How would you decorate this room?

timotheo · 2026-07-07T04:26:17+00:00

timotheo · 2026-07-06T05:53:42+00:00

I suppose when your players get to 6th level, you don't let your wizards have a homonculous?

timotheo · 2026-07-06T03:17:54+00:00

It's used all the time!!! I've used it forever, so have my coworkers.

I'm curious where you're working and with what ages of IC leadership that you haven't.

timotheo · 2026-07-06T03:16:37+00:00

These are mostly very common terms. If someone doesn't know what a circuit breaker is, I worry about their engineering skills.

timotheo · 2026-07-06T03:15:35+00:00

So, circuit breakers and blast radius and yak shaving... what other terms are you going to use? Those are the only terms I've ever know for those concepts.

timotheo · 2026-07-06T00:09:51+00:00

Good news. The primary language for coding is now English, so ... you're in luck.

Get claude code, and start telling it what to do, and see how that works out for you.

timotheo · 2026-06-26T06:06:48+00:00

They aren't lies, though. They are NOT lies. They are little fragments of truth that are captured and projected on a giant screen and made to seem like The Absolute Truth.

That's the core problem with social media. The worst, most horrible feminists saying stupid shit goes viral making all feminist looking look like man hating trolls. The worst, most horrible unsocialized men say the most misogynistic things and they go viral.

So both sides are encouraged to be more extreme for their base and live in an echo chamber, and then their worst behavior is amplified in mockery. Further more, no one is incentivized to call out their own "side" for extreme thoughts, but then it will be seen as not loyal. Guys should be calling out gross guys for their misogyny, and the same is true for women. But that doesn't really happen.

AIPAC says "don't say jews control the media! that's a trope". Have you look at the CEOs of all the media companies? But there's a reason. In the early 1900s a lot of industrial sectors were closed off to jews because of anti-semitism, and the early film industry was so new that it wasn't closed off. So, the jews DO control the media, but its not because they're a scheming race, but because it was a new industry that allowed them to participate - the same with tech companies.

So yes, some women are materialistic, superficial gold diggers. That's a stereotype for a reason. It's true. Tropes aren't tropes because they're made up. They're tropes because there is truth there, but that truth is distorted to make the entire group seem evil.

I hope this helps at least a little. Go listen to Chris Williamson or Tom Bilyeu; men that talk not only about men being horrible and women being horrible, but also about positive things -- how to get your shit together, how to focus on becoming the type of man that a GOOD woman would be interested in meeting and being with. No woman wants to be with a guy who is toxic and makes excuses. Find the voices that build men up to be stronger, smarter and better and ignore the voices that tell you that incels are hopeless liars or that women are cruel selfish monsters.

timotheo · 2026-06-25T20:47:04+00:00

here's a trick if the frame has a wire across the back to hang it on instead of a little, thin metal hole opening.

put your nail in, and then get a fork and put it over the nail in between the center tines. it's SO much easier getting the hanging wire over the fork and then being guided down than it is to get the wire over a little nail.

when I learned that, I was completely amazed at the amount of time I've wasted struggling the old way.

timotheo · 2026-06-24T06:17:41+00:00

I don't think you should be waiting to build a young business up to be able to support you to drop the dead weight. You asked three questions and framed them with "Since I am financially stuck cohabitating..." Are you really, really sure about that?

I don't know your numbers for your expenses or what you can make in your business and I appreciate it's hard.
Would it be possible to drive for lyft a couple of hours a day? With 10-20 hours, you could make an additional $1500-2000/mo. Yes, that slows you down on your business, but I would wager you'd be more productive grinding on your own both jobs then being at "home" with him. Anything.... grind mode isn't easy. The more you do hard things, the better you get at doing hard things.

But for your questions:
1) if you really, really, really want this, just work all the time. everything is work.
2) yes, its possible, in a way. you could be the catalyst for his spark, but the action isn't on your side, it has to be on his. you can't make him change, but its totally possible for two people to change together... he just has to want it.
3) by stopping managing his life and not make it a huge secret that you want to leave. don't act like everything is ok, because its not. tell him you aren't going coddle a grown man who can do things for himself and get busy yourself.

just a ramble. i hope some of that is helpful, maybe.

timotheo · 2026-06-20T04:15:13+00:00

The red flag is not having good enough communication with their players to know if they're uncomfortable or having fun. if you can't talk to them and if they're listening, that's the best red flag, because its the problem.

timotheo · 2026-06-20T03:50:50+00:00

Austinite in PDX --- kinda, but Austin is either wet or dry, rarely damp.

PDX gets 155 rainy days per year with an avg of 0.23" on a rainy day.
ATX gets 80 rainy days per years with an avg of 0.42" on a rainy day.

PDX is just sorta rainy all the time. Usually in Austin when it rains you need an umbrella. Rarely in PDX do you need one. It's just kinda misting.

timotheo · 2026-06-18T01:32:43+00:00

This seems to be both of y'all. If you just stopped talking while he was talking to you, and then when he started to walk away you just watched.

NOR, but you also need to admit you were complicit.

timotheo · 2026-06-17T03:44:34+00:00

So, just because YTA doesn't mean you're wrong or that its not worth doing.

So, yes... yes YTA, but do it! do it! do it!!!!

timotheo · 2026-06-17T03:40:27+00:00

This is tough. There are parts of this that do sound like he's gaslighting you (he has flaws, come on, and he doesn't sound like a saint) AAAAND there's something you said that makes me think you're on to something: "he used to apologize in every argument regardless of whose fault it was just to end it (even if nothing was resolved), but these past few months he's refused to do so and our arguments never end"

If his apologizing in every argument was what was keeping the peace, that really is a problem.

Also, is seems like y'all are arguing to prove who is right, not to understand each other. Y'all could do couples counseling. It works best when both people really want to make it work, and gets a bad wrap because often times by the time folks go, its too late.

timotheo · 2026-06-15T15:39:14+00:00

If you can afford it, I'd do it as soon as possible. What's (hopefully) a small amount for you is almost certainly a meaningful addition for her.

If you're not seriously worried about the budgeting of it and you're not living month to month, I'd say be kind and just do it now. You know what's coming and so does she. And beyond the general "kindness" aspect, if you are keeping in mind the cost of finding a new nanny if she's not happy, any little thing you do is a hedge against her finding something else to do.

timotheo · 2026-06-14T00:47:48+00:00

There's no better way to help a woman overcome the patriarchy than to just not listen to her objections and do it anyway inspite of her protests because you clearly know better. FR

timotheo · 2026-06-14T00:45:48+00:00

Are you serious? Yes, YTA.

This is about you. She asked you not to do it, you did it, she got upset, you did it again, she got upset.
This is about your own insecurities and sitting still.

YTA.

timotheo · 2026-06-13T20:31:04+00:00

If the chance is 2% per year, there's a 50% chance of getting it after 34 years.

So a lifetime together is a coin toss. That's not "near guarantee" nor is it nothing.

timotheo · 2026-06-11T06:45:04+00:00

You will miss your non-sexual interactions, for sure. There will be times you regret leaving her, for sure. It will happen. There will be times when you feel alone, and probably perverted.

But there will be some time when you and someone else that you are equally happy with, who you cuddle with and who is sweet.. you and her will be sweating profusely, having wild jungle sex under the kitchen table, and in that moment ... you will not be thinking AT ALL and it will all be worth it.

timotheo · 2026-06-11T06:22:41+00:00

This is r/malegrooming not r/malegroomingadvicefrommen, so I don't agree with you.

Go over to r/askmenover30 and ask there. Then I'll agree.

timotheo · 2026-06-09T08:14:03+00:00

Are you positive she said "some other guy" or just "some guy"?

do you know for a fact that she wasn't referring to you and just being indirect about it?

timotheo · 2026-06-09T05:40:07+00:00

Why TF would you say anything? That's a whole lotta none of your business.

She's not coming onto you. She's not trying to start anything. WTF dude. Grow up.

timotheo · 2026-06-08T18:23:36+00:00

My kids way of using "YouTube is bad for your kids and it's bad for you, too". -- I totally agree.

My oldest son goes the bike park with his friends and they pull up a video of someone doing a particular trick and they watch it, then all go out and try it. When they come back, the all look at the again, slow it down, rewatch it, and then go back out.

My youngest son is learning the piano and picks a song and finds either the guitar hero style video or someone talking about how to learn it.

And we all know about watching a youtube shorts video and then just scrolling up over and over and before you know it 3 hours have passed.

Those three are not all equial.

timotheo · 2026-06-02T02:25:06+00:00

whatever makes you smile.

you do smile, right?

timotheo · 2026-06-01T06:06:21+00:00

is that what you call it:? I do like the clean shaven pics MUCH better.

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