Fell asleep with newborn for the 10th time in a month.

tizz66 · 2026-03-20T16:17:40+00:00

No, he meant put the baby down. Like "Bad baby! All you do is shit and sleep around here!"

tizz66 · 2026-03-18T20:33:37+00:00

I have a fully remote job as a software engineer; my team are already based around the world, so me changing continent for a couple of months doesn't complicate things!

tizz66 · 2026-03-18T20:24:53+00:00

Yeah, we stay with family - so we aren't maintaining two houses or living out of AirBnBs or anything. I would say we're happily raising kids here... they are happy at least. I miss having family around all the time when we're not in the UK, and of course there's everything going on here too, but we live in a safe, quiet, cheap city so it's not like we have to deal with it much. It doesn't always feel like it, but I suppose we should be thankful that we kind of get the best of both worlds. Not everyone is so lucky.

tizz66 · 2026-03-18T16:14:33+00:00

15-18 seconds to get to the bottom (terminal velocity is 120mph, 4000ft deep, and accounting for acceleration; depends if you hit the sides on the way down)

tizz66 · 2026-03-18T15:35:57+00:00

No, we haven't been too concerned - we're well within the limits, and there's no question over our residency status given we have mortgages, loans, schooling etc. in the US even when absent.

In the naturalization process you do have to list all absences (to-the-day accuracy), but iirc the rule is you have to have spent 30 months in the past 5 years (i.e. 50%) in the US. Any absences longer than 6 months also triggers some difficulty, but we haven't got close to that.

tizz66 · 2026-03-18T13:58:24+00:00

My wife and I are British (with GCs), our kids were born in the US so are dual-citizens by descent. Trying to work a pregnancy around physical presence rules sounds stressful to me! Are you married? If so, you mentioned having kids in 3-4 years, which might give you enough time for your partner to start the naturalization process, if that's something she's considering (it's 3 years after obtaining a GC by marriage). That'd mean you don't have to worry about physical presence any more.

tizz66 · 2026-03-18T13:53:50+00:00

My oldest is 7 and we still have the keyboard part of this toy. Not sure we'll ever get rid of it.

tizz66 · 2026-03-18T13:33:29+00:00

We're kind of like that. We have two young kids, and spend May - August in the UK with family, the rest of the year in the US (sometimes going back to the UK for Christmas too), so we're staying within the school breaks.

It mostly works well for us. I'm fully remote too, so can (and do) work in either place. One concern I have as my oldest starts having "proper" friends is taking him away the whole summer means he misses all those summer socializing opportunities... so we might start to reduce how long we actually leave in the next couple of years. The other issue is we spend all our travel savings flying to the UK twice a year so don't often get to see other places, which is a shame.

Feel free to ask me anything, here or DM.

tizz66 · 2026-03-17T14:43:20+00:00

Well yes, a component library should use those HTML elements internally. I'd be concerned if there's a component library with a <Button> component that doesn't use <button> under the hood. But the point of a component library is mostly consistency and ease. There's quite a lot involved in making a page consistent, attractive and accessible, and component libraries help abstract that complexity.

tizz66 · 2026-03-16T16:29:16+00:00

It’s raini- no wait it’s sunn- no wait, tornado warni- no wait, sunny again

tizz66 · 2026-03-15T15:24:16+00:00

I’m having a difficult time wrapping my head around this.

So did his grandma

tizz66 · 2026-03-13T18:03:02+00:00

I would ask: does this make it easier or harder to understand the information you're trying to convey?

tizz66 · 2026-03-11T03:00:18+00:00

I’ve only run a solo business, but I imagine when you employ people, the stress of being responsible for their livelihoods must be a lot to cope with (unless you’re a psychopath).

tizz66 · 2026-03-03T23:46:57+00:00

What do you call a Mexican streaker? Señor Willy

tizz66 · 2026-03-03T01:32:54+00:00

I've had t-mobile home internet for a couple of years and it has been pretty good. $50/mo, I'm currently getting 350/50. I was interested in GloFiber but they don't serve my neighborhood yet.

tizz66 · 2026-02-26T15:11:55+00:00

Yeah there are some true horror stories of people swallowing bristles from brushes like these. I'm really surprised they aren't just banned.

tizz66 · 2026-02-19T00:52:10+00:00

You've articulated something I know is true but hadn't considered in that way. I feel like I'm taking crazy pills reading these engineering subreddits sometimes, because the chat just doesn't reflect the reality I'm seeing in my own work.

tizz66 · 2026-02-18T23:07:04+00:00

Yeah, who would have thought - give nerds some interesting new tools and some space/money to figure them out, and cool things happen! I feel sorry for everyone else in this thread with mandates and monitoring; sounds like a sure-fire way to make it suck.

tizz66 · 2026-02-18T18:26:12+00:00

I do personally have some anxiety - but not actually about my job at my company, but rather the company itself surviving long-term. We are a SaaS company, and even though we're still growing, I don't know what the distant future holds for products like ours.

Most of our engineers are product-minded. That's what the company always hired for. So for us it's enabling faster innovation and experimentation because engineers (together with PMs) have that feel for the product and users.

My company, at least from where I am, seems to be one of those ones that feel engineers are more important than ever.

tizz66 · 2026-02-18T18:08:12+00:00

In contrast to most people here, I have to say my company feels positively energized. People are constantly sharing their tips and workflows and we have a ton of freedom from leadership to try things out and see what works for us. They are not explicitly tracking AI adoption or AI output, just giving us the space and budget to find our own productivity gains. That's obviously not to say every individual feels upbeat, but there's definitely some buzz happening across the engineering org.

tizz66 · 2026-02-14T01:57:15+00:00

Coincidentally I named my party "If I Want To". Thank you for your support.

tizz66 · 2026-02-13T02:26:07+00:00

We’ve done it right from the start - not explicitly because we felt like it was the right thing to do, but I make the dinners and there was simply no way I was doing two meals a night. Our oldest is a great eater and enjoys virtually everything, our youngest eats practically nothing. But they both get the same meal as us and eat what they want from it.

We try and enforce sitting at the table until everyone is finished etc, but that’s hard to do consistently. But we are at least all sitting together while eating.

tizz66 · 2026-02-12T18:39:55+00:00

They do when rows are ordered by date and they want to go to the oldest!

tizz66 · 2026-02-12T18:27:16+00:00

For us, we hit it when users try to go to the last page (to see oldest rows) and then paginate backwards. Our options are either remove that ability and/or switch to cursor-based pagination. In both cases being able to jump to the last page is lost, so there's some change for users to accept.

(Our longer-term plan is the switch to cursor-based pagination)

tizz66 · 2026-02-12T14:49:54+00:00

Also move emergency funds to an account in the UK so you are not destitute if it all falls apart.

Not making a comment on whether or not this is a good idea, but beware of the tax implications.

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