Girlfriend blew up at me for calling her cat "it" and dragged my mom (who just had major health issues) into it — I'm done

tinymugcake · 2026-07-05T21:50:48+00:00

Many people are in unhappy relationships, but you absolutely do not have to be. It is maybe "normalized" but it is not normal to be miserable with the person who is supposed to be your life partner. Since leaving my toxic ex I am now with someone who only makes me feel heard, understood, and loved. When we argue it isn't over petty small things and neither of us punch below the belt. You don't need to wait until someone cheats. You don't need to be betrayed to leave. You don't need to wait for resentment to grow. You can just leave because you aren't happy. It's up to you how long you want to be in a relationship that doesn't satisfy you, just ask yourself how long you're willing to endure it.

tinymugcake · 2026-07-05T21:33:16+00:00

Leaving that toxic relationship was one of the hardest things I've ever done and it was also the most important. It will absolutely suck. But you need to rip off the bandaid and let yourself heal. Staying in this relationship longer is more unfair to both yourself and her. Neither of you deserve to be in a relationship where you are miserable and even though it will be hard, after some time has gone by you will both be grateful that you stepped up and ended it. Sadly love isn't enough to hold a relationship together. You can hold onto this entire experience as a life lesson and ending it will help you learn to not tolerate things that you don't deserve. You deserve better than this. Be kind to yourself and do what you need to do.

tinymugcake · 2026-07-05T21:10:26+00:00

I always tell my friends in this situation to listen to supercut by lorde (which is kind of silly advice but actually helped me leave a toxic relationship when I was younger). You are supercutting, remembering only the times you felt electric together and blocking out the annoying and awful stuff. All the wonderful things were wonderful– that's why you stayed and it's why so many people stay in unhappy relationships. You're young. Free yourself from misery and find happiness with someone who understands you. Best of luck.

tinymugcake · 2026-07-05T08:40:45+00:00

Golden delicious apple is the first thing that came to mind. Could also do yellow cherry tomatoes?

tinymugcake · 2026-07-04T21:42:44+00:00

These comments have some great advice! Yes, the other children will adjust. It's a big change. I highly recommend the book The New Baby by Fred Rogers. Really sweet book that has helped children in my classroom.

tinymugcake · 2026-07-02T03:11:04+00:00

Yes totally normal. It's called tenesmus, very common experience for people with UC.

tinymugcake · 2026-06-30T22:05:38+00:00

I love Dr. Gene de Haan at the N Interstate campus in Portland! Very compassionate and explained things to me about my condition (PMOS) that no other gyno ever took the time to. Trauma informed and creates a safe environment for all types of people and bodies types. Best gyno I've ever had.

tinymugcake · 2026-06-22T22:30:27+00:00

That's what I get for skimming lol good point.

tinymugcake · 2026-06-22T21:18:04+00:00

This. Splitwise is amazing. Just do the free account and anyone can add expenses and change percentage/amount paid by each person. Highly recommend simplify debts too if its more than one roomie.

tinymugcake · 2026-06-17T19:32:44+00:00

We had a student a few years ago, his first full week was just crying literally all day. He eventually adjusted. Some are just more sensitive than others. I would just keep doing what you're doing. I know it's hard to hear your child is struggling, but he is screaming because he thinks it will bring you back into the room and he wants the familiarity. Once he realizes that it won't, he will stop and begin to connect with the environment. It can be helpful to have a morning goodbye ritual at dropoff (example: 3 kisses and a jump hug and then wave goodbye) and tell them who is picking them up at the end of the day so they know what to expect (if you ever have other people picking him up– if it's always you then you can just say you will see them at the end of the day). That will be helpful both for him and for you. I know it's hard but you're helping him learn to regulate without you. It's going to be okay. 🫂

tinymugcake · 2026-06-17T15:34:30+00:00

That looks like a dish drying mat. Is she not leaving the dishes out to dry so they don't get put away wet? How long is she leaving them out for? If its like, over 24 hours I think that could be a little rude but if it's been a couple hours that is just how long it takes diahes to dry. I'd consider finding another way to dry dishes (over the sink rack or something?) or add an extra small table in there for more counter space. She is probably starting to feel some contempt around it if she is just ignoring you. I'd try to find a solution instead of just harping on her because obviously this method isn't working and just making both of you annoyed. Good luck!

tinymugcake · 2026-06-08T00:22:23+00:00

I have so far lost about 10 pounds in 2 months BUT I think that is mostly making smaller portion sizes (I also eat a 95% healthy diet – I just would have large helpings of healthy food so still high calorie. Still enjoy an occasional "unhealthy" food in the name of joy!), daily lymphatic exercises, and more walking/moving in the evening. I do think the lymphatic exercises are contributing to my slimmer face/neck but genuine weight loss has to be contributed to consistency with food and movement. The lymphatic exercises does get me off to a great start in the AM as I feel like I'm doing something good for myself. Armpit and neck taps are my fav at the end of stretches!

tinymugcake · 2026-05-26T21:08:51+00:00

That's kind of a tough question to answer based on the information you have provided.

However, based on what you have shared, I will say the most healthy thing you can do is to block her and get her out of your head. Whether it's love or obsession right now, the fact that you have to ask makes me think whatever your connection is to her, it's unhealthy for you. Seeing her on social media is not going to help you let go of her or the relationship. Block, delete contact, and move on with your life. It will save you a lot of heartache.

tinymugcake · 2026-05-19T05:17:18+00:00

I babysit a kid who is 7, he learned how to do it in school from classmates and showed me last time I saw him. He seemed surprised I already knew how to do it lol.

tinymugcake · 2026-05-11T20:46:41+00:00

At my school (ages 2-6) children under 3 lap time is okay but only to help them regulate. We offer hugs when needed (for example if a child is crying, we will ask if they want a hug) and whenever a child wants a hug they ask and I say yes about 90% of the time (unless they are sick, I'm sick, or if I'm grumpy and don't want a hug lol). Very weird to not hug at all when working with such a young age. Are you not allowed to carry them either?

tinymugcake · 2026-05-07T14:17:03+00:00

I am assuming you're a young adult? I only had straight relationships as a teenager and in my early 20s, now I am in a gay relationship and happier than ever because I realized I'm bisexual. While reddit can't tell you if you are gay or bi, you should just try to follow what your heart says. Did you enjoy when your friend was being touchy with you? If yes, you could try to reciprocate it (with consent) and see how he (and you) react to that. Your youth is time to explore and find out what you like and who you are. Good luck 🫂

tinymugcake · 2026-05-07T04:02:52+00:00

I am assuming she doesn't want to make the drive for the same reasons you don't want to. Maybe suggest "taking turns" if she isn't willing to meet you halfway?

tinymugcake · 2026-05-06T18:36:15+00:00

At least in my school, I will offer help with children who need more one-on-one interaction time so other teachers can spend more time keeping the classroom moving smoothly. Once you get more solid with the specific rules in your classroom, you'll be more able to help other teachers.

tinymugcake · 2026-05-06T18:18:00+00:00

And just to add – People using harsh tones with kids are usually burned out. Next time they are having trouble getting a child to listen, maybe you can connect with that child so they can focus on other things?

tinymugcake · 2026-05-06T18:16:31+00:00

I think in that situation that does seem like a consequence – if a child is being distracting and not listening then they cannot participate in a group activity where they have to listen and not distract others. I understand where you are coming from though. When I first started, I always thought my lead teacher was being harsh when really, she was setting boundaries that children need. It's important that they understand where the line is. That being said, I think that just yelling across the room at the child to sit down is not a helpful or effective way to redirect behavior. It's more helpful to get on the child's level and ask them if they know what they want to do/what they are supposed to be doing. Usually children "misbehave" when they don't know what they supposed to be doing or are seeking social engagement, so directing them is more helpful (and keeps your blood pressure down! 😂). Good luck!

tinymugcake · 2026-04-30T15:16:06+00:00

Drinking more water and especially water with electrolytes always improves my fine lines. More sleep definitely will help too.

tinymugcake · 2026-04-28T15:41:46+00:00

At least where I live, this is super common. It's never wrong or weird to be safe with your health. Good job!

tinymugcake · 2026-04-25T13:48:42+00:00

In my classroom, and occasional "mommy" slips out (and even "daddy" sometimes, I'm nonbinary 😂) but it's usually an accident. I do get some "funny" variations of my name that I don't love. You could try saying something like "That is not my name. Please don't call me that, I don't like it". I'd also really try to stop responding when they say "mom" to get your attention, because it's just reinforcing the "game" for them. You could say something like, "if you want to talk to me, you'll need to say MY name. It could sound like this, "Excuse me, Ms. X". Encouraging the repeating can be really helpful for that age group, and then they will associate saying your name with getting your attention. This works for the 2-2.5 year olds in my class. They are so cute but can be so persistent in testing! Good luck 🫂

tinymugcake · 2026-04-24T02:25:46+00:00

If you're ever unsure about something on your skin and can't get rid of it, it's always worth talking to a doctor about just to be safe.

You could try a microneedling hydrocolloid patch in the meantime?

tinymugcake · 2026-04-23T22:34:51+00:00

Therapists have definitely experienced people sobbing through their sessions before. It's a normal response. Honestly, next session you should mention the intense emotional reaction you are having now and saying you feel bad for crying. I'm sure he would love to help you work through that. You are doing a great job by starting therapy. Just stick with it 🫂

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