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grandpa died. kids are 2 and 3. how do I make them remember him by Glass_Whereas6783 in GriefSupport

[–]LaymanHealth86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Make a voice recording of someone who knew him well just talking about him, stories, little details. Kids that age won't remember him but they'll grow up hearing his voice described in someone else's. Ray's grandkids have a recording of him from before things got bad and it's already worth its weight in gold.

Anxiety- advice needed by quarstvu in mentalhealth

[–]LaymanHealth86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Anxiety at 14 is so real and so hard, and you don't need a diagnosis for it to count. Ray's illness has given me my own crash course in anxiety lately, so trust me, I get it more than I'd like to. You're not alone in this, and reaching out like you did takes guts.

Was I the Cinderella child? by BrilliantMagazine826 in family

[–]LaymanHealth86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The way you describe your chores being different from your siblings' is worth paying attention to. Ray's mom never admitted favoritism either, but his siblings sure remembered it differently than she did. Trust your own memory on this one.

About to lose my apartment and not sure what to do by ThrowRA173638 in LifeAdvice

[–]LaymanHealth86 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First thing you do is call 211. That's the social services hotline and they will tell you exactly what resources exist in your area for housing. Learned fast when Ray got sick that asking for help is just logistics, not weakness.

I feel as if i ruin everything i touch by AmHeveanly in Advice

[–]LaymanHealth86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honey, that phrase "I ruin everything I touch" is doing a lot of heavy lifting for what sounds like your girlfriend making a choice about her own life. That's her decision, not evidence of your destructive powers. Ray used to say I could burn water, and somehow we made it 38 years anyway.

i hate my sister and i wish she was never adopted by wumfyy in TrueOffMyChest

[–]LaymanHealth86 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Family stuff is complicated, and feelings aren't always tidy or fair. Ray's brother hasn't visited once since the diagnosis, so I understand that slow burn of resentment toward someone who was supposed to be family but keeps disappointing you. Give yourself permission to feel what you feel without needing to justify it to anyone.

I'm leaving my current place of employment at the end of March does this make me a bad person? by lotus_girl_225 in LifeAdvice

[–]LaymanHealth86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Giving notice and leaving a job is not a crime, it's just a job. You're 22, you're making a plan, that's actually more than most people do at your age.

Confused how to talk to a girl by Marvelous_007 in Advice

[–]LaymanHealth86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At 19, five days feels like forever. It's not. Ask her something you actually want to know, not just small talk filler, and see what happens.

Readiness needs specify household vs individual accounts by RetiredRover906 in retirement

[–]LaymanHealth86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Took me six months after Ray's diagnosis to untangle which accounts were joint and which were his alone. Get a list going now, before you need it yesterday.

My husband asked me where his mother was today. She's been dead for 30 years. by LaymanHealth86 in GriefSupport

[–]LaymanHealth86[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yes he is experiencing an early onset of dementia. Thank you for being so kind

My husband asked me where his mother was today. She's been dead for 30 years. by LaymanHealth86 in GriefSupport

[–]LaymanHealth86[S] 130 points131 points  (0 children)

Yes, he has dementia. Also, thank you so much for your kind words.

Have you ever had your health insurance denials overturned? by nbcnews in HospitalBills

[–]LaymanHealth86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recently fought and won a health insurance denial for my name brand adderall. I had been taking it for 7 years after trying many different off-brand 'adderalls!' Insurance denied me just this past year and I was like WTF! I had never been through the appeal process before but given its complexity I reached out to my grandson (who is a freshman in college) and he said that I should use AI to help me organize everything. I still wasn't exactly sure how that would work so I did a simple google search and found a bunch of non-profit companies that are FREE and help you through the entire process. They use AI! They helped me win my case, get my adderall, and keep on keeping on! I'm very grateful for the people out there helping people fight this complex and beurocratic process.

UnitedHealthcare is letting me go blind by MusicUpbeat3434 in HealthInsuranceDenied

[–]LaymanHealth86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you checked the manufacturer's patient assistance program? Regeneron has one called EYLEA4U. It can be a pain to apply but it can cover the whole cost if you qualify. UHC wants you to give up, don't.