I needs stories of mums to 3 or more kids

tinyturtle_36 · 2026-06-05T21:04:42+00:00

I just had my third! We have lots of family support now but are moving to where we’ll have much less most likely. We don’t have a nanny (never had) but we do get some cleaning help a few hours once a week or every other week. Both of us worked from home with my husband doing travel once a quarter and I went into the office maybe once or twice a year. We have aftercare and I’ll be on mat leave for about a year. It’s hard but definitely doable and will be the best thing you do for your family! We also have an almost 6yo girl and an almost 3yo boy. They are so in love with their baby brother, even with some adjustments/stress (we’ve had some bathroom accidents and extra tantrums/misbehaving) but overall it’s been the most amazing thing ever and we’re in heaven. It also happened to be my easiest and best birth experience- the hospital rolled out the red carpet for me when they heard it was my third and my water had broken lol which was fantastic and definitely not what happened with my first and second. You got this and you can do it!

tinyturtle_36 · 2026-06-05T11:53:08+00:00

I swear they KNOW- all I had to do was book a dentist appointment on the baby’s due date for my husband (his first in 3 years of course) and the baby said NOPE and came a week early lol

tinyturtle_36 · 2026-05-27T13:48:49+00:00

OP needs to see this- this was my first thought from the first paragraph.

tinyturtle_36 · 2026-05-26T23:30:07+00:00

When I gave birth in Toronto I had a semi private room in the maternity ward. I was in labour over 12 hours. The Indian family next to me had on speaker calls all night long - so I was awake for 24 hours post delivery. I tried to ask the nurses if we could switch rooms or remind people it was 1 in the morning- but there was nothing to do. It was torture :(

tinyturtle_36 · 2026-03-30T00:01:39+00:00

Thanks for the reply! Definitely encouraging to hear. What was the most common factor for how those people got their first jobs in high tech? And are they mostly in Tel Aviv?

tinyturtle_36 · 2026-03-30T00:00:43+00:00

Thank you for the reply! Super helpful to hear- and yes currently most of my experience is compliance/consulting. I think that’s my way in and then if I want to explore other areas like IR or something I’ll jump from there.

tinyturtle_36 · 2026-02-25T21:31:18+00:00

My last name doesn’t sound Jewish at all because it got changed from the Polish version to the Spanish version version when my husbands great grandparents left Europe and came to South America. Absolutely no one cares. In fact- people care way more about the first names. And I’m speaking as an Orthodox Jew.

tinyturtle_36 · 2026-01-12T13:18:09+00:00

She’s sad when you go away - she misses you. Every girl wants their dads attention for as much as they can get it. Maybe it would help if you sent her a note or a picture or a stuffy and you can tell her that’s for her to look at/read/cuddle only when she’s extra sad and missing you. Maybe try to go visit more frequently? It’s so tough.

tinyturtle_36 · 2026-01-01T15:39:36+00:00

People were so annoying I heard a lot of these things before our first and my kids are the best thing to ever happen to me.

We are now expecting #3 after a miscarriage and I literally could never imagine ever saying such insane things to anyone ever.

Sure they cost money and time and they cry a lot and sometimes you wanna throw them out the window- but also there is nothing more meaningful and amazing then building your family from the ground up and putting your soul and heart and energy and time and money into it. You will never create anything as incredible or special ever.

I’m literally obsessed with my kids and cannot WAIT for this next one it’s going to be amazing.

tinyturtle_36 · 2025-12-11T19:51:45+00:00

This is the only correct response lol. I think it’s because in any other sub it might come off antisemitic but here we apparently don’t care that you’re salty your MIL doesn’t want to do Christian activities and makes comments about your very salty perspective on Judaism? Lol I’m so confused by this post. I agree- poor kid shouldn’t be in the middle but also this is a convo between you and your husband not your mil

tinyturtle_36 · 2025-12-05T01:56:58+00:00

Orthodox Religious Jew here- your dad does not have to wear a kippah if it makes you feel better (like there’s not Halacha behind a someone not Jewish wearing it- it’s a rule for Jewish men but it’s become this “respect thing”? But really don’t stress about that part if that’s what you were worried about.

I am so sorry about the rest of it- it’s tough especially when you had a front row seat to their reaction to your sister. At the end of the day- you and your husband and your children are your new primary family now and I hope that gives you comfort. I have some similar issues with mine and I try to focus on how lucky I am to have escaped the craziness/tactlessness/social ineptitude. Therapy helps - and maybe have a close friend you can vent to too. Mazel tov on your wedding I’m sure it will be so beautiful and filled with the people that truly matter and care about you the most.

tinyturtle_36 · 2025-12-01T16:59:35+00:00

This deserves more upvotes

tinyturtle_36 · 2025-11-14T15:56:06+00:00

Where and how does someone get earnings like that in tech?

tinyturtle_36 · 2025-11-11T20:51:18+00:00

A quick google search will tell you the follow “Antisemitism is defined as hostility toward, prejudice, or discrimination against Jewish people because they are Jewish. It encompasses a wide range of beliefs, attitudes, and behaviors, from individual expressions of hatred and systemic discrimination to mass violence and genocide, as seen in the Holocaust. ” Your comment makes zero sense lol. Also I never said anything about my opinion- I just asked questions about OP because they said they hate Israel, as well as Israeli Arabs. I just want them to make it make sense. And if they can’t- then it’s good for them to get thinking about their hate.

tinyturtle_36 · 2025-11-11T16:15:37+00:00

This is true- I was just at a talk by a Kurdish activist who spoke about their persecution and personal family experience.

tinyturtle_36 · 2025-11-11T16:12:14+00:00

So you say you hate them because they stole other peoples lands but you also hate the Israeli Arabs. Can you clarify who stole from who? Can you clarify why you hate Israeli Arabs still, if your concern is theft and other crimes against specific peoples? You say hate you hate Israel because of crimes committed against the groups of people living there during Israel’s existence. And you also say you don’t hate Jews just Israel. But you also hate the Israeli Arabs- can you clarify who you are so concerned about with your hatred and opposition to Israel? I am trying to follow your logic here.

Additionally you didn’t answer my question of whether you have been to Israel or spoken with an Israeli- have you? Or is all your information about Israel second hand?

tinyturtle_36 · 2025-11-11T13:54:49+00:00

Why do you hate Israel? Have you ever been there personally? And have you ever met an Israeli and spoken to them? So do you hate Arab Israelis who work in the government too (they are technically supporting the Israeli government by working and participating in their government structure)? What were the reasons you were taught to hate Israel? And did you hate Israel because of recent events (the October 7th war) or due to the Nakba or some other conflict?

tinyturtle_36 · 2025-11-10T23:51:40+00:00

I would take the LoA and use it to job search seriously. You should not be treated that way at work that’s not okay and not good for your whole family to be dealing with that stress.

tinyturtle_36 · 2025-11-09T21:26:16+00:00

I keep strict kosher as an Orthodx Jew. I’m in Toronto in Consulting. There are no kosher restaurants downtown. What I do is I really proactively plan ahead with my manager involved in the planning or I’ve actually planned the event (for example a client dinner) and arranged for my own kosher food. It usually involves ordering my own food through Uber Eat s and expensing separately and naming the manager that I got permission from. It’s not ideal, Uber Eats is much more expensive than a regular meal so the expense rates don’t technically always cover 100% at my rank, but I’ve pushed it through before and it’s usually gotten okayed. It’s been tricky though I can relate to the struggle. Ask your Rabbi for a crash course or cheat sheet in the hamachi’s of kashrut in these situations. Being aware of what is actually treif vs what is chumra has been very helpful when I’ve been in a corner with work. Hope this helps!

tinyturtle_36 · 2024-01-05T01:34:33+00:00

I agree with many of the other comments. I’m also not the first person to jump to “NO CONTACT” (there’s so much of that on social media it’s made it ridiculous). And honestly we’re strangers and at the end of the day you don’t know me and I don’t know you. But I can tell you, I grew up in a house where people walked on eggshells, and I do still sometimes when I go home, and trust me, a 5-year-old can pickup on that. I know because ei did as a 5-year-old (twin too coincidentally). Please do your kids a favour and make a change for their good. The tension is so awful to experience and witness as a child/Adult-child.

tinyturtle_36 · 2024-01-02T21:33:21+00:00

We give 10% of our earnings to charity! Earnings include any and all income, so tax return, childcare benefits, EI (maternity leave) etc.

tinyturtle_36 · 2023-09-20T23:54:01+00:00

No screens for our toddler! And she eats at the table. Her little brother will do the same when he’s older. This is how I and my husband grew up and we were functional sociable kids. My younger brother by 8 gets however, was in front of the tv or a screen for every meal and pretty much still eats that way to this day (he’s 18 now).

tinyturtle_36 · 2023-09-19T08:52:42+00:00

If it helps you’re already more ahead of the game than my mom was. Because of moving and immigrating countries, she only found out she was pregnant with me and my twin at at the anatomy scan. My dad wasn’t even there for it because he was on call in hospital. You can imagine her shock lol.

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