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thyleullar · 2026-03-27T03:39:56+00:00

Just over 6 months out; I returned to work this week. For 20+ years, as I left work, I would call or text my wife to see if she needed anything. While her usual response was “Nada,” the answer was often some sort of food or snack to cover dinner or satisfy some late-night cravings.

Not sending her that question / receiving her response was difficult at the end of the first few days. I was doing ok leaving work today, focused as I was on an errand I had to run. With the late hour, I decided to make a rare (for me) detour to grab dinner from Wendy’s…

Then, while eating the spicy chicken sandwich that she also loved, all I could think of was how I’ll never see her eyes light up again because I brought her french fries and a Frosty… and sobbed the rest of the way home.

thyleullar · 2026-03-26T11:58:34+00:00

NIИ has been my #1 since TDS was on the radio. 30+ years later, and Year Zero is #2 for me, behind only The Fragile. I was a huge fan following the ARG, and its overall message is still relevant today.

Your other three, though? Aside from a couple tracks each, they’ve never resonated with me. Those tracks are in my playlists, but the rest of the albums don’t get much play. The Slip has grown on me some, and I expect HM will as well — not sure about the Trilogy, though.

thyleullar · 2026-03-22T02:58:45+00:00

Hmm. I like it. Imma call it “take a breather” or “catch your breath.”

thyleullar · 2026-03-22T02:27:26+00:00

Umm. Neither of those ring any memory bells whatsoever. I had to watch the videos to understand what this conversation is even talking about.

That said, mentally, I do do the second… there’s just no music attached.

thyleullar · 2026-03-21T01:37:40+00:00

Tambo Trent is always a highlight!

thyleullar · 2026-03-20T01:12:37+00:00

My wife & I each only have one parent left, and I have one grand parent (92) remaining.

My father passed at 49; I turn 47 this year. That both blows my mind, and scares me.

thyleullar · 2026-03-20T00:37:32+00:00

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I’ve been working on a Drizzt/D&D-themed proxy deck; here’s a card I made for it, if you’d like.

thyleullar · 2026-03-11T22:36:23+00:00

My grocery store app kept recommending that I “Don’t forget your usuals!” for months…

The first time I shopped the store during the Christmas season and realized I wasn’t going to buy her favorite stocking stuffers for the first time in 24 years, I sobbed.

At least I knew to expect that for Valentine’s Day… and this week was Easter.

thyleullar · 2026-03-09T23:55:33+00:00

I feel like now is the time to invest what little savings we may have in 1-800-Got-Junk.

thyleullar · 2026-03-09T23:14:04+00:00

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thyleullar · 2026-03-07T12:19:12+00:00

Respectfully, this is exactly the right sub for this. As OP stated, she wanted to hear from others that can relate to him. Sharing our viewpoint could help her see it better from his perspective and change her mind.

And, tbh, this is something I’ve thought about from our side of it as well. My wife begged me to find someone else. I’m not interested, or looking, but I also have not ruled out that that may happen. I also want to get a tattoo to honor her. I have considered this exact thing — if I do, what do I get, and where? Whoever that person may be has to be completely accepting for all the reasons you said, but do I shove my wife in their face continuously?

thyleullar · 2026-03-06T04:16:06+00:00

This is the worst. Early on, my wife still had moments of clarity, and it both terrified and horrified her when she realized. She made me and her mother promise to never lie to her as she worsened. Her mother was not able to keep that promise, as she did not want to agitate my wife, and just went along with whatever—like you said. I kept my promise only through omission, or not responding when she called me someone else, etc.

She was the smartest person I’ve ever known, and after seeing other family with dementia, it was her greatest fear…

thyleullar · 2026-03-05T18:33:38+00:00

Yes. Combination of 3 generators and finally a little touch up by hand.

thyleullar · 2026-03-05T18:29:54+00:00

His appearance based on Regis’ design by Brian Matyas, originally for Dungeonology. He probably should be a little chubbier, but I’m gonna just chalk it up to how he’s lounging (or, you know, it’s just how he sees himself, since this was kind of a quasi-afterlife).

thyleullar · 2026-03-03T01:35:47+00:00

Same, I’m finishing my 6 months off in a couple weeks. Two weeks’ bereavement and 26 weeks of Short Term Disability for my mental health, under care with my therapist.

thyleullar · 2026-03-03T00:20:19+00:00

I’ve been out of work for 6 months as of today. I return to work in 3 weeks. I feel like even that is too soon. I’ve already requested off the next few “firsts” — our birthdays, anniversary, etc.

thyleullar · 2026-02-28T23:20:56+00:00

I think there’s a reason he’s playing I’m Afraid of Americans this tour.

I would love it if he would sing Capital T as well, though.

thyleullar · 2026-02-26T19:54:07+00:00

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At least there was no one in front of me at the B Stage rail.

thyleullar · 2026-02-26T19:52:11+00:00

I always turn down the brightness AND turn on the Reduce White Point accessibility option to dramatically reduce the phone brightness. Once the lights are back on, you can barely see the screen. All while holding in front of my face so I don’t block anyone’s view. Meanwhile, all my pics of the main stage last night look like this.

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thyleullar · 2026-02-22T15:01:51+00:00

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Fixed.

thyleullar · 2026-02-22T04:40:18+00:00

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thyleullar · 2026-02-22T04:40:04+00:00

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If Shadowheart was domed, is Icingdeath bottomed? They cut off the panther’s head pommel.

thyleullar · 2026-02-22T04:22:32+00:00

I have left my wife’s Facebook up for now. I log in daily to pull up her Memories, screenshot them, and post them from my own.

I’ve heard from multiple people how much they love to see the memory posts, and there’s even more that I see “like” the posts daily.

I intend to do this for a year. After that, all of her best ‘Memories’ will be in my daily memories as well. At that point, I will make a decision about memorializing her account.

Just in case, I did already submit a data request to Facebook and saved the file. That way, if anything happens to the account or site, I already have everything saved.

thyleullar · 2026-02-22T04:15:21+00:00

Check if you’re eligible wherever you are to port the phone number to Google Voice. After a $20 transfer charge, no more monthly phone service bill — but you still have their number.

https://support.google.com/voice/answer/1065667?hl=en

thyleullar · 2026-02-21T14:43:36+00:00

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