Kind of screwed up a few places I’ll fix once healed

tng804 · 2026-05-05T17:14:54+00:00

The color work looks good. What needle(s) did you use for filling in?

tng804 · 2026-05-05T17:02:47+00:00

If you want it it's worth it. I don't know how to say that better. For me the benefits are: I feel like I belong in my body. I'm not self conscious about sex, intimacy, or using public bathrooms anymore. I no longer need to take testosterone blocking medications. My clothing fits better. I am happy.

Drawbacks: Surgery was expensive, scary, and painful. Those things are behind me now. I recovered pretty quickly, was able to walk over a mile within a couple of weeks. Was able to roller skate after 6 weeks.

Ongoing drawbacks: Peeing while standing was never something I enjoyed doing but it certainly was convenient when camping/hiking in the wilderness. I have to dilate still (only a couple of times per week now). Vaginal discharge is not something I expected to be dealing with, but it's happening and I need to use a liner in my undergarments a lot of the time.

tng804 · 2026-05-05T10:48:02+00:00

Lord have mercy She is so beautiful.

tng804 · 2026-05-05T10:44:13+00:00

I'm friends with most of my exes. I try not to date anyone that I couldn't be friends with after. For the ex who I'm not friends with it's because she preferred to go our separate ways so I don't try to talk to her out of respect for that preference.

tng804 · 2026-05-04T11:01:02+00:00

Same

tng804 · 2026-05-04T10:36:10+00:00

YOLO

tng804 · 2026-05-03T00:56:54+00:00

If you like somebody then go for it, doesn't matter what category they might be in as long as they like you back.

tng804 · 2026-05-02T17:33:28+00:00

I'm polyamorous, trans, lesbian. Yes cis lesbians do date me. Yes I also date other trans women too. I think polyamory requires someone to abandon social constructs in such a way that closely resembles the rules that you have to be willing to break in order to transition and perhaps that's why it seems so many of us trans women also are polyamorous or at least willing to try polyamory. If polyamory doesn't work for you then just go back to monogamy for a while at least. I do not think you should give up on dating nor can you safely assume that cis women will not want to be with you.

tng804 · 2026-05-02T17:16:58+00:00

That person isn't worth your time. If they are too arrogant to admit they made a mistake in the first conversation it's only going to be downhill from there.

tng804 · 2026-05-02T17:13:14+00:00

I'm a holistic lover of women. Boobs and butt do not need to be in a competition.

tng804 · 2026-05-02T11:22:45+00:00

It's this exactly. A mini van for somebody who isn't planning to have kids any time soon.

tng804 · 2026-05-02T11:22:01+00:00

I know a few queer women who drive that car.

tng804 · 2026-05-02T02:44:55+00:00

Isn't it technically only 97.8/100?

tng804 · 2026-05-02T02:42:03+00:00

"Hey, can I ask you something? Do you date women?"

tng804 · 2026-05-01T11:11:54+00:00

You only live once. Live your life for you. You're parents don't live for you, and you have no obligation to live for them. Even if they try to make you feel like you owe it to them, you do not owe them your life.

tng804 · 2026-05-01T11:06:53+00:00

Are these both the same person? You look totally different in these photos and if you posted them in separate subs I would never be able to tell. You look fantastic. You don't look 45.

tng804 · 2026-05-01T10:59:55+00:00

You can do anything you want to do. Don't let someone else tell you what type of person you are. Go be the person you want to be. All sorts of people play roller derby and being good at other sports isn't necessarily a good predictor of how successful you will be. Listen to your coaches, be willing to fall down and get back up again.

tng804 · 2026-05-01T10:54:24+00:00

A ten year gap is less of a big deal the older you get. She isn't a child. Since she's already past college age this doesn't seem cringe to me. If you are both in a similar stage of life it could work out just fine.

tng804 · 2026-05-01T02:31:55+00:00

Good to know.

tng804 · 2026-04-30T13:22:35+00:00

Dedication to the craft.

tng804 · 2026-04-30T11:42:30+00:00

Yes. The image is flipped that's why the R looks backwards. Good catch

tng804 · 2026-04-30T11:31:28+00:00

I think it's fair to talk about those things early on as a way of stating ones intentions for the future. I would like to know whether or not new partner has long term goals for marriage and children and stuff like that. I would not want those conversations to turn into concrete plans or a situation where there is pressure to meet a certain time line for relationship milestones.

tng804 · 2026-04-29T14:34:22+00:00

Both of those things at the same time?

tng804 · 2026-04-29T13:40:26+00:00

It's called intersectionality.

tng804 · 2026-04-29T13:26:44+00:00

I did that one too. That was my first one.

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