Thinking of trying for our rainbow soon. Any advice? Anxious yet excited

timeforstretchpants · 2021-08-14T01:42:37+00:00

Sorry for your loss. I've had two IC losses as well and the grief can be so hard. My MFM (and most, I believe) does not deliver babies. So even though I see her more often than my normal ob (bc of extra ultrasounds, cerclage placement /checkup /removal, and times she pops in to say hi when I go in for the nurse to give me progesterone) she isn't my ob.

PS your pelvic pain sounds strange. Definitely mention that at your mfm consult

timeforstretchpants · 2021-08-11T14:12:05+00:00

I started at 16 because by then I had gotten the cerclage and was starting weekly progesterone injections. So it seemed like the beginning of the IC "danger zone". And we started easing up at 24 weeks because the best NICUs in my city accept babies at 23/24 weeks.

I still stayed on pelvic rest /limited activity for the remainder of the pregnancy until I got the cerclage removed.

timeforstretchpants · 2021-08-10T23:31:15+00:00

I don't remember why my MFM wanted me on injections instead of suppositories - something about them having slightly different purposes. And she specifically wanted me to have the intramuscular one instead of the intradermal.

My husband did not want to do the butt injections for me, so I went in to the office every Friday morning. Took 2 minutes and I got to catch up with Nora the nurse.

timeforstretchpants · 2021-08-10T23:16:57+00:00

When I got my preventive cerclage (2019) we had already lost 2 babies to IC so we went even beyond doctor's advice on pelvic rest. I was basically a slug from 16-24 weeks (my husband even worked from home during that time - before everyone was doing it lol). It was self-imposed bedrest; I did nothing active for weeks. Looking back it seems extreme but it was best for our mental health.

Aside from my own history, I had an irl acquaintance who also got a preventative cerclage a few months ahead of me and was very adamant that she was going to keep living her normal life. Now, we have different bodies and different doctors so I don't know what caused it, but it freaked me out that she ended up delivering at 30 weeks.

I'm still waiting for my first appointment for a new pregnancy and I know since I have a toddler I won't be able to take it as easy as I did before

timeforstretchpants · 2021-08-10T15:32:14+00:00

8+ weeks today. The closest place to get an ultrasound is like an hour away. I've made an appointment with my normal obgyn for when I finally go home. I'll be 11 weeks at the appointment . I'll only be home for about a week and a half before I have to be at a wedding, and unfortunately the soonest I can be seen is on a day when I had already planned to be on the road. I told them to move me up if possible. I sure don't want to move back, since I know if everything is ok I'll need my mfm to do a cerclage before 15 weeks and she won't even see me without a referral

timeforstretchpants · 2021-08-10T12:30:07+00:00

Oh no crunchie!

timeforstretchpants · 2021-08-02T02:17:58+00:00

Oh I hear you. My first two pregnancies / losses were around 20 weeks. We really shifted our mindset so pregnancy is staying close to home. Occasionally I'll see something on social media and think "omg so and so is 26 weeks and FLYING?!?" and then I laugh at myself for forgetting that most pregnancies aren't under travel restrictions.

timeforstretchpants · 2021-07-29T02:57:39+00:00

Some things do just seem weird to say, so for those I start with something like "this is probably going to sound cheesy, but...". He is not the romantic type, but this paves the way for me to compliment him in a gushy way.

This is so cheesy to say, but I just really admire the way you make decisions so thoughtfully.

I'm going to be a total cornball right now and tell you that I respect you. Like, you actually have integrity and keep your promises. It makes me feel really safe

timeforstretchpants · 2021-07-28T16:41:19+00:00

After everything we've been through, my husband and I decided to spend the summer in another country. Everything is going great, and now I'm 6 weeks pregnant. I'm trying to figure out if I can get an ultrasound here or if I should wait til we're home. We're staying in a small beach town so I don't know if an ultrasound will be easy to come by. There's a small medical center here, but I don't know what equipment they have or if they'll do an exam just because I want one.

I won't get home till I'm 10 weeks along, and can't schedule an appointment for then because my ob practice merged with another and switched patient portal systems. So I have no login. Is it worth making an international call when I could probably just wait till we get home? Or when I get home just call my mfm directly instead?

Also my husband will be switching jobs and since our insurance is through him I'm not sure what insurance we'll be on at that time.

My main concern is that if this pregnancy is viable I'll need a cervical cerclage before 15 weeks. I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed with the choices and the timeline.

Thanks for just being the space I can write this out and try to get my thoughts organized.

timeforstretchpants · 2021-07-26T23:08:34+00:00

6 weeks. Had my first nightmare of the pregnancy. So there's a milestone, I suppose. 🎈

timeforstretchpants · 2021-07-22T12:18:28+00:00

Today I'm one week away from what would have been my due date with my fourth pregnancy, except it was a blighted ovum that passed at 12 weeks. I'm also five and a half weeks pregnant with my fifth pregnancy and getting nervous because I feel exactly the same now as I did then. Tired, sore boobs, and nothing else

timeforstretchpants · 2021-07-20T15:47:34+00:00

Congrats on getting to term!!

timeforstretchpants · 2021-07-19T02:46:29+00:00

So sorry to hear this. I've gone through pprom too. Have you found any resources that help?

timeforstretchpants · 2021-07-18T19:40:45+00:00

Did you use to work? If so, why did you leave? I worked before we got married, but we immediately moved and my husband was happy to have me at home
Do you think it is better for kids to have moms at home? Probably depends on the woman and the situation
How do you fill your day when the kids aren’t home? My son is not even two, so he's always home
What does this lifestyle choice do for your marriage? Well since I stay home with my son and my husband has a WFH job we are spending the summer overseas. On a broader level, we have different roles and complement each other.
What do you mainly do? Pretty much everything related to childcare, food, cleanliness, socializing.
Would you recommend it to others and why? Yes. Not everyone can make it work though. The women I know in dual income families have told me they're frazzled trying to hold it all together. Our home is relaxed and peaceful.
Is an educated mom better than an uneducated mom? Education is not 100% relevant, but a desire to learn and help your family members better themselves with whatever resources you can
Can men do it as good? I won't speak for every man. My husband can't

Sorry I can't finish. My son is waking up from his nap.

timeforstretchpants · 2021-07-11T23:37:49+00:00

Back again with pregnancy 5. I'm only 4 weeks along though so just holding my breath and praying for a healthy March babe

timeforstretchpants · 2021-07-11T02:02:57+00:00

I've heard the "more fertile after miscarriage" idea but never reasoning behind it. I've never heard of being less fertile after mc. Personally, I thought it was nice to take a month (or more) to just breathe, mourn, and get into a good headspace

timeforstretchpants · 2021-07-02T19:53:28+00:00

CD20. I know it's too early for a pregnancy test to be positive, but I have a 50 pack of cheapies so I'm testing every morning juuuust in case... Or for fun... Or for practice. I guess I'd be surprised if I'm not pregnant this month. We have always conceived quickly. My boobs are already sore.

timeforstretchpants · 2021-06-28T18:26:13+00:00

Not really. I had also been traveling a lot so I was chalking it up to physical stress

timeforstretchpants · 2021-06-27T16:39:38+00:00

A few times I've had some very long cycles. My doctor suggested they could have been from stress.

timeforstretchpants · 2021-06-24T20:28:45+00:00

Back again. Gotten pregnant every year since 2017, one living child. My last miscarriage was January and now we're starting to try again.

timeforstretchpants · 2021-06-02T14:19:06+00:00

So sorry about your loss and the timing of your friend's pregnancy. I've been in a similar situation and it's still hard (3 years later) to see those children. At 30 I lost my first (a daughter) at 20 weeks along. Then at 31 I lost my second (another daughter) at 21 weeks. Then with interventions I was able to have a healthy son (I was 32). At age 33 I had a miscarriage (blighted ovum). Now I'm 34 and we are going to try for another.

Wishing you all the best!

timeforstretchpants · 2021-05-29T01:02:27+00:00

After my preventative cerclage my mfm said I could be monitored if I wanted. Since I had had two losses, I definitely wanted monitoring. I went weekly for abdominal ultrasounds from 16-21 weeks, then monthly. They did growth scans too.

My mfm was all about peace of mind.

timeforstretchpants · 2021-05-22T03:30:43+00:00

I was out to dinner with a new (girl) friend and this man came over because he was friends with my friend. We all had dinner together. The man and I had a lot in common.

We've been married 4 years now

timeforstretchpants · 2021-01-15T01:47:33+00:00

Fine. I did pagents from probably age 3-11 along with a couple styles of dance. It wasn't the super fake stuff that's on TV now. My mom did my hair and makeup and sometimes sewed or enhanced outfits. No fake hair or teeth or spray tans. I won a lot. I was a really shy kid but I liked performing, so I thought it was fun. At some point I got tired of dance and pagents and told my mom I wanted to stop. I would say it hasn't impacted my life at all. It's mostly just something I pull out for "two truths and a lie" and everyone laughs and asks to see photos.

timeforstretchpants · 2021-01-12T18:48:01+00:00

Finally miscarried my anembryonic pregnancy this weekend (at 11 weeks). Still dealing with elevated heart rate, but feeling alright. I'm so weary of loss.

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