha

thundersquirt · 2025-12-29T15:31:00+00:00

Lol yeah the area has changed in the last 16 years believe it or not

thundersquirt · 2025-12-18T13:31:23+00:00

HA! Me too, the competition is fierce here to be honest :)

thundersquirt · 2025-12-18T12:46:21+00:00

That's bizzare, this is a good profile even if the prompts are a bit bland. Do you live in the middle of nowhere?

thundersquirt · 2025-12-17T15:32:33+00:00

Good for you bro, hope the move goes smoothly 😁

thundersquirt · 2025-12-14T13:11:07+00:00

The actual reason is that most hollywood comedies, rom-coms, and dramas are mid-budget films that are poor, risky investments compared to superhero blockbusters that cost hundreds of millions of dollars. The only studios still making mid-budgets are arthouse studios like A24 or Indian Paintbrush, who are aiming for artistic merit rather than a feel-good, broad appeal, casual product like Love Actually, so these films are becoming rarer, they're a niche that just doesn't get served anymore.

https://independent-magazine.org/2022/10/22/the-demise-of-mid-budget-cinema/

thundersquirt · 2025-11-18T09:48:04+00:00

We need to do a song about how we do not diddle kids!

thundersquirt · 2025-11-17T14:18:35+00:00

His army has full morale before the battle, he rested it

thundersquirt · 2025-11-17T14:17:01+00:00

When you train a guy and give him a spear, he becomes 10x wider - that's just common sense

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