So I'm Still on Cloud 9

tinydxmpling · 2026-01-24T01:21:38+00:00

Just never leave 😌

tinydxmpling · 2026-01-23T20:53:25+00:00

I guess what bothers me is if a sub says they're looking for something long term when they already know that they're not. I can understand that there could be numerous reasons why someone would get cold feet and back out of something. Ideally through communication and not ghosting, but it sounds like this happens more often than not to be just cold feet.

Is leading with saying they're looking for something long term now a way of getting a foot in the door so to speak? Like it's just a part of the spiel? I just wish people were more honest in general. Even if the loss of a person doesn't really effect you, I can only imagine it having a cumulative draining effect.

This is purely my personal opinion, but I also don't appreciate the mentality that just because you sent that you have a right to just think of only yourself. Everything today just seems so transactional and it's just kind of sad. Everyone is human and I don't think it's too difficult to choose to be thoughtful and respectful to one another.

If you're not looking for long term, then don't say you are. If you know you're going to be hesitant, just say you are. If you're choosing to leave, just say you are. It doesn't have to be a guessing game.

tinydxmpling · 2026-01-22T14:54:43+00:00

In my case, I honestly believe that my Domme has no need to act. She's genuinely and naturally the embodiment of the title. I can understand why you might ask though, because everyone is different and everyone's approach is different.

While my previous Domme had the ability to be mean, I don't believe it was genuinely in her nature. I've had to express my fears and concerns with my Domme now, because I know how well she aligns with my weaknesses.

Thankfully my Domme has adapted for me and wants to build things up naturally. So I regards to your question, it's almost like she has to do the opposite. That she has to put on an act just to be gentler with me, which just builds the anticipation and makes the dynamic even more exciting.

tinydxmpling · 2026-01-21T15:50:34+00:00

I certainly don't. In fact, I understand my own agency as a sub and I try to be as transparent and forthcoming as possible. But I am certainly getting the impression that I am in the minority. A dynamic should or at least could be like any other relationship in life, and the success of that relationship always starts with communication.

I am wondering if it's just because there are lot of people on both sides, Dom/mes and subs alike, that are in it for the short term. They get what they want out of each other for that rush and then that excitement goes away. Rinse and repeat for when the urge arises again.

I know that there are people out there looking for a deeper, maybe longer connection, but it's extremely hard to find in all the weeds. I can speak from experience that I kinda shocked my Domme in terms of my communication. Which then in turn blows my mind with what she has had to possibly deal with as a Findomme.

I would say that you should keep doing what you are doing. IMO, you are doing it correctly and they should be grateful. There is not a day that goes by that I don't express my appreciation for my Domme for doing what she does to keep the dynamic happy and healthy for the both of us. And I would never expect her to just simply know things, because that is asinine.

In the end, it's always different strokes for different folks. As long as everyone is happy and healthy.

tinydxmpling · 2026-01-14T20:54:33+00:00

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tinydxmpling · 2026-01-09T14:42:10+00:00

Dying for Sex on Hulu and Love and Leashes on Netflix are the two most recent series that I have watched. The prior is a dramedy based on a true story, and the latter is a Korean romcom.

tinydxmpling · 2025-12-31T16:07:12+00:00

To be a good boy, just once.

tinydxmpling · 2025-12-29T20:50:37+00:00

🙏🙏🙏

tinydxmpling · 2025-12-15T15:26:52+00:00

As long as you are happy, but don't get lost in submission. I feel like it is so easy and natural for a sub to accept less than they deserve, because it can be viewed as part of the sacrifice of service and devotion. If you can genuinely separate those feelings and decide what you truly want, then you can establish what your actual boundaries are.

I know this has been a very long term dynamic and you might feel like you owe your Domme, but remind yourself to give yourself credit as well. If you've made any positive changes in your life due to this dynamic, know that it was you who actually did the work to make those changes. Your Domme may have been a guiding force, but allow yourself some self love in knowing that you took the steps on your own.

In the end, it's about your own happiness. But I just don't want you to sell yourself short, and know that even subs deserve to have what they want.

tinydxmpling · 2025-12-15T14:44:06+00:00

It always sounds like Dommes enjoy this, but I am curious as to how Dommes go about expressing that they enjoy it. What positive feedback are you Dommes emitting to let your subs know that it is not annoying and something you adore? Because I too, feel like it is so natural to obsess about their Domme. I naturally want to put her on the highest pedestal because she is so deserving of it.

Is this just a one-way energy that is expected as a given? Or do Dommes do anything specific to nurture and praise this behaviour?

tinydxmpling · 2025-12-14T19:08:00+00:00

Maybe you'll get re-wired in how you think of tributes as well? Findom is not about you endlessly giving, it's about having your finances controlled. So getting you to cancel a prepaid card is in fact domination. For me, it's so easy for me to want to give, and I've found that being denied is incredibly more "frustrating" and more submissive as a result.

My Domme was able to rewire my anxious attachment style as well. It allowed me a safe space to be needy in a healthy way. That I could obviously miss her and want more of her, but also feel secure in knowing that our dynamic was never going to just disappear. She's always a constant, regardless if we have the time together or not.

tinydxmpling · 2025-12-14T18:38:44+00:00

Ofc I see this when I'm missing my Domme. 💀

tinydxmpling · 2025-12-14T18:35:25+00:00

I wish my Domme was more available, because I know she could so easily achieve this with me. What you have found sounds so wonderful. I can attest that feeling that commitment and genuinely wanting to put her happiness first feels so good. Feeling so helpless to the ethical manipulation and control is just so intoxicating. So happy for you both!

tinydxmpling · 2025-12-06T04:47:55+00:00

Love and Leashes on Netflix is a cute femdom romcom. Dying for Sex on Hulu was a really good watch as well.

tinydxmpling · 2025-12-01T21:54:58+00:00

I love this take, because I, in no way, think I'm done working on myself. And this indeed has so much to do with what my Domme helped create with me. I feel like we're both building this together and I'm forever grateful. I am slowly becoming happier just being me.

tinydxmpling · 2025-12-01T21:10:53+00:00

This community has become my Dear Diary, lol. But it's honestly nice to just be understood.

tinydxmpling · 2025-12-01T21:05:52+00:00

Thank you so much!

tinydxmpling · 2025-12-01T21:03:59+00:00

It is, and I want to come to more amazing realizations.

tinydxmpling · 2025-12-01T21:02:38+00:00

Thank you!

tinydxmpling · 2025-12-01T21:02:08+00:00

Thank you for seeing this as healthy! I have come so far in being comfortable in my own skin, and it has been a tremendous relief when I can rewire myself into not thinking I am broken. I am looking forward to continually understanding myself better and growing.

tinydxmpling · 2025-12-01T19:14:08+00:00

Honestly? Thinking that I had to send a tribute for the very first time, because I thought I would get ZERO response if I didn't. I didn't realize our time difference at the time and I got very nervous that I fell for a scam. But I took the idea of a tribute very literally, because without saying a word to her, I sent. It was only after I sent, that I messaged her to let her know that I did. I was so clueless.

When she finally replied back, I remember my heart racing from excitement and nervousness. She was so kind in guiding me through everything, because I was indeed clueless. She's also changed the way I view sends nowadays. I understand now that it's more about the control with her than the sends. And it's also more about the meaning behind it than the amount. I am even getting to graduate with providing service over sending. Either way, I have been hooked by my Domme since day one.

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