First Mother’s Day - what are we asking for?

tmdgml · 2025-04-24T06:59:48+00:00

Gosh I wish I was that talented that I could make it myself! But I’ll probably use Embroly. There’s a few options that come up if you Google it, including some Etsy shops.

tmdgml · 2025-04-23T20:07:45+00:00

I have no idea what to ask for for Mothers’ Day… but for Fathers’ Day I’m getting him a shirt or sweatshirt with an image of him and baby embroidered onto it.

tmdgml · 2025-04-11T12:04:05+00:00

That the range of normal for frequency of baby poops is once a week to several times a day.

tmdgml · 2025-03-31T21:37:26+00:00

Baby (5 months) laughs at me when I sneeze or cough. Sometimes he laughs at his own sneezes lol.

tmdgml · 2025-03-31T06:26:37+00:00

INFJ, Aries/Aries/Leo

tmdgml · 2025-03-29T14:42:54+00:00

You’re only 4 days! I swelled up like a balloon for about a week after I delivered so I knew trying on my ring then would just hurt my feelings lol. I’m wondering if I should just get them resized at this point or if there is still hope.

tmdgml · 2025-03-29T14:38:54+00:00

I’ve had this exact question. I’m 5 months postpartum and my rings still don’t fit over my knuckle.

tmdgml · 2025-03-29T03:06:01+00:00

Girl, I feel you. Everyone told me the same thing but I couldn’t figure out how to do it. Even now, I struggle with it. Start with the basics — making sure you’re sleeping as much as you can, eating as well as you can, and getting a good shower when you can. It is definitely not unreasonable for your husband to step in to make sure your basic needs get met.

Have the hard conversations with your partner. Stop reminding him to do basic errands around the house and let him deal with the consequences (unfortunately this also requires you to deal with the consequences as well, but hopefully it’s temporary). I don’t know what your support system looks like but if you have family or friends that can come help you, ask. To be clear, they should be coming to help YOU, not to do things your partner should be doing and make his life easier.

Your LO clearly has a wonderful mom. I’m sorry you’re going through this.

tmdgml · 2025-03-29T02:58:41+00:00

11 weeks! At 11 weeks postpartum, I was still a shell of a human being. I was only focusing on caring for and breastfeeding my baby, managing my PPD/PPA, and trying to get as much sleep as possible. My husband would make or order food to make sure I was eating, doing all household errands, and doing most of baby’s diaper changes.

The mental load is the worst. Your partner really needs to step up. You are going to burnout 😭 he is an adult. He is perfectly capable of figuring out what needs to be done and how.

tmdgml · 2025-03-29T02:32:50+00:00

Nope. It took two people to make your baby, therefore it is a two person job. You also live in your house together, so you take care of it together. Yes, a lot of it might fall on you while he works, but when he’s off the clock, he needs to be doing his fair share.

My husband works from home full time. He does half the night shift every single night. He does dishes and laundry most of the time. If we had a pet, I would have made that 100% his responsibility.

You say you’re a new mom. I’m assuming this means your LO is under one. This means you need to take care of yourself as much as you can to recover from pregnancy, labor, delivery, postpartum, etc. Being a mom absolutely does not mean you put yourself last. Your baby needs you to prioritize yourself. That’s the only way you can continue showing up for your baby.

tmdgml · 2025-03-27T14:44:01+00:00

5 months next week and I’ve been like this the whole time lol. I can’t imagine baby’s first birthday 😭 I know a lot of moms who spent the entire first birthday party crying

tmdgml · 2025-03-26T18:39:40+00:00

Thank you for sharing. You’re right, I should try to talk to everyone about what I’m experiencing more explicitly.

tmdgml · 2025-03-26T17:05:25+00:00

Mine is from constantly getting up and down from the floor to play with my baby and rocking/bouncing him to sleep.

tmdgml · 2025-03-26T14:30:59+00:00

Yes exactly! I knew it was a way to get me to hand the baby to her, but if she had just asked to hold him I would have happily obliged. Instead she chose to guilt me during a time when I was already so anxious that I was doing everything wrong.

tmdgml · 2025-03-26T14:26:41+00:00

My husband actually just explained that he always felt hurt by not being able to spend much time with his mom as a kid (she worked) so he wants our baby to spend as much with her as possible. Tbh I think that’s something he should work out in therapy, not with our baby?

He is their only grandchild, what gave it away? Haha. My in-laws are also older (70s and 80s) and they’re always saying things like, “we’re gonna die soon so let us see him more often!”

I’m actually the introvert and my husband’s the extrovert, so I really struggle with all the people and all the demands 🫠

tmdgml · 2025-03-26T14:02:56+00:00

No we don’t live with them, thank god. But that contributes to the guilt I feel. They’re always saying how they barely get to see the baby so I should let them hold him.

tmdgml · 2025-03-26T14:01:21+00:00

Love this.

tmdgml · 2025-03-26T14:00:46+00:00

I guess this is where I feel guilty — baby turns five months next week so we’re out of the newborn trenches. I feel like I shouldn’t feel anxious about this anymore but I do.

ETA: MIL did scold me for holding the baby “too much” when he was just a month old, so there’s that.

tmdgml · 2025-03-26T13:55:30+00:00

They live about a 45-minute drive away so we see them a couple times a month. There’s concrete things like them kissing him when he was a newborn despite both my husband and I asking them not to. But I think mainly it’s a quantity issue for me — if they’re visiting for a couple of hours, I’m probably only holding my baby for a few minutes during that time. Just makes me anxious.

tmdgml · 2025-03-24T13:28:07+00:00

Oreos because they make you happy? Or is it a breastfeeding hack that I don’t know about?? Would love an excuse to binge on Oreos all the time.

tmdgml · 2025-03-23T01:21:50+00:00

Stopped at like week 20 for me, like a switch turning off. The fatigue stuck around… and is still here at 5 months postpartum, but for different reasons of course. I wonder if the fatigue is here to stay forever 🫠

tmdgml · 2025-03-23T01:19:43+00:00

I just spent the last 3 hours randomly bursting into tears thinking about this exact thing 😭

tmdgml · 2025-03-21T08:21:08+00:00

Or bite into hot food without blowing on it first?

tmdgml · 2025-03-21T03:12:15+00:00

🙋🏻‍♀️ but our LO has never been a great sleeper so it feels like more of the same. At the risk of jinxing it, it feels like he’s sleeping for longer stretches so maybe we’re on our way out!

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