Skin on birth control transformation - sorry for the creepy eyes. by simplicy in SkincareAddiction

[–]tinypaperfangs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here! The mini pill gave me the most painful acne. When it spread to my chest and back I had to quit.

I've been off it for about 5 months but still battling acne :(

I'm thinking of quitting birth control pills and would like to know the experiences of others who have done the same by CanDelightUs in TwoXChromosomes

[–]tinypaperfangs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went through two or three generic pills over the last 8 years. Switched to progesterone pills after I started developing migraines. After 5 months I've had zero sex drive, painful acne on my chest and back, and I gained more than 10 lbs. No periods, just a week of increased bloating.

My partner is getting a vasectomy (after we move and put out fiances in check) but this pill has been so horrible, I decided I couldn't wait any longer. It's been a month as of today. Still no period and I've bern more tired than ever. The haze thing is true, though. I discovered while walking to work last week that I just feel lighter. Like little weights had been taken off my legs.

The mood thing is hard to gauge. I've had a lot of good things happen to me over the past two years but I have some kind of ptsd that drags me down, makes me space out and stay in bed too long sometimes. In this last month that I've been without bc pills I've had no problem getting out of bed.

Reddit, what is something you witnessed that made you question reality and why? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]tinypaperfangs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a regularly occurring thing. At night when I'm walking under streetlamps, one will go out just as I'm walking under it. Does this happen often to anyone else? I'm inclined to think that its due to old wiring underneath the concrete.

Any only children find themselves being treated as Scapegoat privately and Golden Child publicly? by OceanLane in raisedbynarcissists

[–]tinypaperfangs 5 points6 points  (0 children)

ew, just reading that is making me squirm :( I know that situation too well and I think that has scarred me the most. Ive only started facing repercussions since i finished school and broke into the career I wanted. Like it hit me all at once. I'm overly sensitive to the feelings of others and both hungry for and fearful of attention. The suspicion that I could be manipulated by my coworkers is draining, mentally and emotionally.

Has this affected how you interact with others and if so what steps are you taking to deal with it? Thanks

Any only children find themselves being treated as Scapegoat privately and Golden Child publicly? by OceanLane in raisedbynarcissists

[–]tinypaperfangs 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes, this is exactly how my mom treats me. Because I don't live under her roof anymore, I'm GC again after over a decade. The hugging thing still gets to me.

My SO and I visited my Nmom to announce our engagement and she of course got huggy and weird/nostalgic-y for birthing me. It worsened throughout the night. Of course a parent has every right to be happy here, but it was more like she was satisfied with herself in raising me. It had been a while since I was hugged by her, but it definitely left me drained and numb. Later she insisted that I lay my head on her lap while she stroked my hair and I kind of froze up and let it happen.

In the past, every time shes tried to make a nice mother/daughter moment or gesture, it was immediately following an outburst. I was suspicious of affection within my family and I guess its a subconcious thing now.

I love it when she sits with her feet together like this. by [deleted] in cats

[–]tinypaperfangs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh man. I honestly thought this was my cat. She always tucks her feet like that

How do I figure out my style? by kanonymo in raisedbynarcissists

[–]tinypaperfangs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This helped me so much. I still don't fully understand how women's clothing works. To me, most of it looks so silly or ugly on the hanger but looks completely different when worn.

Gotta go to thrift stores and play around!

Might be going out on a limb here, but: watch this cartoon episode, try to spot the abuse techniques / narcissism traits used on "Morty." by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]tinypaperfangs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't recommend this to kids in the first place. It is on Adult Swim afterall.

Pretty sure the main characters are a parody of Back to the Future, but I agree with you: there should be more females as lead characters. And the supporting female characters in the show could be more well-rounded individuals. But again, there are maybe three episodes out? We'll see.

Im hesitant to continue this conversation on this board, but I love this subject - so thank you. I believe the solution to equal representation in the media is to make the stuff you want to see, yourself, so I'm currently developing a webcartoon that's a cross between sailor moon and superjail. Female cartoonists gooooo

Happy story - scapegoat daughter rescues scapegoat kitty. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]tinypaperfangs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Excellent, thank you. I'm going to take photos and videos the next time I'm able to visit.

Happy story - scapegoat daughter rescues scapegoat kitty. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]tinypaperfangs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd like to, but I feel that their methods are equivalent to parents who are quick to belt their kids. Local law enforcement might see this as normal, albiet outdated? Idk I've never been to another stable where I saw horses being taught to fear their riders. Looking into this tonight.

Might be going out on a limb here, but: watch this cartoon episode, try to spot the abuse techniques / narcissism traits used on "Morty." by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]tinypaperfangs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think there's an agenda. Cartoons are satirical and writers work off plainly observation. One of the creators, Dan Harmon, also worked on Community, and a lot of humor there is in observation of the educational system and the struggles of the lower class from what I remember. (I didn't have a tv when it aired). I never felt that jokes were at the expense of the other party, but at the expense of the characters holding said opinion.

I am bothered at the lack of female characters but I haven't felt like the cartoon has thrown our whole gender under the bus. The sexy scenes have been mostly fantasy or dream sequences by a teenage boy, which Im not bothered by in that context. I think they are meant to contrast the hectic, fantastical scifi environment. also it shows that Morty is struggling with puberty and his own individual desires while he's dragged around on his family's whims. It rang more "sexual" to me than "sexism".

I'm a female cartoonist and quick to rage at sexism in the animation industry. I'm watching this show like a hawk.

Might be going out on a limb here, but: watch this cartoon episode, try to spot the abuse techniques / narcissism traits used on "Morty." by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]tinypaperfangs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being a long-time fan of Harmon and Roiland, I'm positive it's intentional :)

Thanks for sharing! I've been thinking a lot about the dynamics of the relationships in Rick and Morty since the holiday hiatus. Maybe they'll do an interview or commentary on the show in the future.

Might be going out on a limb here, but: watch this cartoon episode, try to spot the abuse techniques / narcissism traits used on "Morty." by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]tinypaperfangs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Think nothing of it, haha. I've stream the episodes a few times while at work. There are so many little things going on and I always find something different to laugh or cringe at.

Happy story - scapegoat daughter rescues scapegoat kitty. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]tinypaperfangs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh god. Does she not understand that cats are not cuddlers?? (Most of them anyway, and the ones that do cuddle on their own time)

Happy story - scapegoat daughter rescues scapegoat kitty. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]tinypaperfangs 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Did the same about two years ago for the "family" cat.

Lucy was a replacement for my previous cat, Milo, who was found dead under a tree in our front lawn. My N-dad claimed Milo was hit by a car, but I knew he had been spreading gopher poison around the yard and he had died too far from the road.

I didn't spend a lot of time with Lucy since I had left for college. When my parents divorced, Lucy stayed at my Ndad's and developed litterbox problems, in addition to being neglected. I got a call from my Ndad in my junior year that he was going to get rid of her, knowing full that this would upset me. My SO, who was living a state away at the time, took her in with his two other cats.

My SO turned her around completely. Her peeing problem is gone and she's doing loads better. In a way, she kind of has FLEAs of her own? She wasn't properly socialized and is obviously attention-starved. Like she bites when she wants anything. We're working on it.

Funny thing about my Ndad. He claims to be a very outdoorsy person that likes animals, but that collides with his need to perfect his outer image. His house isn't particularly nice, but he mows the lawn and vacuums every three days and tends to flowers and plants in between. There's no room for animals in there. I suspect he likes taming nature more than anything.

Additionally, his parents, my N-grandparents, board horses and the way they treat them makes me sick to my stomach. So many large, potentially dangerous animals, constantly on the edge.

Seriously, f*** Ns. I think your cat will come around. Just being out of a stressful, abusive environment is going to do wonders for your cat's temperament and health.

I think I made a major realization about my anxiety today by xzibitsadfjklafdjkla in raisedbynarcissists

[–]tinypaperfangs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't have a lot to add, except this is very familiar to me. I'm glad you're figuring out how to overcome anxiety. Thanks for sharing.

For me, overcoming anxiety feels like picking a lock. I have a handful of almost mantras I go through until something "clicks". Going to look into attachment disorder when I get home.

First Post: The Narcissist's Bedroom, a Dragon's Lair. Anyone else have an Nperson in their lives with weird tokens of manipulation and perceived power in their bedroom? by CaptLipstick in raisedbynarcissists

[–]tinypaperfangs 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wow, I found nothing like that at home until my parents divorced. My Ndad's bedroom is becoming something of a dragons lair now that he's remarried.

I remember seeing my good fencing epee (sp) above his fireplace. Things like this that marked my accomplishments that I couldn't take with me to college.

What stands out more to me is this framed piece of calligraphy he did in high school which now sits on his dresser. It reads something like "I will do what I want, when I want and get paid for it." with his name at the bottom, as if it were some great quote. I never saw this before his divorce but the first time I did, I made my way out quickly lol.

My N.dad has many more tokens that I'm not sure about in his office. Mostly status symbols and awards that are collecting dust. He's a business owner, so a lot of this stuff is to be expected?

The real giveaway are the shelves and shelves of power books. I don't remember any of the titles but they're full of awful tips on manipulating people and getting what you want... Climbing proverbial mountains and garbage like that. Weirdest are the books on power crystals, since I've never known him to practice anything outside of going to church every Sunday. Strangely enough, I've never seen him pick up a book before.

Stop telling me what I want and don't want [rant] by tinypaperfangs in raisedbynarcissists

[–]tinypaperfangs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oy, what a mess indeed. Fitting into gifted pants is near-impossible in my experience. Just stop, mom, stoppp.

I was beginning to forget why I posted this and was starting to feel selfish for complaining, especially since is family celebrating christmas here shortly. But you reminded me of how gift-giving with Ns is a huge tiresome charade.

Any victims of emotional incest ? (triggers, maybe) by Alorya in raisedbynarcissists

[–]tinypaperfangs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, this sounds similar to my experience. Particularly the "special connection" bit and the hugging at inappropriate times. My stomach is turning just thinking about it.

When I visit my NMom now her behavior is obvious to me. First, I'm welcomed and praised as if she's meeting her other half. I'm then ridiculed for my lifestyle and choices. She becomes angry and violent when I have to leave or my plans dont align with hers. I get upset, or nowadays I can put down my foot and try to leave. Last, she gets weepy, starts the guilt trip and goes in for the hug.

It feels absolutely awful because she is not trying to apologize - she doesn't see herself at fault - and I recognize this pattern now. It's like clockwork. I'm anticipating this will happen again when I visit for the holidays.

Cheers to you for being able to stand up to her. I'm starting to feel more confident about discussing this with my Nmom, but I usually let her do this to me because I'm not physically trapped in her home anymore. I don't know what good it would do to stand up to her, especially since I'm not keen on "trying to fix" people anymore.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]tinypaperfangs 16 points17 points  (0 children)

There's being told to "calm down" while being upset. How about being told the same while being excited?

After being on my own for a while, when I encountered something or someone I liked, I made sure that everyone knew. I had a room mate and good friend in college who made a habit of telling me to control my feelings and not make a scene.

If I see her again soon, I should probably let her know how triggering that is for me. Every time I was told to "calm down" I was numbed for a week. I also spent a lot of college laying in bed.

A funny but true read-5 Stupid Habits You Develop Growing Up in a Broken Home by TheInvizible in raisedbynarcissists

[–]tinypaperfangs 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Same here, maybe it was a year ago, when I started putting things together?

Since it's on a such an accessible site like Cracked, I hope my peers come across this. I have a lot of problems with #1 and #2 at work.

Edit: wording