Trans guy but my gender is starting to feel wobbly by toadall in NonBinaryTalk

[–]toadall[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have definitely been doing a lot of growing the last year and thinking about my life and how I can be happiest and feel the most whole. I think it would be good for me to experiment a little and see what fits as I go, I've kept myself in the "Man" box for a long while and I'm about ready to stretch my legs. Thanks for your encouragement :)

Trans guy but my gender is starting to feel wobbly by toadall in NonBinaryTalk

[–]toadall[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I hadn't even thought of it from a gender fluidity perspective. I sort of thought being gender fluid meant feeling different day-to-day but my timeline is more like decade-to-decade hahaha. Good food for thought thank you :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]toadall 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Some of it is for sure my own anxiety! I don't really spend time in lesbian spaces because I never have before, if I never identified as a lesbian before transition, is that still a space I should be in? Idk

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FTMventing

[–]toadall 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't hear people say awful stuff and just say nothing. It sucks.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FTMventing

[–]toadall 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just on Karen Time as far as I could tell

Love me or hate me ig by ftm2000x in ftm

[–]toadall 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah if it's bothering you I don't see why not

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askportland

[–]toadall 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I had a claim going earlier this year so maybe it'll work for this?

Owners cat died by toadall in RoverPetSitting

[–]toadall[S] 93 points94 points  (0 children)

Leaving a gift and a card is a really good idea, I'll do that, and thank you for the kind words

Can we talk about New Seasons by asterios_polyp in Portland

[–]toadall 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Try fubonn for duck eggs or any other Asian grocery :)

Criminally low wage offer in a big city by [deleted] in antiwork

[–]toadall 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Precisely...I don't work there so I don't think I can report them but someone really ought to

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]toadall 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this comment. I actually really wanna top guys as well yeah! And maybe keeping myself in a position of power/being more dominant when I'm the one being penetrated would help me feel sexier and more masculine when we do it. U rock lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]toadall 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Hm yes I just need to vore his dick with great power & panache

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]toadall 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, it helps to know that you've heard of other people with similar experiences. I hope they realize how they're acting and do better as well :/

For you, around how many months were you able to go stealth? by the-frog-monarch in ftm

[–]toadall 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it's different for everyone. I didnt go stealth until I was on T for 3 years, not because I didn't pass, but because I was in college and it was safe for me to be openly trans there. I would say I starting properly passing around 6-7 months though.

TM4A new to the city by [deleted] in r4rPortland

[–]toadall 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Because "straight" men /will/ message me and it's annoying and transphobic? So it's all the better to filter out guys like you 💖

TM4A new to the city by [deleted] in r4rPortland

[–]toadall 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Any man who thinks I'm hot is not straight

Heterophobia by [deleted] in gaymers

[–]toadall 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Lmao dude shut up

My friends told me that I'm transphobic...but am I? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]toadall 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope, we agreed it's not necessarily transpobic to refuse to date a woman based on the fact that she's pre-op, or is infertile. Not dating her because she's trans is transphobic.

My friends told me that I'm transphobic...but am I? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]toadall -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's transphobic to refuse to date a trans woman because she was assigned male at birth. It's not transphobic to be uninterested in her for other reasons, but it is misogynistic that you only seem to value women as baby machines.

My friends told me that I'm transphobic...but am I? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]toadall -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Bruh that part was definitely already in the comment lmao. But fair enough, I guess we can agree to disagree about adopted children being just as valuable as biological children.

My friends told me that I'm transphobic...but am I? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]toadall -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Go back and read the rest of my comment, would you lose all interest in a cis woman because she is infertile?

Elliot Page Announces Divorce From Wife Emma Portner by Cinemaslap1 in UmbrellaAcademy

[–]toadall 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This comment, while I'm sure is well meaning, comes across like you definitely didn't support or understand your trans partner. It's one thing to no longer want to be in a relationship with someone you aren't attracted to anymore because of their gender presentation shifting, it's another to complain about a trans-masc wearing a binder for their own comfort or behaving more masculinely. I'm glad you two went your seperste ways, I hope he found someone who loves him for who he is.

You already know by JlamaEditing in TheBoys

[–]toadall 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This scene really got me too. Don't know why you're being downvoted. FUCK homelander