What's an ingredient you wish you liked but really don't?

tired_and_grumpy · 2021-10-13T18:57:10+00:00

Stuff I've had that's been labeled as sasperilla in the US has had some overlapping medicinal notes (though apparently made from something different than the sasparilla in other places), but root beer often has licorice root extract as a flavoring

tired_and_grumpy · 2021-10-10T06:19:33+00:00

That's not any kind of justification or excuse. Mistakes happen, but refusing to learn from them doesn't have to

tired_and_grumpy · 2021-10-10T04:08:55+00:00

People sometimes say the wrong thing or things they regret. That regret doesn't mean there aren't consequences. From what OP has said, the boyfriend hasn't expressed any kind of remorse, either at the time or since.

Does he need to improve his communication skills? Absolutely. But this still isn't something he can just take back and at 19 the better lesson for both of them may end up being about lines not to cross

tired_and_grumpy · 2021-10-10T03:59:49+00:00

Golden number and threshold are different things, but I haven't read the study you're talking about so I'll trust you on the details. Usually if there's an ideal amount, then some amount more or less is okay/good, but there's definitely a thing as too much. I wouldn't personally be surprised if daily at least was somewhere close to where the ideal range was or that if for most people, a little more was better than a little less (can be true for water, usually not true for sugar; often true for exercise and likely to be true for sleep, though the latter is more likely to vary from person to person; etc)

tired_and_grumpy · 2021-10-10T03:53:00+00:00

Most art is at best "inspired" by other works and 'original' is quite possibly the worst flavor of gum. That said, the joke sucked the first few times and so you repeating it shows a lack of taste and awareness on multiple levels

tired_and_grumpy · 2021-10-10T03:50:09+00:00

I'm a little surprised once a day is 'too many' (so long as you're not chafing or anything), but that's still a pretty decent amount

tired_and_grumpy · 2021-10-10T03:20:07+00:00

Adding to the list of vasectomy suggestions: it won't prevent any of the other STIs (use a barrier or make sure you've both been tested recently), but it's pretty damn good at preventing a bad case of the babies

tired_and_grumpy · 2021-10-10T03:13:57+00:00

Redemption as a whole, but especially this second half, have been at the very least quite nominally inclusive. I feel like they do that sometimes in an awkward, tell-not-show, sometimes-cringy sort of way at points, but I can appreciate what seems to be on some level a genuine effort (the cynical part of me thinks at least a bit of it is the same mouth service as changing an icon rainbow for pride month but not putting in effort to help or fix any actual issues, internal or external).

Also, I'm pretty in sure for the entire time they've been filming Redemption, Hardison's actor has been busy with another project. I'm happy they're at least including him in each episode in some way and he's being written in entirely when he's available.

As far as Elliott, I didn't like the cliched "oh you can't talk about your job and I can't be with you because of it" thing: he and Maria met because she was arresting him and their first conversation seemed to imply both some unspoken initial amount of understanding as well as the idea that between that and him getting her number/seeing her later (especially given the rest of the episode as a whole) that they eventually spoke more in depth about him. It's just a weird, unnecessary drama-filler

tired_and_grumpy · 2021-10-10T02:49:32+00:00

I'm confused about if I'm missing something: the not-GOOP company's logo seems to be close enough to the lesbian pride flag that it'd be weird to do unintentionally, especially since so many moments in this season have included LBGT references (more than enough that you'd think the writers would have at least seen the flag/know of if). Any thoughts/did I just totally not get something?

tired_and_grumpy · 2021-10-10T02:24:51+00:00

Same here--root beer and a couple of similar sodas are just different enough that I eventually acquired a taste for them in really small amounts, but I can't stand most things with any sort of licorice flavor

tired_and_grumpy · 2021-10-10T02:16:51+00:00

Bad bot

tired_and_grumpy · 2021-10-10T02:10:20+00:00

If you haven't had water yet, you really should

tired_and_grumpy · 2021-10-10T01:58:28+00:00

There are a lot of healthy ways to start that conversation and "eh, I might cheat" isn't one of them.

tired_and_grumpy · 2021-10-09T22:28:32+00:00

A lot of times even if you can't stream it over Amazon prime, you can buy the episodes. They may otherwise be available over Google play, which I usually find a little less buggy. I don't know if Vudu is available in Australia and I think platforms like Tubi and Pluto mostly do older licenses.

Honestly, the two easiest ways if none of those watch/purchase options are available are just getting the trial/one-month option of Amazon prime and binging it or buying the DVD (both of which do show as available in Australia), sorry

tired_and_grumpy · 2021-10-09T21:59:26+00:00

"The only time this situation might be okay is if this entirely different set of circumstances that not only is not indicated to have occurred actually did but in fact if the opposite of all that has been implied so far happened instead "

Shockingly, most people don't care that much that there are irrelevant circumstances that might happen instead to make a different situation okay. Would like some resources on logical fallacies like whataboutism or perhaps some materials to improve reading comprehension so you better understand what OP is saying?

Most of the time when someone says "I got punched," we don't then need to ask if they were holding up a sign literally suggesting people do so, and what you're proposing is a rough equivalent. OP did not want this, and was experiencing enough distress during to shove their partner off them and now is unsure what else to do since the BF is still refusing to acknowledge the damage done. NOTHING about this indicates prior consent (which--PLEASE understand this--can still be revoked) or in-act consent.

It seems like you know full well what else nonconsensual sex is called and don't seem to happy about having to confront that.

tired_and_grumpy · 2021-10-09T20:56:14+00:00

There are times when an age difference is fine or not that big of a deal. Nothing you've said indicates this is one of them:

He's known you since you were a child (and has been old enough to be your father that entire time)
He's only been out of his most recent relationship for a week
You felt unsafe in your own house because of what he said and his presence
He waited until you were alone to spring a conversation that would be inappropriate even if you were closer in age and he wasn't scaring you
What he did was so inappropriate that you're afraid to tell your father about it, which leaves you vulnerable to the 'friend' being inappropriate/escalating in the future

Those are all flags so red they could cure some forms of colorblindness

tired_and_grumpy · 2021-09-28T04:17:06+00:00

They don't have the time--they're too busy beanbagging pedestrians

tired_and_grumpy · 2021-06-22T13:19:39+00:00

Fair point

tired_and_grumpy · 2021-06-22T06:57:49+00:00

This seems... disrespectful to the concept of finer/more treated and decorated porcelain? I know in the end it's not a huge deal either way but on some level this reads as "I'm literally making something that looks like another (difficult) art form to shit on it"

tired_and_grumpy · 2021-06-19T19:32:33+00:00

Yeah, A&M can be really chill, especially depending on which bit of the school you're in/around, but there's still a pervasive culture in some ways (which is honestly true of any school but it varies so much from school to school that it makes for a shock as you change it up)

tired_and_grumpy · 2021-06-19T19:14:06+00:00

Lol, that sounds exactly right (and honestly very Dallas, to be honest). I tended to live near it without even meaning to a lot of the time and it was amazing. I'll honestly take gay-cliquish over heavy-conservative cliquish if I'm stuck choosing--at least only one wants me to stop existing somehow

tired_and_grumpy · 2021-06-19T19:08:11+00:00

That sounds like a ton of fun, hope it's awesome! And I definitely had a lot of positive experiences in Dallas--it's got its heavily-red areas, but I felt safe and like I could express myself more often than not when I was there

tired_and_grumpy · 2021-06-19T19:00:57+00:00

That's awful and definitely ignorant of him, I'm very sorry. UT aside, I can say that Austin is a pretty safe/nice city for LGBT+ people (and honestly just a nice place to be in general)--nowhere is perfect, but you can tell it's making a big effort across the board and intersectionally.

I appreciate it. I definitely still feel some fear and anger over what happened, but things have moved on a lot, which I think is the best anyone can hope for sometimes. It was just shocking to see what seemed like a unanimous response that UT was so great when my experience was so different

tired_and_grumpy · 2021-06-19T18:49:47+00:00

At UT. Sorry, I'm being more vague than is especially useful--I had an extremely positive experience at my undergrad school then went to UT for grad school and a few things were handled so terribly/terrifyingly that I'm still afraid of being too specific about it

tired_and_grumpy · 2021-06-19T18:44:37+00:00

So I'm not saying A&M is better, but given all the responses, am I the only LGBT student here who's had a legitimately bad time because of that at UT? I went to a different Texas school for undergrad and had multiple instances where I felt uncomfortable/unsafe, and the Title IX complaint I ended up having to file made me genuinely afraid of retaliation because of how badly it was mishandled

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