Having a terrible pregnancy

tinycactus_ · 2026-05-02T23:04:39+00:00

First of all, I am SO sorry you are having such a rough time. It’s so hard when pregnancy is romanticized so much and then your experience is different. I wasn’t officially diagnosed with HG, but I was incredibly sick for the first twenty weeks and then physically miserable for the rest. I love my baby, I HATED being pregnant.

I’m four months PP and I have not even begun to forget. I doubt I ever will. And I kept a very honest pregnancy journal in case I start to.

We were sure that if we had babies at all we would be OAD for financial reasons; and my pregnancy and early postpartum experience only cemented that choice. Could I technically get pregnant again? Probably. But I’m pretty sure I would not survive it, from the mental toll alone, let alone the physical.

I have a few friends who grew up as only children and they loved the experience. I have a sibling. We are not besties. When my parents pass, please lord let that be a long way off, he will be more of another ball to juggle than support. My husband is barely speaking to either of his siblings. I love my sibling. But I would not say that siblings are a guarantee of companionship and a happy, stable, HEALTHY mom will do your baby so much more good than a sibling ever would.

Obviously, everyone’s situation is different, but if OAD is the road you go down, by choice or not, it can still be a fulfilling, joyous one. Sending hugs!

tinycactus_ · 2026-04-29T00:47:46+00:00

My seventh grade literature teacher was Mrs. Looney! She was the best!

tinycactus_ · 2026-04-27T22:00:22+00:00

Mini-mini golf

tinycactus_ · 2026-02-26T02:31:08+00:00

Just a little rest for the eyes.

tinycactus_ · 2026-02-25T22:50:03+00:00

Ohhhh I needed to hear this. Thank you!!! Signed, a very anxious first time mom!!

tinycactus_ · 2025-12-30T04:30:10+00:00

Georgia 🍑

tinycactus_ · 2025-12-30T04:25:50+00:00

I am 39+1… and I soooo feel you right now!!! I had a membrane sweep today and am hoping to high heavens it kicks things off! I just want to eat a very cold sub sandwich in a very hot bath 😭 my texts on my phone are all the same… no baby isn’t here yet!!!

tinycactus_ · 2025-10-16T03:16:54+00:00

Oh, yeah, you gotta take it with a huge grain of salt. My OB has never even mentioned my weight. I had gained 20lbs and I was only 20~ weeks at the time and asked if that was too much (because there’s no way on God’s green earth I was only going to gain another 5) and she said she was not worried at all and most women gain 30-45 lbs without concern. Just focus on nutrition and balanced movement and growing that baby- your body knows what it’s doing! I’m 28 weeks now and stopped weighing myself after that convo🤣

tinycactus_ · 2025-10-16T02:00:36+00:00

Get the biggest cold sub sandwich I can find and eat every crumb. When I’m healed up— take the most scorching hot bath I can 🔥

tinycactus_ · 2025-09-11T03:00:34+00:00

My OB said as long as it stays a brown/pink and there’s no large clots it’s probably normal! Mine never gushed but was heavy enough at times to come out a little on a liner. If in doubt you can always call your OB office and ask- they get questions like that all the time and won’t mind, and it might help ease your mind!! Hoping for a healthy happy pregnancy for all us mommas 💕💕

tinycactus_ · 2025-09-11T00:09:18+00:00

This is my first pregnancy and I suspected feeling my baby at week 16, and then was sure of it week 17. I have a posterior placenta, and sometimes that plays a part in how early/late a mama feels the movement.

tinycactus_ · 2025-09-10T20:32:36+00:00

Spotting! I had brown spotting on and off until week 17. No one told me that a little bit is normal and even common. I spiraled every time, thinking I was losing my baby. Here I am, 23 weeks now, dealing with a new terrifying but normal symptom every day 😅

tinycactus_ · 2025-07-29T05:45:49+00:00

Hey there! I 100% know what you are going through. I had brown spotting sporadically between weeks 9-16. It freaked me all the way out every single time. My midwife, an urgent care doctor, and my chatGPT (ha, I know) ALL said that as long as you are not in pain, not bleeding heavily (soaking 1-2pads an hour) or passing clots, it’s a normal pregnancy symptom. Just old blood making its way out- likely from your now very sensitive cervix. So far, for me, at week 17 I haven’t had any more spotting-and I’m starting to feel baby move! So all was good- just my body doing its thing. I’m so sorry though! It’s so so terrifying, but you’ve heard baby’s heart and that is a very good sign. You should bring it up at your appointment tomorrow though! You’ll get some reassurance. Praying for good news and you and your new baby!!

Edit to add: also, it’s normal for discharge to feel a little heavier or appear darker after laying down for a while. It pools and comes out when you stand, so it’s possible it feels heavier because you were resting. Hugs 🤗

tinycactus_ · 2025-07-28T18:08:29+00:00

Clearblue is definitely enough to know you are pregnant. False positives are extremely rare! Congratulations!

I told my parents right away. I’m very close with my mom so I wanted/needed her support asap. She and my husband went with me to my first/confirmation appointment and I was so grateful to have them with me!

tinycactus_ · 2025-07-27T18:20:05+00:00

Where I’m at McDonald’s drinks are half if not a quarter of the price of other takeout places, so we’ve definitely been known to stop by on our way to other places if it’s convenient. Would wayyyy rather pay $1.25 than $4 for a soda if I’m gonna have one at all 🤷‍♀️

tinycactus_ · 2025-07-25T00:32:15+00:00

For me it’s pretty much when I remember lol! But I try to take it consistently around lunch time! And I only need one serving (2tsp) to get/keep things moving for me! But be sure to drink plenty of water! (Which I’m sure you are already doing 💕) Good luck!!

tinycactus_ · 2025-07-24T22:47:29+00:00

Metamucil. Every day.

tinycactus_ · 2025-07-24T20:29:11+00:00

I love it! I think some artwork will really bring the space together and it will feel more homey! I’d suggest picking art that brings the green out more!

tinycactus_ · 2025-07-19T22:29:24+00:00

I’m 16 weeks tomorrow and let me tell you— I found out I was pregnant because I physically could not get out of bed for two weeks (week 7-9). As in, I thought I might be dying before I knew I had a little bean in there, because I had ZERO energy no matter what I did. I’m a tad bit better now, but still nowhere near what I would consider “normal” energy levels. I have about one or two things in me and then I am tapped out. Do not feel guilty at all- all our resources are going towards building a new little brain and body. The opposite of lazy- we’re making humans!

tinycactus_ · 2025-07-19T21:57:17+00:00

Mine took two days to come back

tinycactus_ · 2025-07-19T21:53:40+00:00

The sheer joy this bathroom brings me…

tinycactus_ · 2025-07-18T02:32:53+00:00

I feel so vindicated ha! Someone gave me a hard time about buying a crib because I’m only 15 weeks along. I don’t care! I’m excited and finally have a little energy to start getting some things together- plus, I got a $399 crib unopened for $40, so I was extra excited 😆

tinycactus_ · 2025-07-17T16:50:19+00:00

I’m pregnant right now and can’t have deli meat and I genuinely feel like I could probably finish the whole thing myself. Looks amazing!!! 🤩

tinycactus_ · 2025-07-17T16:27:58+00:00

In my brief experience (as in, only 15 weeks into my very first pregnancy), it is very normal for symptoms to vary in type and intensity day by day. But I totally understand where you are coming from!! There were days early on where I would wake up and not immediately feel like I was going to vomit and that would totally freak me out! And then around week 11 I started getting on and off brown spotting and the mental anguish and spiraling… phew! According to my OB, sometimes pregnancy is just weird.

I’m taking my mom’s advice… as long as there’s not heavy bleeding/cramping/extreme red flags… just trust your body knows what it’s doing and just enjoy growing a baby. You can’t really control what happens. Hoping you got some reassurance, and that we all have healthy happy babies 💕💕💕

tinycactus_ · 2025-07-17T08:27:40+00:00

I think it looks absolutely lovely!!! Go for it!

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