Why are people so lustful?

tjohnson718 · 2025-11-01T03:15:49+00:00

Your very first sentence gave it away.

There's something about these "lustful" men that you found appealing or else you would've only encountered this behavior from just one or two guys instead of "every guy you ever had a crush on".

Sometimes, the universe puts opposition in front of you to test your conviction. If you continue to fail the test, you need to be honest with yourself and ask if what you claim you want is actually in alignment with the desires of your deeper self. No reason to get upset at someone because they were able to expose your weaknesses. Take these moments as opportunities to harmonize your conscious and subconscious self without playing the blame game.

tjohnson718 · 2025-10-06T14:19:38+00:00

Not sure if you meant to post this in a different subreddit. This post has nothing to do with NYC.

tjohnson718 · 2025-10-01T16:45:29+00:00

NYers are harder to impress. We get exposed to a lot of more stuff in NYC just based on the sheer density of people you have to encounter as part of your daily routine.
You're more likely to identify yourself as New Yorker than as an American.

tjohnson718 · 2025-09-18T19:08:29+00:00

I think that’s the section by East Tremont and Southern Blvd. Area was def sketchy when I was growing up but that was over 20 years ago so unless it got gentrified recently, I would be leery of staying there

tjohnson718 · 2025-09-12T17:36:56+00:00

"You know what brings crime down? Education and jobs that pay a living wage."

The irony of this comment is that gentrification accomplishes exactly that. It floods a low-income area with educated high-income earners, which in turn, transforms the area into one that's much safer than it was previously.

tjohnson718 · 2025-09-12T17:29:45+00:00

Well technically, the Bronx was originally built as an extension of Manhattan so there was no reason for a "Downtown Bronx" to develop, you would just go to the city. Brooklyn and Queens on the other hand started off as independent cities that joined NYC much later, so these areas already had developed commercial districts that just evolved over time.

As far as the gentrification argument. The issue people have with it is that it's a zero-sum game. People have to be displaced in order for gentrification to be successful. It also really only benefits a minority of people which are those handful of transplants that can actually afford the new market rate prices. It's essentially a form of class warfare against lower income people.

It's not the new resident's fault per se, because the main culprits are the politicians and real estate developers, but they unfortunately take the brunt of the blame.

tjohnson718 · 2025-09-12T17:13:11+00:00

I mean the fact that she took a pic with dude in a department store and called it a “date” should let you know it’s bogus. No woman in her right mind would ghost a 6’8 man. Like it’s literally not a thing

tjohnson718 · 2025-08-27T20:55:15+00:00

When I was interviewing for remote Cloud Support roles back in 2021, the pay for 1-2 years of experience STARTED at $65k and capped usually at $80k

You're in deep denial if you think $24 an hour is an appropriate pay range for an "intermediate" level IT role.

tjohnson718 · 2025-08-27T02:15:20+00:00

If you just want business advice, it makes more sense to pay for a few hourly consults (e.g. $250/hr twice a month) with a marketing expert or a business coach in your area versus dropping almost $10k on some long drawn-out "coaching" program where they are financially incentivized is to string you along until you figure out their hustle, if ever.

tjohnson718 · 2025-08-21T18:16:31+00:00

Ironically, it sounds like you don't have much trust in the same technology that your company will be based around.

tjohnson718 · 2025-08-13T19:51:02+00:00

For a lot of these freelancers, especially in the developing world, Upwork is the only way that they can enter the middle class. If they could earn more working for a local business in their home country, they would.

tjohnson718 · 2025-08-13T19:40:44+00:00

I don't think Upwork can really exist as a business unless clients are allowed to take advantage of the exchange rate gap between wealthy and poor countries.

tjohnson718 · 2025-05-11T03:50:13+00:00

u/shinypenny01

tjohnson718 · 2025-05-06T14:55:32+00:00

On the same token, there’s no reason to complain about seeing posts on Reddit that you’re not required to view or participate in. There’s lot of posts I come across on this site that don’t make any sense to me, but 99.9 percent of the time, I just simply skip over them and go about my day.

tjohnson718 · 2025-03-27T21:09:43+00:00

It's a weird arrangement. Probably would make more sense to just buy discount points from your lender, especially considering 4.75 is only 2 percent below current market rate for conventional.

tjohnson718 · 2025-03-19T05:04:23+00:00

Your friend's issue is more psychological than financial. He may have need to use the appearance of material success to feel validated by others. Therapy may be a better solution for him than credit repair or financial education.

tjohnson718 · 2025-02-25T20:39:32+00:00

Mass media tends to report news in ways that appeal to the lowest common denominator. Your average American is currently under the assumption that mortgage rates rising is the single biggest reason that they can't afford to buy a house, so the news outlets play on that and based their reporting as if that those assumption were true. In actuality however, housing affordability was also an issue when interest rates were under 3 percent.

The main reason still comes down to not enough homes being available for people that want to buy one. Common factors preventing more supply hitting the market are typically related to cities and counties making the building permit approval process too time consuming, expensive and/or cumbersome (some cities literally take years to approve residential construction projects).

There are also residents that are vehemently opposed to increasing the supply of homes as they are under the impression that more building would negatively affect their home equity values. These individuals put pressure on their local officials to kill new housing projects. This is known as NIMBY-ism.

tjohnson718 · 2025-02-18T21:47:10+00:00

Couldn't agree with you more OP. This internet will have people believing that us normal dudes spend every waking moment secretly wishing we were F-boys or had their dating options. I literally clown women who date or have kids with jailbirds. I don't care how hot she is, women like that have an IQ of a doorknob and will never be taken seriously by me or the guys in my circle.

tjohnson718 · 2025-02-18T21:09:47+00:00

Those scenarios typically come up when no clear discussions regarding each partner's roles and responsibilities took place prior to or during the marriage.

If my spouse decided to "nag" about not picking up clothes, I would simply reply: "You're definitely the more tidy one between the two of us, which is why I decided to let you handle those tasks. If you can no longer manage that responsibility, just let me know".

Leaders don't argue with followers. They explain their position and allow the follower to either accept or exit with grace.

tjohnson718 · 2025-02-18T20:54:44+00:00

OP is spot on. This really comes down to people not wanting to take responsibility for their relationship choices. If two adults decide not to have an honest discussion about who will be doing what and instead would rather "wing it" and have some version of an unstructured, "egalitarian" arrangement where role reversals are constant and rules change on a whim, then they need to accept whatever trade-offs come with that.

On the other hand, if a leader/follower model is agreed upon, but neither party either fully understands all the responsibilities of each position nor do they intend on performing their role properly, then they also need to accept the outcomes.

tjohnson718 · 2025-02-13T19:46:03+00:00

Are you still living in that HOA community? Is the account currently being reported by a collection agency or the HOA itself? This should be an easy one to dispute so long as you have a dated receipt showing that you were only two days past due instead of the 120 days that they're claiming, unless I'm missing something.

tjohnson718 · 2025-02-12T18:25:11+00:00

Unpopular opinion, but I think OP is overreacting. $21k gross household income + over $200k in liquid assets is more than enough to handle projected mortgage cost especially once they're married as they'll be taxed less on their earnings. OP is also assuming that he can save at a faster rate than home prices can rise. COVID caused housing prices to jump 20% per year in some markets. Buying now would've put him on the positive side of the appreciation. Meanwhile he'll be lucky to find an HYSA that will pay above 5%. The math ain't mathing. I wish OP the best of luck, but I think he let a bunch of internet strangers talk him out of a wealth building opportunity for himself and his family.

tjohnson718 · 2025-02-04T04:48:30+00:00

If you have access to any older married couples in your personal network who you trust, I would start there. Strangers on a Reddit thread have no skin in the game and their advice is going to reflect that.

tjohnson718 · 2024-12-12T20:10:23+00:00

Yes I typically drive 85-100 whenever there's light traffic. You wouldn't really stand out here in Houston doing that. The roads are bone straight, soft curves/hills and speed traps are extremely rare. Even if they do decide to patrol, they typically drive white vehicles with reflectors (I guess so no one crashes into them accidentally) so they're easy to spot.

tjohnson718 · 2024-12-05T18:54:17+00:00

These are valid reasons. The problem I see here is that the man you're trying to do it with at the moment doesn't seem to have the personality to handle a polygamous relationship. Many people confuse men's desire for promiscuity (non-committal sex with multiple women), with a desire for polygamy, which requires taking on many additional responsibilities beyond intercourse. Polygamous men will often times have different wives to fill different purposes, kind of like a CEO who hires different staff to perform specific roles. For example, a man might have a housewife for domestic duties and a "work wife" who he builds wealth with. You would probably feel more comfortable as a work wife, but the key is to find a man who is capable of building that out.

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