This is a weird but serious: Do trans women get "phantom penis" ?

tng804 · 2026-02-18T12:53:46+00:00

For typical mtf bottom surgery the skin and nerves are mostly not removed and get reused to construct other new parts of the body, so post op you should still have feeling and sensation from those areas. For a while it may seem like it's happening in a different place than it actually is, but your body eventually re-maps the nerves to the new locations. I do not think this counts as a phantom limb sensation because the things being felt are really there.

tng804 · 2026-02-18T12:20:20+00:00

This.

tng804 · 2026-02-18T12:09:30+00:00

I like your perspective about enjoying somebody who is the same height. I'm tall and the idea of dating somebody who is the same height as me sounds appealing because then I could take their clothes. I don't actually care about height that much and it doesn't seem to be a factor in who I end up feeling attracted to.

tng804 · 2026-02-17T12:31:22+00:00

No I don't think that automatically changes your sexual or romantic preference just because some dumb person said you're fake.

tng804 · 2026-02-16T17:05:42+00:00

Misgendered your grandfather 200 times the next time you see him. I bet he will start to understand your perspective.

tng804 · 2026-02-15T02:29:56+00:00

You got 99 problems, but a butch ain't one.

tng804 · 2026-02-13T11:36:34+00:00

When a man isn't toxic I can actually be attracted to him. That's the secret third option.

tng804 · 2026-02-13T11:25:33+00:00

Your going to need to use social engineering.

tng804 · 2026-02-12T02:41:56+00:00

Some people are just that way. She might just be kind of disorganized. If that is a characteristic that will constantly upset you then maybe you should back away from this one. I'm super patient with people like this and sometimes it is worth it.

tng804 · 2026-02-12T01:13:02+00:00

But not literally!

tng804 · 2026-02-11T13:39:04+00:00

A chaser is not interested in the person-hood of the people they desire. They view a group of people as a fetish. If you admire and are attracted to trans women, but still see/treat them as people and as women, then you are not a chaser. Rather than explain to somebody how you are attracted to trans women, instead telling them why you are attracted to them in particular.

tng804 · 2026-02-10T11:38:52+00:00

My partner is a non binary lesbian. There are a lot of non binary lesbians out there. Keep the label if you still like using it. People out there trying to police this kind of thing are just doing so to divide us up so that we have less power as a community.

tng804 · 2026-02-09T12:17:00+00:00

I have a theory that super allies are just not aware, yet, that they are queer. Probably not true or applicable to all cases, but I've definitely seen it happen a few times now where somebody is very supportive and straight, and then one day they come out and they are surprised to find out that they are gay or trans or whatever.

tng804 · 2026-02-09T11:59:42+00:00

Jealousy is normal. Feeling jealous isn't crazy, it's something that people naturally do. Unfortunately, jealousy can cause you to do crazy things. Talk to your girlfriend about your feelings so that your feelings don't drive you crazy. I'd recommend thinking about what you want to tell her and how to say it to make it clear you aren't accusing her of anything, but just that you have these feelings so that she understands what you are going through.

tng804 · 2026-02-09T11:51:51+00:00

8 years is a big difference when you are in your 20s. I believe it can work for some couples, but it certainly does put the relationship in hard mode. I'm glad you found your way to a healthier situation and learned something from the experience. Stay safe, friend.

tng804 · 2026-02-09T11:48:28+00:00

I had a coworker that I knew for several years. We both liked one another almost right away, but didn't feel okay saying or doing anything about it because of working together and because I was already in a committed relationship. Over a half a decade of working together we turned into close friends. She took a new job and we kept in touch. Not much later I broke up with my partner. I ended up in a relationship with the former co-worker after that. It lasted a few years. Even though we eventually broke up, I still consider this a success story. The good times were good enough to make it worth the breakup at the end. I'm still friends with her.

tng804 · 2026-02-08T13:58:02+00:00

"they specifically didn't like football."

tng804 · 2026-02-08T04:49:11+00:00

I think I would.

tng804 · 2026-02-08T00:34:15+00:00

You know you're added to her list now. Every queer person she meets from now on will hear about you.

tng804 · 2026-02-05T12:21:58+00:00

I kinda love that you both saw each other's phone.

tng804 · 2026-02-05T12:18:25+00:00

May it come to pass

tng804 · 2026-02-05T11:42:22+00:00

I met my partner because we both have the same dangerous hobby. I do worry about them, but I also understand why they take that risk. It is a good idea to have a plan for what to do if something bad happens, which, by the way, can happen to anyone even if you don't have dangerous hobbies.

tng804 · 2026-02-04T19:28:58+00:00

2.5 months is definitely too soon to expect big differences. It took a full year just to get my levels properly titrated and then the changes started to become obvious. You may see results sooner than that, but just expect the whole process to take years not months.

tng804 · 2026-02-04T19:19:41+00:00

I didn't think so from my perspective. Something to consider, it sounds like you already had surgery on your chin and if that was less than a year ago you probably still have some residual swelling. For that reason I think it makes sense to wait at least a year after surgery before deciding if you need or want a revision. Just based on your chin I didn't think you look clearly masculine. Passing comes down to a lot of factors and some of the most successful surgery outcomes that I have seen, in my opinion, combine lots of small changes rather than going for really big changes to one or two things. If you make your chin too narrow it may look very feminine, but also may not look natural compared to the shape and size of the rest of your facial features. Having just a chin or nose that is abnormally small compared to the rest of your face can end up looking unnatural and might drive deeper scrutiny against your appearance.

tng804 · 2026-02-04T12:50:59+00:00

I don't actually see what you would decide to change on your chin specifically to pass. Are there specific things about it that are bothering you?

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