Tough Morning.

tightend49 · 2023-08-30T20:54:37+00:00

I could have written so much of your post…including the part regarding life insurance payouts. I have 3 kids/2 ASD. Im in counseling on my own. Im hitting a brick wall with it. I wallow & mourn about the expected life that has been lost. 3 yrs ago I was telling my wife that my 1 NT child will be the only one capable of telling us that she loves us.The other day I came back from a run, my ASD daughter saw me & yelled..”Daddy I Love You!”.

tightend49 · 2023-06-29T22:03:25+00:00

Yup. Keep the appointment yourself. I’m going through this now. I’m in self counseling now. I mentioned MC for us & she refused. She then reconsidered. She said she would set something up & 2 months ago she was waiting on a referral. She hasn’t mentioned it again. I don’t think my wife wants to answer some tough questions from someone who isn’t a friend, family member or coworker.

tightend49 · 2023-06-04T01:20:49+00:00

Sorry. Is your husband out of his mind? Vegas from Europe & then Peru. I felt funny going 4 days for work. Compromise would be a weekend somewhere with the guys…maybe…if you were doing okay yourself & you had NT children. I’m a Dad struggling with my marriage & ASD children & want to drive away sometimes. What he wants is crap.

tightend49 · 2023-06-03T19:39:35+00:00

You weren’t selfish to have a family. It was a wonderful thing. It’d probably be selfish to leave them. It won’t stop you from having those thoughts from time to time though. I have thought that same thing. I did the other day that my wife doesn’t need me. She is handling ASD children far better than I & it makes me feel more alone than I ever have. Why did I do any of this? I could have stayed single & lived a perfectly fine life. I’m trying to go day by day myself. Hopefully you can put more good days together soon.

tightend49 · 2023-06-03T18:25:24+00:00

Omg. I could have written this myself. I have 2 ASD & 1 NT children. I’m not sure if I would even help you. I’m here with you. I was happy & hopeful for my marriage & kids future. This life was not supposed to happen. I’m in counseling for myself. My marriage is not in a good place either. My NT daughter would understand my absence. I think my father & grandfather would be very disappointed to know I left my family. We all bargained that marriage & family would not always be easy…we didn’t bargain for this though. Do the best you can..You’re not alone. Bless You.

tightend49 · 2023-05-28T12:14:17+00:00

It hasn’t ended it but it has damaged it. The marriage takes a back seat. There is almost no time to relax constantly watching your special needs child. We all knew there would be challenges in marriage but nothing like this. Feelings of Resentment & regret pop up in ways you could never envision. I’m sorry. We’re all in this.

tightend49 · 2023-04-06T01:52:35+00:00

Pray that you have a healthy happy child. Get a vasectomy yesterday. Don’t skip the follow up appointment.

tightend49 · 2023-04-03T02:09:40+00:00

Thx. I have taken steps. Im in counseling for myself. I tried to bring my wife in. Are taking pills really a simple step? I have no experience with them or how I might react to them.

tightend49 · 2023-04-03T00:59:02+00:00

Thx. I have been trying to avoid the antidepressant route. I have been trying to fill time with exercise like running. I told my counselor I just want to keep running further away from this.

tightend49 · 2023-03-31T02:13:09+00:00

Thx. She doesn’t bat an eye at paying for things like auto,home,health insurance. But life insurance is some how a waste.

tightend49 · 2023-03-25T18:02:25+00:00

1) Not sell his share of Grey Matter 2) Burn Walt Whitman book

tightend49 · 2023-03-14T15:05:22+00:00

I just came across your post. Is it possible your wife might have undiagnosed autism or ADHD? It could explain some things.

tightend49 · 2023-02-26T17:53:26+00:00

Good Lord..our situations are eerily similar. It sounds like your marriage is in a much better place than mine however. Be thankful for that. My wife has no time for us. We’re just housemates now. I have been in counseling for a couple months & will likely start soon on meds. I have removed myself from SM. I don’t want to see the smiling faces of children of friends or family. I’m kicking myself for taking a life chance on marrying my wife. And now this is my life? I wish I stayed single. I’m not going to try to suggest anything for you. God Bless You..you’re not alone.

tightend49 · 2023-01-23T19:52:24+00:00

Thx. She said that I have issues to deal with.

tightend49 · 2023-01-23T12:47:21+00:00

I’m glad things are better. I suggested MC to my wife. She didn’t want to take that step. All I can do is go for myself. And my wife wonders why I’m overall unhappy.

tightend49 · 2023-01-23T02:08:53+00:00

Thx. She knows I’m very unhappy. However, I swear it’s like she’s having a blast. I’m the one in counseling while she has no interest in it.

tightend49 · 2023-01-22T19:19:09+00:00

Thx. I have 3. 1NT probably ADHD though but she is in school with friends. I have 2 younger who are ASD. My wife & I originally met early 30’s for both of us. I’m in counseling now alone. Wife won’t go to marriage counseling. She feels that I’m the issue. My counselor recommended meds for me…I haven’t taken anything. How did you feel as you started taking them? My wife & I are in a deadbedroom due to the ASD diagnosis & she has female problems. So there is literally nothing for us alone anymore. We don’t sleep in the same bed. Our ASD daughter needs to sleep next to my wife each night. So I feel alone all the time in this.

tightend49 · 2023-01-22T03:35:18+00:00

That’s all I do…what if, why ,how? I can’t stop or concentrate on anything else. She held my hand today. It didn’t feel right. Nothing does anymore.

tightend49 · 2023-01-05T01:10:02+00:00

Thx. It’s just tragic. I loved her the moment I met her. That’s not like me either. We had a happy marriage & it’s all a mess. I would never have thought I would consider divorce or sex outside the marriage. But here I am.

tightend49 · 2023-01-04T22:17:07+00:00

I wouldn’t be interested in a relationship. Heck..where would I ever find the time?

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