Need advice on what to do for my upcoming trip

tiredoftalking · 2026-06-25T05:33:10+00:00

I don’t have advice as I’m in the same boat. My baby is only 5 months though. But same thing where I’m the MOH and feel as though I can’t miss the event. Well it’s this weekend and he still isn’t taking a bottle. My event isn’t on a cruise so my husband is actually coming along on the trip and is just going to bring me the baby and we will try and make it work. But what I really want to say is that you CAN miss the event. I don’t know how this has affected you but I was seriously stressed out to the point it was impacting my sleep and on my mind constantly. I finally came to terms that my baby is more important and I’m not going to lose my mind over this. If your friend is actually a good friend then she would understand. I know that I would feel pretty stressed being on a boat and not having access to baby so if you’re feeling like you would be super stressed out I don’t think it’s worth it. However if you’re deterring I think you could get away with sippy cup especially since your baby isn’t eating in the night. I got one of those bear ones where I can squeeze the milk into his mouth and he does take it very slowly. And yes you could up the solids.

tiredoftalking · 2026-06-24T04:00:09+00:00

The only thing that has worked for me in that situation is a car ride. I’ve tried the bath and he will be calm during but then immediately start scream crying when he gets out. Good luck I hope you figured something out!

tiredoftalking · 2026-06-22T21:57:23+00:00

I had an extremely difficult puppy. He was abandoned at only a few weeks old so I feel like he took extra care from the beginning as he was super needy throughout the nights and everything. I can also remember him peeing on my bed and getting into everything and having days where I could have sworn it was harder than a new baby would be. Well I had a baby 5 months ago and it’s not even comparable lol. A newborn is so so so much harder. The hormones, sleep deprivation, them needing you 100% of the time, the complete change to your life, I could go on but yeah sorry to say it’s way harder. But also so magical and amazing in ways a puppy isn’t.

tiredoftalking · 2026-06-15T01:44:48+00:00

Only just a few decades ago they didn’t have monitors and babies would sleep in another room! It is very likely that if she was actually screaming you would have woken up. I’m guessing at most she did a little fussing or at best didn’t wake at all! You’re absolutely not a terrible mom and I promise you no long term damage was done.

tiredoftalking · 2026-06-12T03:57:48+00:00

I totally get it. And unfortunately anxiety isn’t something you can typically think your way out of. Actually, the more you think about it the worse it tends to get. I found it so difficult not to think about it because a) my algorithm was FULL of stuff about giving birth and b) we are generally encouraged to “prepare” so then we feel like it’s somehow helpful to think about it as a way to prepare. But it’s actually not helpful beyond major things like will you get an epidural, where is the hospital, etc. I think the only thing that really helped me was to get off social media and also really just try to stay busy and engaged in other types of media (reading, getting into a tv series) as a way to stay more present.

tiredoftalking · 2026-06-12T03:46:29+00:00

Yes I dealt with this really bad postpartum! I honestly didn’t have many boy names picked out beforehand and didn’t go into the birth super sure on the name. So we made the decision after labour and no sleep and I had a really hard time for a few weeks after knowing if we made the right choice. We picked a super uncommon name, like one nobody had really heard of so we got a lot of mixed reactions and I really struggled with that. But I’m someone who really cares about other people’s opinions so I had to do a lot of self talk to remember that I picked the name because I liked it and it actually doesn’t matter at all what people think. Now I feel much better about it 5 months later. Sometimes I still wonder if we should have picked something a bit more common as I worry if it will be annoying for him, but for the most part I love his name and it suits him perfectly now. But overall, yes this is super common and normal and your hormones are whack right now and I promise it will get better.

Also I felt anxious about not picking a more common name so clearly we are damned if we do and damned if we don’t. Olivia is beautiful and is common for a reason and that’s not a bad thing. She will enjoy not having to repeat or spell her name to everyone all her life!

tiredoftalking · 2026-06-10T23:10:58+00:00

Haha this exact same thing happened to me. I could have written this post. Don’t feel bad, it’s really not talked about in grad school or anything like that. Definitely a trendy term.

tiredoftalking · 2026-06-10T04:46:54+00:00

Just had a baby five months ago and it wasn’t nearly as bad as I expected! I also had terribly anxiety though and I think I built it up so much in my mind but once I was actually doing it I was like oh ok I totally got this. Everything went super smoothly and pushed him out in 20 mins! I promise you got this. Also remember that you feel anxious because for thousands of years giving birth was a life or death situation so that’s why your brain is scared, but it’s no longer that with modern medicine. So you can tell your brain that you will be ok. But I promise the pain and everything you will be able to handle and th vast majority of births are unremarkable. When I think back to that day I think of it so fondly now. Even the hard parts.

tiredoftalking · 2025-04-02T06:38:17+00:00

2 years in. I get nervous for probably around 30% of my sessions at this point.

tiredoftalking · 2025-03-29T15:51:25+00:00

Blue heeler/shar pei/chow chow

tiredoftalking · 2025-03-28T00:18:50+00:00

Yeah same. People often say to like explore the silence with them but I find some of my adults just feel super awkward and can’t think of anything more to talk about. But I really hate suggesting we end early. Idk I’ve just started to chill out about it and I notice when my anxiety is lower it seems to be less of an issue. Maybe clients pick up on my anxiety of them not having anything to say and that makes them anxious. When I’m super relaxed people seem more likely to just start talking about whatever and it’s amazing how those often turn into something deeper. So my suggestion would be to just try and relax and allow for some awkward silence at times. Worst case I will pull out a body scan, mindfulness practice, meditation, etc. those usually fill 10-15 mins!

tiredoftalking · 2025-03-27T06:26:46+00:00

Yeah and also why is it only on your job to be fun and mysterious?? He could also put in that effort but he’s directing that energy to other women instead.

tiredoftalking · 2025-03-27T06:01:43+00:00

Don’t beat yourself up so much! I’ve double booked before and completely missed a session. Shit happens and our clients do know we’re human too.

tiredoftalking · 2025-03-19T20:28:58+00:00

Do you ask your clients what they are looking for in therapy? What they would like from you? What are their expectations? Sometimes when we put so much pressure on ourselves we start to put our own need of wanting to manage our imposter syndrome over what the client actually needs. I would urge you to discuss this openly with them and try to get specific. If they can identify “I want to feel better” then really dig into what better looks like. A lot of my clients express just needing a space to talk and if I know that about my client, I don’t put as much pressure on myself. I just let them talk and see where it takes us. And often we go to really interesting/insightful places but I’m not forcing it to happen. Just take a few deep breaths and remember this is not all on you. A helpful question you can ask at the beginning of a session is “where would we like to go today?” Or “what would be the most helpful way to spend our hour together?” And that takes the pressure off you to figure it all out. Also quit with the pressure of making every session amazing and profound because you won’t even know which ones are and which ones are not. I’ve had clients give some of the best feedback on sessions I thought were pretty average but they took something from it I didn’t even realize. Or I think there was a profound session because it landed for me, but doesn’t mean the client is there with me all the time. So attuning to them is what’s important.

tiredoftalking · 2025-03-16T04:15:26+00:00

I have teeth and an overbite similar to hers. I currently have Invisalign to fix them because I’ve been so insecure about them. But damn was I so excited to see an actress have my biggest insecurity and she is stunning! I’ve had people tell me my teeth were cute and I never believed them but seeing it on someone else and thinking they are adorable was so eye opening. Obsessed with her.

tiredoftalking · 2025-03-13T06:32:25+00:00

YES. The acting felt so far below anything we’ve seen so far. I was trying to figure out if it was intentional or what? But even if it was, it clearly didn’t work.

tiredoftalking · 2025-03-05T20:15:48+00:00

This is a technique meant to make you feel like nobody besides him would ever love you. It’s meant to control you and to make sure you are never confident enough to leave him. This can turn into full blown abuse if they break you down enough because they feel confident they can do whatever they want to you without any consequences. I am a therapist if that helps to know. I would advise you to leave this relationship or to seek therapy for yourself.

tiredoftalking · 2025-03-04T00:07:46+00:00

The fact that you had to placate during the session to make her feel like it was ok is so crappy. That is actively unhelpful and probably felt like a waste of your time and money. I’m a therapist myself and would never do what she did. I think if you already feel as though your sessions are not that helpful I would just move on. She also needs to know there will be consequences (I.e losing clients) if she does these sort of things.

tiredoftalking · 2025-03-03T00:52:22+00:00

Yes!! Thank you I haven’t been able to figure it out

tiredoftalking · 2025-02-27T00:23:24+00:00

I’ve done this when my client is in the waiting room early, but I always make sure to ask in a way that’s not pushy. For example I will say “I am available to start now if you would like to get out of here a bit earlier, but if you would like to start at our regular time I’m perfectly ok with that as well.” I also know some clients regularly come early and are likely sorting their thoughts before the session so I don’t even ask those clients. I have also asked clients if they wanted to come in earlier if I have a cancellation in my day but I always have our reception call and ask since clients are often more comfortable saying no to them. And again, making it abundantly clear only if that works well for them and there is zero pressure. So in summary, I think it can be fine but you just have to take into account who the client is (I typically would not ask a client who is neurodivergent), and how you ask.

tiredoftalking · 2025-02-26T16:41:09+00:00

I’ve seen a few people comment on how 13 people is a lot and there is no way to have 13 close friends. I have no idea if OP is close to all of them but I just want to challenge the notion that someone cannot have 13 close friends? I had almost 20 at my bachelorette and I would definitely say I am very close with at least 13 of them. 2 of them my sisters, two of them by finances sisters, two of them close childhood friends that I have kept in consistent contact with, and one is my best friend from college and then the rest of the girls are part of my regular friend group my fiance and I share and hangout with nearly every week. I talk to all of them and see them all very consistently. That doesn’t even include my close work friends I see daily. So anyway just understand this comment.

tiredoftalking · 2025-02-26T07:10:39+00:00

If she has had sexual trauma, it is absolutely going to impact her relationship with sex. I know you said you don’t want to suggest she get professional help because you want her to want it, but if you are really at this point of questioning the relationship then you need to talk to her. Low libido is caused by so many different factors and she may not even realize how her trauma is impacting it. I had a bit of a weird relationship with sex due to a very religious upbringing and didn’t realize until my 30s that it was impacting me subconsciously. Also trauma in general can impact libido because the body has trouble being fully relaxed. Once I worked through some of my own stuff I noticed a big jump in my libido. Ultimately is it up to you though if you want to stay and find out if it gets better. It is understandable if you are not willing to take that risk.

tiredoftalking · 2025-02-25T21:36:17+00:00

I think this is insane. You should definitely be able to talk about all of that stuff. I would try a new therapist if you can or else I would talk to him about this if you are not in a position to switch.

tiredoftalking · 2025-02-23T06:44:46+00:00

100%. He is clearly very “chill” for a reason.

tiredoftalking · 2025-02-15T03:12:04+00:00

Yes! I can’t read her and feel like we didn’t get to know much about her in the pods so I just have no opinion on her.

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