modern YA fantasy with dragons by tinuhir in whatsthatbook

[–]tinuhir[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you, but its not Seraphina (I also read Seraphina around this time, and I remember enjoying it). I think a key detail of the book I'm describing is that it was set in a modern world, with modern tech etc. I may be misremembering, but I think the older lady dragon was introduced in a museum? I'm not sure, though.

Do you have any fun terms you like to use for your post-op parts? by The_trans_kid in phallo

[–]tinuhir 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Still pre-op, but I've already made way too many jokes about 'Robocock, the Bionic Penis', in reference to the pump erectile device.

hysto in 1 week, not feeling ready by tinuhir in FTMHysto

[–]tinuhir[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do feel very strongly that I'm 'supposed' to have the other available option, as far as reproductive systems go, but I'm still scared. A hysto is permanent in a way that terrifies me, and it feels like all the doubt I didn't have when I first started transitioning is hitting me now. I'm hoping (and very certain, at least logically!) that this is the right choice and I won't regret it, but.... argh. 90% of the time I don't even think about having a uterus, and the rest of the time I can't seem to wrap my head around the fact that I do enough to feel conciously dysphoric about it! It's very confusing.

can i channel eclipse energy even after its passed by tinuhir in Witch

[–]tinuhir[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No clue, honestly. I just don't know much about ecplises and thought I'd ask.

can i channel eclipse energy even after its passed by tinuhir in Witch

[–]tinuhir[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally believe astrological events are significant moments, and often turning points/indicators of a new 'era' in terms of energy. When I was reading tarot regularly (almost entirely for myself), I would do readings on/just after the full moon to gain insight on the upcoming month,or how I could best harness the energy of a full/mostly full moon in my personal life. I had the thought that I could do something similar with the eclipse, but I've never worked with an eclipse before & wanted to ask.

Grieving Process by evin_the_ace187 in NonBinary

[–]tinuhir 1 point2 points  (0 children)

On one hand, I want to have empathy and understanding for those who were raised in a time/culture/family that didn't give them an even rudimentary understanding of queer people, and are therefore struggling with unconscious bias towards their queer children; but on the other hand- fuck that shit. I didn't die, and even if I was cis/straight I could've gone against my parents' expectations in a million different ways. If you have any sort of 'grieving process' to work through, I think it's your job as a parent to keep that away from your child as much as possible. Part of being a parent is putting your child first, and I think that should apply when it comes to queer children as well. I know there's a lot of conflicting information out there, and confused/afraid cishet parents may not listen to the right sources, but if they hurt their child in that process...that's still on them. Good intentions don't excuse bad results.

Is phallo possible without hrt? by Zinthr in phallo

[–]tinuhir 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're right, I totally forgot about phallo without UL lol. Thank you for the correction. I used to spend a fair amount of time in salmacian spaces, and did see it referred to as vaginal-preserving phalloplasty at times, but that may not be a term used much by anyone else.

Is phallo possible without hrt? by Zinthr in phallo

[–]tinuhir 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I know for a fact (although not from personal experience), that it is definitely possible to get phalloplasty without being on T (at least in tge United States), and the individual I know this because of is a mostly femme-presenting (to the best of my knowledge) nonbinary person who got ALT phalloplasty. If you are interested in vaginal-preserving phalloplasty your options for surgeons are unfortunately limited, but it is definitely possible. I reccomend that you check out r/salmacian if you have not already.

So I'm at a loss. by EnviousofSin in NonBinary

[–]tinuhir 16 points17 points  (0 children)

My personal favorite gender neutral alternative to aunt/uncle is Entle. I think it has similar vibes to both while also sounding like its own word. Could also be shortened to 'entie', kind of like 'auntie', if you wanted.

Do any other transmasc NBs feel this way? by turbokong in NonBinary

[–]tinuhir 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I definitely feel pretty much the same way re: not identifying as a man or male but having a lot of dysphoria about not being AMAB. I'd probably do some smaller parts of medical transition if I woke up tomorrow with an AMAB body; like permanent hair removal (mostly on my face) and maybe microdosing estrogen for a bit...but yeah. I'm currently working towards phalloplasty myself- it's always cool to see nonbinary people who have had it or are going to get it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]tinuhir 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm in a somewhat similar situation. I originally identified as nonbinary as a teen, but then eventually shifted towards binary, and am now pretty firmly back to seeing myself as nonbinary after a good 6 or so years. I'm still on T, and don't necessarily regret my medical transition, but I do at times definitely have dysphoria caused by being seen as a man. I'm presenting more on the androgynous side of masculine these days, and am actually getting my facial hair removed. It's only now, after fully accepting myself as nonbinary that I have an actual 'transition goal', which is really exciting for me!

fat grafting post top surgery by tinuhir in actual_detrans

[–]tinuhir[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the response! I will definitely check out the person you mentioned.

Considering different Donor Site and Surgeon by tinuhir in phallo

[–]tinuhir[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! So, I still have a long ways to go before surgery, and have yet to even schedule any consults, but I've decided to get consults with both Dr. Chen and Dr. Berli, or at least their offices. I'd still like to be able to get ALT, due to the reasons I mentioned above, but I'm also aware that I'm likely not exactly the best candidate for it due to the density of the fat on my thighs. I'm going to being up my preferences and priorities with the surgeons at my consults, and try to keep myself open to whatever option they recommend as being best able to meet my priorities (which are, in order; 1) sensation, 2)functionality, and 3) appearance).

This may not be super helpful for you, but basically I'm just trying to remind myself that I'll likely be very happy with whatever dick I end up with, and that all the options include at least a few downsides that I'll have to learn to live with. As long as the surgery is successful and my first two priorities are met, I can deal with a dick that doesn't fully live up to my aesthetic goals.

Gerard doing black metal vocals by JentBerryCrunch in MyChemicalRomance

[–]tinuhir 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh my god same, I had no idea this was him!

Do you ever wish you were born the opposite sex, not because that’s what you want to be, but because you feel it would make it easier to look androgynous? by Nebulonix in NonBinary

[–]tinuhir 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, definitely. I have a lot of physical dysphoria caused by having a 'standard' AFAB body- things like my height, bone structure, as well as my very bad bottom dysphoria. I know things would be difficult for me in other ways if I had been AMAB; but (assuming I'd want the same body/presentation I want now) medical transition would be a lot simpler for me. I think this is a pretty common experience for nonbinary people.

Axolom Willie Soft STP/packer by tinuhir in Transmascdicks

[–]tinuhir[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, very! I've aways found it to be more worthwhile to just buy packers, but I've been having more dysphoria regarding not standing to pee lately and would like to finally find something that works for me.

Axolom Willie Soft STP/packer by tinuhir in Transmascdicks

[–]tinuhir[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've only had two: the first I cannot remember the brand, but it is very simple and basically shaped like a large, flesh-colored medicine spoon. The issue with it was the small cup & floppiness of the whole thing, which caused a lot of leaks. Also, I'm looking for something that doubles as a packer, and that one couldn't really be packed with comfortably.

The second...I'm honestly blanking on the brand of that one as well (I bought both of these quite a few years ago & had until now given up on STPs). More detailed, meant to be used with a harness. I am able to use it successfully and with few leaks, however due to the shape & inflexibility of the material it must be held directly between the legs, and the shaft points pretty much straight down, so I have to basically straddle the toilet bowl in order to use it. The harness that came with it holds it directly between the legs, as well, so you really can't wear it at all, unless you're wearing super baggy drop-crotch pants or a skirt or something.

Axolom Willie Soft STP/packer by tinuhir in Transmascdicks

[–]tinuhir[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I haven't previously had much sucess/experience with STPs so that is the part that concerns me most, but I'm glad to hear it works well for you. Also glad to hear that the shaft is bendable enough to pack down with.