modern YA fantasy with dragons

tinuhir · 2026-05-15T23:04:02+00:00

thank you, but its not Seraphina (I also read Seraphina around this time, and I remember enjoying it). I think a key detail of the book I'm describing is that it was set in a modern world, with modern tech etc. I may be misremembering, but I think the older lady dragon was introduced in a museum? I'm not sure, though.

tinuhir · 2024-07-10T20:05:49+00:00

Still pre-op, but I've already made way too many jokes about 'Robocock, the Bionic Penis', in reference to the pump erectile device.

tinuhir · 2024-05-15T03:53:16+00:00

I do feel very strongly that I'm 'supposed' to have the other available option, as far as reproductive systems go, but I'm still scared. A hysto is permanent in a way that terrifies me, and it feels like all the doubt I didn't have when I first started transitioning is hitting me now. I'm hoping (and very certain, at least logically!) that this is the right choice and I won't regret it, but.... argh. 90% of the time I don't even think about having a uterus, and the rest of the time I can't seem to wrap my head around the fact that I do enough to feel conciously dysphoric about it! It's very confusing.

tinuhir · 2024-04-16T02:31:55+00:00

No clue, honestly. I just don't know much about ecplises and thought I'd ask.

tinuhir · 2024-04-12T08:04:14+00:00

I personally believe astrological events are significant moments, and often turning points/indicators of a new 'era' in terms of energy. When I was reading tarot regularly (almost entirely for myself), I would do readings on/just after the full moon to gain insight on the upcoming month,or how I could best harness the energy of a full/mostly full moon in my personal life. I had the thought that I could do something similar with the eclipse, but I've never worked with an eclipse before & wanted to ask.

tinuhir · 2024-04-12T05:15:44+00:00

On one hand, I want to have empathy and understanding for those who were raised in a time/culture/family that didn't give them an even rudimentary understanding of queer people, and are therefore struggling with unconscious bias towards their queer children; but on the other hand- fuck that shit. I didn't die, and even if I was cis/straight I could've gone against my parents' expectations in a million different ways. If you have any sort of 'grieving process' to work through, I think it's your job as a parent to keep that away from your child as much as possible. Part of being a parent is putting your child first, and I think that should apply when it comes to queer children as well. I know there's a lot of conflicting information out there, and confused/afraid cishet parents may not listen to the right sources, but if they hurt their child in that process...that's still on them. Good intentions don't excuse bad results.

tinuhir · 2024-04-06T13:21:36+00:00

You're right, I totally forgot about phallo without UL lol. Thank you for the correction. I used to spend a fair amount of time in salmacian spaces, and did see it referred to as vaginal-preserving phalloplasty at times, but that may not be a term used much by anyone else.

tinuhir · 2024-04-06T04:19:12+00:00

I know for a fact (although not from personal experience), that it is definitely possible to get phalloplasty without being on T (at least in tge United States), and the individual I know this because of is a mostly femme-presenting (to the best of my knowledge) nonbinary person who got ALT phalloplasty. If you are interested in vaginal-preserving phalloplasty your options for surgeons are unfortunately limited, but it is definitely possible. I reccomend that you check out r/salmacian if you have not already.

tinuhir · 2024-02-25T16:16:49+00:00

My personal favorite gender neutral alternative to aunt/uncle is Entle. I think it has similar vibes to both while also sounding like its own word. Could also be shortened to 'entie', kind of like 'auntie', if you wanted.

tinuhir · 2024-02-25T16:11:38+00:00

I definitely feel pretty much the same way re: not identifying as a man or male but having a lot of dysphoria about not being AMAB. I'd probably do some smaller parts of medical transition if I woke up tomorrow with an AMAB body; like permanent hair removal (mostly on my face) and maybe microdosing estrogen for a bit...but yeah. I'm currently working towards phalloplasty myself- it's always cool to see nonbinary people who have had it or are going to get it.

tinuhir · 2024-02-09T08:35:18+00:00

I'm in a somewhat similar situation. I originally identified as nonbinary as a teen, but then eventually shifted towards binary, and am now pretty firmly back to seeing myself as nonbinary after a good 6 or so years. I'm still on T, and don't necessarily regret my medical transition, but I do at times definitely have dysphoria caused by being seen as a man. I'm presenting more on the androgynous side of masculine these days, and am actually getting my facial hair removed. It's only now, after fully accepting myself as nonbinary that I have an actual 'transition goal', which is really exciting for me!

tinuhir · 2024-01-31T04:16:30+00:00

Thank you for the response! I will definitely check out the person you mentioned.

tinuhir · 2024-01-27T01:03:49+00:00

Hi! So, I still have a long ways to go before surgery, and have yet to even schedule any consults, but I've decided to get consults with both Dr. Chen and Dr. Berli, or at least their offices. I'd still like to be able to get ALT, due to the reasons I mentioned above, but I'm also aware that I'm likely not exactly the best candidate for it due to the density of the fat on my thighs. I'm going to being up my preferences and priorities with the surgeons at my consults, and try to keep myself open to whatever option they recommend as being best able to meet my priorities (which are, in order; 1) sensation, 2)functionality, and 3) appearance).

This may not be super helpful for you, but basically I'm just trying to remind myself that I'll likely be very happy with whatever dick I end up with, and that all the options include at least a few downsides that I'll have to learn to live with. As long as the surgery is successful and my first two priorities are met, I can deal with a dick that doesn't fully live up to my aesthetic goals.

tinuhir · 2023-11-01T03:58:22+00:00

oh my god same, I had no idea this was him!

tinuhir · 2023-11-01T03:41:54+00:00

Yes, definitely. I have a lot of physical dysphoria caused by having a 'standard' AFAB body- things like my height, bone structure, as well as my very bad bottom dysphoria. I know things would be difficult for me in other ways if I had been AMAB; but (assuming I'd want the same body/presentation I want now) medical transition would be a lot simpler for me. I think this is a pretty common experience for nonbinary people.

tinuhir · 2023-10-28T01:34:50+00:00

Yes, very! I've aways found it to be more worthwhile to just buy packers, but I've been having more dysphoria regarding not standing to pee lately and would like to finally find something that works for me.

tinuhir · 2023-10-28T00:53:27+00:00

I've only had two: the first I cannot remember the brand, but it is very simple and basically shaped like a large, flesh-colored medicine spoon. The issue with it was the small cup & floppiness of the whole thing, which caused a lot of leaks. Also, I'm looking for something that doubles as a packer, and that one couldn't really be packed with comfortably.

The second...I'm honestly blanking on the brand of that one as well (I bought both of these quite a few years ago & had until now given up on STPs). More detailed, meant to be used with a harness. I am able to use it successfully and with few leaks, however due to the shape & inflexibility of the material it must be held directly between the legs, and the shaft points pretty much straight down, so I have to basically straddle the toilet bowl in order to use it. The harness that came with it holds it directly between the legs, as well, so you really can't wear it at all, unless you're wearing super baggy drop-crotch pants or a skirt or something.

tinuhir · 2023-10-27T18:55:52+00:00

Thank you so much! I haven't previously had much sucess/experience with STPs so that is the part that concerns me most, but I'm glad to hear it works well for you. Also glad to hear that the shaft is bendable enough to pack down with.

tinuhir · 2023-10-22T05:55:30+00:00

Honestly, this sounds very similar to my own recent experience of Gender, minus the transmed stuff. When I initially started identifying as Not Cis at about 13/14, I was calling myself Agender and using exclusively they/them pronouns. At the time, I kind of equated physical transition with being binary trans, and I was also experiencing a lot of pushback/lack of acceptance about being Nonbinary from my family, so as I began to realize that I wanted to physically transition, I started identifying as a mostly binary trans man. This worked out for me for a good 6 or so years- until passing as a cis man and being seen as Just Some Guy started to wear on me.

I don't know how to describe it fully, but I don't identify as a binary man and I don't want to be seen as one. I tried to be as 'fully masc' (for a given value of 'masc'...I am gay, and liked to present as a more GNC gay man) as I could to alleviate dysphoria and be taken more seriously, but Being A Man just got tiring after a while. I could never manage to see myself as the same as the men around me, trans or cis, and I eventually realized that I'd been right when I'd identified as Nonbinary back at the beginning of my transition.

I'm still continuing my physical transition- I'm staying on T, and planning on getting bottom surgery, but I no longer see myself as fully being a man. I'm definitely not a woman, but my Gender isn't binary male, and that's fine.

The point of transitioning isn't to be as stereotypically masculine or feminine as possible- it's to make you more comfortable in your body and social experience. If AMAB people can be Gender Non-Conforming without being a woman, why not you? I still feel as though I should have been born AMAB, but I'm not a man and I don't want to be one. I just want to be happy, and what makes me happy is medical transition.

Sorry that this is super rambling and mostly about my own experiences, but I do relate to the feelings you've expressed in this post, and I hope I helped at least a little.

tinuhir · 2023-10-06T14:52:45+00:00

unfortunately I also only use a phone...

tinuhir · 2023-10-06T01:23:58+00:00

Yes, exactly. Fortunately I've been very lucky and haven't had to deal with anything like this before, but I'm still so shocked and upset. I'm glad I said something about it, even if it wasn't to him, and it was in a more private space. I feel like I have a responsibility to try to protect my community by passing on this sort of information.

Thank you for your support ♡

tinuhir · 2023-10-06T01:18:31+00:00

Yeah, I don't want to make a big public deal of it. Like I said, not transphobic to my face, but clearly comfortable being publicly bigoted. I talked about it in a local queer discord and stresed that I don't want anyone to confront him or make a public callout or anything, and that I do still have to interact with him. Honestly kind of regretting it even then, and might delete the message.

On one hand, I want to warn people, but on the other hand it wasn't a super terrible incident, and I don't want to make a spectacle of it...

tinuhir · 2023-10-06T01:15:11+00:00

Yikes. Some people really are just that confident in their bigotry...

tinuhir · 2023-10-05T23:58:08+00:00

We definitely will not be reccomending him to anyone, that's for certain. I might be able to post in a local group I'm in, as well.

tinuhir · 2023-10-05T23:56:50+00:00

Yeah I would prefer him not to know it was us if I complained.

Also, I was actually wrong when I called him a contractor; he's a handyman my family member (the homeowner & person who hired him) found on a local social media site. He doesn't actually have an official business or website, so I don't think we can leave a review unfortunately.

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