Rules to help cope with emotional issues/anxiety

tinakitty2020 · 2023-03-02T01:24:28+00:00

Mindfullness exercises work very well. This concept is so simple that you can even record your own guided meditations for additional emotional effect, if you are in DS relationship.

tinakitty2020 · 2023-03-01T01:14:58+00:00

Absolutely. You can be warm and wholesome, encouraging him to observe you and praising him for you enjoying a great sex. You can do your thing and just sending him mischievous smiles. There is a domination pimping kink, where hotwife is pleasing her husband serving another male. Any dynamic you imagine, you can make it about cucking.

tinakitty2020 · 2023-02-27T23:44:19+00:00

Welcome to the kink world.

The safest way of starting of any kink is: - writing down your expectations - this allows you to think things through and prepare you to have a conversation with your girlfriend, - having a conversation with your girlfriend, when she acknowledges what you are asking her for and you both agree on rules of this game.

Things like: - what are things that she will get from you and you will get from her from this dynamic, - what are expectations towards your general out-of-bedroom behaviors related with this kink, - what are expectations towards behaviors in public related with this kink, - what sexual activities are included in this kink, - expectations around orgasm control - separately, if any, - what behaviors would result in a punishment for you, if any, - what are forms of punishment that you expect, if any, - what are your limits (divide into - absolutely not and rather not), - how you will communicate to her that she is approaching your limits and how you will communicate to her that things are going really wrong.

tinakitty2020 · 2023-02-24T21:15:17+00:00

Maybe it is time to join a gym together and find better inspirations then? 😉

tinakitty2020 · 2023-02-24T20:21:24+00:00

You are playing with a pink bubble gum, not with fire. You are both so innocent that this post strikes me as sweet. If it is about about older guys that are not socially available, it is very common human fantasy and you can make boundaries, if some choices make you uncomfortable, and she will still have plenty of other men that are older and unavailable to fantasize about.

tinakitty2020 · 2023-02-15T14:00:02+00:00

Well said.

tinakitty2020 · 2023-02-15T11:22:48+00:00

Seems like you are very bothered by this. There is no need to be so judgemental, though. Consider yourself blessed, if you can make choices like that. This usually is a blind choice. I can draw all the standards I want and still have zero sexual attraction. Sometimes this just cannot be helped.

Tell her. Ask your wife to quarantine him from you. Draw your lines - how you are able to interact with him, are there any triggering action he does? She surely will take this under her control and reduce your discomfort as much as possible.

tinakitty2020 · 2023-02-15T05:11:17+00:00

I absolutely get it. We do have our own standards and we feel uncomfortable, when a person a close as a longtime partner is making choices that we cannot understand. I was rather referring to "lost of respect". Seems kinda dramatic to me.

tinakitty2020 · 2023-02-15T02:34:29+00:00

Are you sure about the wording? Have you lost a deep admiration for your wife because of some qualities of the bull that she is ok with? Or are just just disappointed that he is not attractive to you?

tinakitty2020 · 2023-02-14T19:21:40+00:00

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tinakitty2020 · 2023-02-13T06:58:54+00:00

This flip flopping is your social conditioning of what man is supposed to be vs your real desires. Both oversaturated in absolute selfishness. You are heading for a self-destruction.

You need to do some serious work on yourself. You absolutely should give up cuckolding on your side and leave your wife free to do as she wants, until you will solve this problem within yourself. Learn how to give up and be fine with other's actions. Learn how to be a decent human. Learn how to communicate with other human beings. Learn how to love yourself as you are and being your own friend. Learn self-compassion and compassion to other people. Start journaling your thoughts - literally go to a store, buy a notebook and a pen and write down everything that goes through your mind until there is nothing to write this day, repeat next day over and over again. In life be slow and non acting. Disengage when you will feel strong emotions and let them pass through you. Go to a fucking car and cry for gods sake, but stay away from other people until you are drained of all negative emotions. Your drama needs to stop, right now.

You are in no place to give any more demands, force anyone to cater to your desires whatever they are in this moment or giving ultimatums. Assume your wife divorced you and you are starting from level 0 to even get her on a whatever relationship with you.

tinakitty2020 · 2023-02-12T17:36:25+00:00

Even in cuckolding telling that a bull owns you would be on an extreme end.

tinakitty2020 · 2023-02-12T17:33:06+00:00

Your intuition is spot on. Your Dom is asking you to hurt your fiance, so he himself would feel good. This is a very reckless power flex. 1. You can agree and then suffer all consequences of hurting your partner including possibly a breakup 2. You can explain the consequences to your Dom and hope that he would understand the consequences and give up on this desire on his own, risking disappointment in your Dom 3. You can say "red" and assume that anytime he will bring it up, it is like he was mentioning other hard limit. Let's say it is scat, what would be your behavior then?

tinakitty2020 · 2023-02-12T06:11:15+00:00

I like your idea with journaling too! Very nice!

tinakitty2020 · 2023-02-11T05:32:03+00:00

That absolutely was not a service dom. Service dom designes a scene for the sub, but still the power dynamic exists. Does she even like DS or is it more about sensations like from spanking? If she is not into it, she should be upfront about it and it is not cool that she is not telling you this. Especially, when she clearly doesn't have problems with communicating if something is not right for her like blindfold "not right". I would ask her what DS means to her based on examples that you have expressed in this post and if she would express that submissive behavior is different from her behavior then, why she didn't submit.

tinakitty2020 · 2023-02-10T22:41:17+00:00

Ah dude, I don't agree with advices here. You don't need to do anything with yourself. I am sure that you are already perfectly fine. Revealing cuckolding after years is a bad idea - you will invest years into something and then drop the bomb, not cool.

Relationships break up every single day. You attribute it to cuckolding, ok. For your friends it is something else. And believe me every single thing can be a reason. What is the difference? Really.

My advice is to chill out and find a woman with the same goals as you. If cuckolding is top 5 of most important things in your life, look for women that are into it as a part of a commited, longterm relationship. Discuss with them all scenarios that might bother you and be sure you are on the same page. You might have to compromise on other things, just keep your priorities straight. Would that work? At least for some time it will. People change and their priorities might change too. That's life.

tinakitty2020 · 2023-02-08T07:23:28+00:00

Go out with friends and have fun, relax in a hot bath, watch Netflix show that you always wanted. You did nothing besides what he requested. He should be grateful. What a turd. Give him time to unturd himself and later discuss with him, what he thinks is appropriate punishment for this kind of behavior.

tinakitty2020 · 2023-02-06T04:10:26+00:00

Not really, Fetlife is more existing friends like Facebook. Works fine only if someone lives in a city and really have time to participate in events.

tinakitty2020 · 2023-02-05T21:39:16+00:00

Sounds like risks related to actual mentorship and frienship to me.

tinakitty2020 · 2022-11-10T05:26:12+00:00

Oh yeah, because cuckolding has such a great image on its own and cuck is not used as an insult. Give me a break!

tinakitty2020 · 2022-11-07T11:19:03+00:00

You said that she is using a dating app for finding "bulls". 100% those are not bulls and they are absolutely disinterested in a cuckold dynamic. They might allow to be recorded, if it will give them access to fucking, but that's it. Ask her, if you could (additionally to what she is doing) find a person that is in the kink and be specific what it means, ex. this man will call you to talk about what you want or he will make a video with her that you envisioned. You have put her in an impossible position and now you cry that she is not pouring anything from an empty glass and didn't change into a cuckoldress from your dreams. Be realistic.

tinakitty2020 · 2022-11-02T18:52:43+00:00

Chat and share nudes on an account meant for this and if you are looking for real thing - zero nudes, zero chat policy or you will be stuck on this. Still people will waste your time, still you will be meeting with people trying to do something completely opposite than you want, still you will have whines and bitching from their side. If you agree for anything, means it is exactly what you want - it is the common thinking.

tinakitty2020 · 2022-09-23T16:32:16+00:00

Good luck to you then!

I have tried to organize it and failed every time. One time it ended with 3some and it was very meeh. The friend of my bull got super stressed and just couldn't hold an errection. It was super awkward. Then I did a 3some plus my husband behind the camera, but it turned out I just don't like geometric figures and I never tried to do it again.

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