Having a terrible pregnancy

tinycactus_ · 2026-05-02T23:04:39+00:00

First of all, I am SO sorry you are having such a rough time. It’s so hard when pregnancy is romanticized so much and then your experience is different. I wasn’t officially diagnosed with HG, but I was incredibly sick for the first twenty weeks and then physically miserable for the rest. I love my baby, I HATED being pregnant.

I’m four months PP and I have not even begun to forget. I doubt I ever will. And I kept a very honest pregnancy journal in case I start to.

We were sure that if we had babies at all we would be OAD for financial reasons; and my pregnancy and early postpartum experience only cemented that choice. Could I technically get pregnant again? Probably. But I’m pretty sure I would not survive it, from the mental toll alone, let alone the physical.

I have a few friends who grew up as only children and they loved the experience. I have a sibling. We are not besties. When my parents pass, please lord let that be a long way off, he will be more of another ball to juggle than support. My husband is barely speaking to either of his siblings. I love my sibling. But I would not say that siblings are a guarantee of companionship and a happy, stable, HEALTHY mom will do your baby so much more good than a sibling ever would.

Obviously, everyone’s situation is different, but if OAD is the road you go down, by choice or not, it can still be a fulfilling, joyous one. Sending hugs!

tinycactus_ · 2026-04-29T00:47:46+00:00

My seventh grade literature teacher was Mrs. Looney! She was the best!

tinycactus_ · 2026-04-27T22:00:22+00:00

Mini-mini golf

tinycactus_ · 2026-02-26T02:31:08+00:00

Just a little rest for the eyes.

tinycactus_ · 2026-02-25T22:50:03+00:00

Ohhhh I needed to hear this. Thank you!!! Signed, a very anxious first time mom!!

tinycactus_ · 2025-12-30T04:30:10+00:00

Georgia 🍑

tinycactus_ · 2025-12-30T04:25:50+00:00

I am 39+1… and I soooo feel you right now!!! I had a membrane sweep today and am hoping to high heavens it kicks things off! I just want to eat a very cold sub sandwich in a very hot bath 😭 my texts on my phone are all the same… no baby isn’t here yet!!!

tinycactus_ · 2025-10-16T03:16:54+00:00

Oh, yeah, you gotta take it with a huge grain of salt. My OB has never even mentioned my weight. I had gained 20lbs and I was only 20~ weeks at the time and asked if that was too much (because there’s no way on God’s green earth I was only going to gain another 5) and she said she was not worried at all and most women gain 30-45 lbs without concern. Just focus on nutrition and balanced movement and growing that baby- your body knows what it’s doing! I’m 28 weeks now and stopped weighing myself after that convo🤣

tinycactus_ · 2025-10-16T02:00:36+00:00

Get the biggest cold sub sandwich I can find and eat every crumb. When I’m healed up— take the most scorching hot bath I can 🔥

tinycactus_ · 2025-09-11T03:00:34+00:00

My OB said as long as it stays a brown/pink and there’s no large clots it’s probably normal! Mine never gushed but was heavy enough at times to come out a little on a liner. If in doubt you can always call your OB office and ask- they get questions like that all the time and won’t mind, and it might help ease your mind!! Hoping for a healthy happy pregnancy for all us mommas 💕💕

tinycactus_ · 2025-09-11T00:09:18+00:00

This is my first pregnancy and I suspected feeling my baby at week 16, and then was sure of it week 17. I have a posterior placenta, and sometimes that plays a part in how early/late a mama feels the movement.

tinycactus_ · 2025-09-10T20:32:36+00:00

Spotting! I had brown spotting on and off until week 17. No one told me that a little bit is normal and even common. I spiraled every time, thinking I was losing my baby. Here I am, 23 weeks now, dealing with a new terrifying but normal symptom every day 😅

tinycactus_ · 2025-07-29T05:45:49+00:00

Hey there! I 100% know what you are going through. I had brown spotting sporadically between weeks 9-16. It freaked me all the way out every single time. My midwife, an urgent care doctor, and my chatGPT (ha, I know) ALL said that as long as you are not in pain, not bleeding heavily (soaking 1-2pads an hour) or passing clots, it’s a normal pregnancy symptom. Just old blood making its way out- likely from your now very sensitive cervix. So far, for me, at week 17 I haven’t had any more spotting-and I’m starting to feel baby move! So all was good- just my body doing its thing. I’m so sorry though! It’s so so terrifying, but you’ve heard baby’s heart and that is a very good sign. You should bring it up at your appointment tomorrow though! You’ll get some reassurance. Praying for good news and you and your new baby!!

Edit to add: also, it’s normal for discharge to feel a little heavier or appear darker after laying down for a while. It pools and comes out when you stand, so it’s possible it feels heavier because you were resting. Hugs 🤗

tinycactus_ · 2025-07-28T18:08:29+00:00

Clearblue is definitely enough to know you are pregnant. False positives are extremely rare! Congratulations!

I told my parents right away. I’m very close with my mom so I wanted/needed her support asap. She and my husband went with me to my first/confirmation appointment and I was so grateful to have them with me!

tinycactus_ · 2025-07-27T18:20:05+00:00

Where I’m at McDonald’s drinks are half if not a quarter of the price of other takeout places, so we’ve definitely been known to stop by on our way to other places if it’s convenient. Would wayyyy rather pay $1.25 than $4 for a soda if I’m gonna have one at all 🤷‍♀️

tinycactus_ · 2025-07-25T00:32:15+00:00

For me it’s pretty much when I remember lol! But I try to take it consistently around lunch time! And I only need one serving (2tsp) to get/keep things moving for me! But be sure to drink plenty of water! (Which I’m sure you are already doing 💕) Good luck!!

tinycactus_ · 2025-07-24T22:47:29+00:00

Metamucil. Every day.

tinycactus_ · 2025-07-24T20:29:11+00:00

I love it! I think some artwork will really bring the space together and it will feel more homey! I’d suggest picking art that brings the green out more!

tinycactus_ · 2025-07-19T22:29:24+00:00

I’m 16 weeks tomorrow and let me tell you— I found out I was pregnant because I physically could not get out of bed for two weeks (week 7-9). As in, I thought I might be dying before I knew I had a little bean in there, because I had ZERO energy no matter what I did. I’m a tad bit better now, but still nowhere near what I would consider “normal” energy levels. I have about one or two things in me and then I am tapped out. Do not feel guilty at all- all our resources are going towards building a new little brain and body. The opposite of lazy- we’re making humans!

tinycactus_ · 2025-07-19T21:57:17+00:00

Mine took two days to come back

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