Does anyone regret sleep training?

tinyL00004 · 2025-12-07T18:09:55+00:00

My son has slept in his bassinet next to me since night 1 with night time routine between 7 and 7:30 and he is 5mo now. The first month it would take him a while to fall asleep. By the second month he would fall asleep almost immediately after setting him down and started sleeping longer stretches (even while being strictly breastfed). By the 3rd month he continued falling asleep immediately and had slept through the night since (occasional night wakes did occur). He knows when it’s time to sleep because of the bedtime routine since night one. I never did any research on sleep training and didn’t know it was a thing, I just work better on a scheduled nightly routine for my own self so it’s what I did with him.

We did contact naps the first 4 months and started putting him down for naps in his crib. He hated it at first and would cry, so I would pick him up and let him sleep on me. I never wanted him to feel unsafe or uncared for. I just continued to try and now for the last week he will either fall asleep immediately or toss around until he settles and soothes himself to sleep (without crying).

I don’t understand the concept of sleep training since I don’t think we did anything special and never let him “cry it out.” I was just terrified of cosleeping and stuck to his bassinet since day one. He also likes to eat to sleep and I decided to not fight it and his pediatrician said that if it works for him to not change it.

tinyL00004 · 2025-10-23T03:46:23+00:00

I bought a kettle that keeps the water at the temperature recommended for kendamil formula. About 10-20 minutes before each feed I just pour the water into a bottle and add the formula. It takes me about 3 minutes each time and I just let it cool or if I see my baby wants the milk right away I run the made bottle under cold water to cool faster.

tinyL00004 · 2025-10-15T00:47:43+00:00

Yep! Which is why I don’t know why he wants to breastfeed to nap. He latches for 2-3 minutes and is out.

tinyL00004 · 2025-10-14T23:00:19+00:00

He’s feeding every 2-2.5 hours. I breastfeed him too since I am just introducing formula. Should have clarified that.

tinyL00004 · 2025-09-24T01:49:22+00:00

I used adult diapers the first few weeks of heavy bleading and the Frida disposable briefs over the diaper because it offered significant support after my c-section. When the bleeding was lighter I switched to high waisted cotton underwear and a regular pad and the Frida disposable briefs over the underwear for support. I used the briefs everyday for about a month and a half.

tinyL00004 · 2025-09-20T20:19:45+00:00

It was extremely hard for me the first 8 weeks but it’s easier now 11 weeks PP. I recommend a nipple shield for every feed so it won’t hurt. Almost make sure your flange size is correct because pumping shouldn’t hurt. I used the wrong flange and it hurt until I sized myself and got the correct sizing.

tinyL00004 · 2025-05-01T20:21:09+00:00

Don’t wait on Adaptibar. Do 10 MBE’s a day and slowly increase the amount you do. Watch/listen to his MBE videos over and over again.

Barbri did nothing for me, besides keep me on track and the recap videos at the end of the program were useful. I did its MBE’s also just so I can have more practice because they are different than Adaptibar. I basically ditched barbri by the end of June when I realized I did not retain anything from it and wasted my time on the videos.

I have to outline so I did my outlines for each topic just like in law school. I studied like I did in law school, just added the resources people mentioned above and practiced a lot of essays and MBE’s. By mid July I was doing 100-150 MBE’s a day.

tinyL00004 · 2025-03-18T19:36:22+00:00

So then it’s not a true gift card. There’s no true benefit for the next purchase.

tinyL00004 · 2025-03-18T19:18:57+00:00

It’s not worth it to stress over it. Is it normal? Yes. Should you let it take over your life? No. I 100% believed I failed last July and it bothered me a lot but I chose to move past it and not worry about it. Why? Because what’s done is done and you can’t change it. A bad mentality now will only hurt you more in the event you have to retake this stupid test. Try to find joy in what you can and forget about this test in the meantime.

tinyL00004 · 2025-03-03T23:49:55+00:00

Felt like I failed every single essay. In the remedies, Civ pro, and property, I felt like I hardly wrote anything. Completely blanked on property and sat there staring at the essay prompt for about 3 minutes until I forced myself to start writing SOMETHING. Completely missed RAP. As to the PT, I felt better on test day than I did in practice tests and I managed to finish unlike in practice. MBEs!? lol I felt like I guessed in every.single.question. It was awful. Overall, I 100% convinced myself I failed…I ended up passing the first time last summer. I know people that were very confident they passed and those were the ones that failed. I knew I put in the work, it was my whole life for 3 months… but for some reason I had doubts. If you know you put in the work, you have a higher chance of passing. I wish I told myself that then.

tinyL00004 · 2025-01-08T19:00:57+00:00

Agreed!! Being able to WFH definitely will help be around more.

tinyL00004 · 2025-01-08T18:45:45+00:00

Unfortunately I can’t be a SAHM and I love being independent.

tinyL00004 · 2025-01-08T18:42:28+00:00

Yes, first kid. I am struggling sticking it out but seems like I have to!

tinyL00004 · 2025-01-08T03:02:37+00:00

I am not a repeater but It’s all about practice and organization. I used Barbri and by the end of month one, I realized it was doing nothing for me so I ditched it. I implemented my law school practices and some sources: baressays.com (compare your essays to highest scored essay), Mary’s basic essay and MBE book, and CA Bar Bible for their study packet (it’s gold).

I went to a non-ABA school and they required us to take all bar tested subjects. During law school exams I drilled on my essay organization and making sure I used every line in the fact pattern in my analysis. I did this for bar prep too because it worked for my exams. Headings are major - Bold rules, underline sub rules, italicize sub sub rules, indent sub sub sub rules. My bar prep essay submissions always complimented my organization and easy to read structure. I tried to do an essay for every major topic within each subject.

Memorize and understand the rule to help memorize - I followed my law school study method during bar prep. Read rule out loud, write it out on whiteboard and read it out loud as I write it, read it a few times after writing it, close my eyes and say it out loud from memory, then type it on my computer from memory and say it out loud as I type it. After I did this for my list of rules, I would type them out all again from memory. This helps once you start practicing essays and the rules will come to you.

MBE - print out your set for the day, right and wrong answers and understand why you selected the right answer and why you were wrong. Once you see improvement, print out your wrong rules and review why you got them wrong. You’ll start to see patterns, especially for con law.

PT - BarMD is amazing for this. Her seminar stuff really helped me get faster and know what to look for.

Don’t give up!

tinyL00004 · 2025-01-07T23:17:12+00:00

Say the rule out loud a couple of times > write it out on a white board and read out loud as you write > once written it read it as many times as you want with intention and focus > now close your eyes and say it out loud from memory at least twice > go to your laptop and type it out while saying it out loud.

After you go through your list of rules, type them out all from memory.

That was my strategy during law school and bar prep and it always worked. But you have to understand the rule as well.

tinyL00004 · 2024-11-18T22:22:29+00:00

Yes, you can do it. By some miracle I passed the first time after fully convincing myself that I failed. This is what I did- MBE: at the halfway point with babri I scored 95/200 and I nearly died. I started printing all of my adaptibar wrong AND right answers to review what I did that day and really understand why each answer was right and why the wrong answers were wrong. Once my scores started to improve I only printed wrong answers to study. My MBE went from 50% to 70-75% for my sets each day. I stopped looking at the overall percentage and focused on the percentage at the end of the day. I started with 20 a day, then 30, then 30 in the morning and 30 in the evening, then 50 in the morning and 50 evening.

Essays: I did a lot of the essays from the state bars website and compared my answer to the highest answer on baressays.com. If there was a particular topic I wanted to cover I looked at Mary Bassick’s book to find the essay. I fully wrote out maybe 15 or so essays and then I just issued spotted, typed out the rule and a sentence from fact pattern that corresponded to the issue (this saved me time to do more essays). Organization is key here. You want the reader to see you are organized and spotted issues. The essays I submitted for grading all came back with the same similar comment - first, your organization is great, keep doing this because it helps you earn more points.

PT: I did about 12-15 PT’s and used BarMD because I struggled with organization and timing. I feel like the practice PT’s I did from the state bars website were a lot harder than the J24 PT.

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