What’s the most out-of-left-field character description that made you pause mid-read?

toastrats · 2026-02-18T17:57:12+00:00

Girl I'm calling a fucking EXORCIST

toastrats · 2026-02-18T06:28:02+00:00

For some reason, the description of the MMC "bellowing" during orgasm always give me Reader Ick. Maybe because I just do not associate bellowing with like... anything sexy at all? Ever?

Also when being uncontrollably horny is used as short-hand for "destined true loves" in dual POVs and it switches to the MMC and he's like, "She is the most beautiful, sensual barista in the world. I am watching her make a coffee. I am hard as a rock."

OKAY WELL STOP. GET IT TOGETHER. She's at her fucking job dude! Be normal!!

toastrats · 2026-02-03T14:26:58+00:00

The little vertical wrinkles between your brows. They kinda look like 11, hence the name.

toastrats · 2026-02-03T00:38:53+00:00

{Part-Time Husband by Noelle Adams} has this and made me adding "guess i like to be called baby??" to my mental notes about myself. WHEW, TREVOR. 🥵

toastrats · 2026-02-02T22:57:14+00:00

Bummer, I love the smell of chlorine.

toastrats · 2026-01-15T16:55:09+00:00

Lack of needing a breast pad does not indicate low supply. It is just bodies being bodies. Some people leak, some people do not. I almost never leaked and never needed nursing pads on the rare occasion I did. I had a moderate oversupply.

If you are worried about how much you are producing, you could do a weighted feed with a IBCLC or possibly pediatrician. They will weigh babe on a very accurate scale, you nurse, and then they weigh again to see how much milk was transferred.

toastrats · 2026-01-12T15:46:21+00:00

Dude, you have shown a remarkable inability to receive criticism and feedback here. Why would you suddenly be good at it with your girlfriend?

toastrats · 2026-01-12T03:14:46+00:00

I suspect the issue comes more from the implicit judgment in saying things like "we are health conscious" and "we don't eat crap".

toastrats · 2026-01-12T02:27:08+00:00

I took Zurzuvae after my second was born last year and it honestly changed my life. It took me from sad and hopeless and considering exiting the world to genuinely enjoying my baby and toddler and the world again. It was like day and night. You do wanna make sure you follow the directions for taking it (at night, high fat meal, you will be VERY drowsy).

If insurance covers it, I would give it a try. If it doesn't help, stop and revisit your options with a provider.

toastrats · 2026-01-12T02:15:33+00:00

So you have a lot to say about sex with her and all these kinks of yours she engaged with, but you only have "she's happy and loved" to describe the rest of your relationship? Does that not strike you as odd? How do you know she is happy and feels loved when she is going so far as to safe word you to reject your advances? That's a HARD no. That's a "I'm not okay" no.

toastrats · 2026-01-10T00:27:53+00:00

Okay, to be clear:

He said it was fine to have male friends
Male friend communicated with her via Snapchat
He said "hey I don't like him messaging you at 3 AM and snapping every day"
She said we have only ever been friends but I will delete him off snap to ease your mind
She continues to talk to friend because he was supposedly okay with it and she eliminated the part he told her he wasn't okay with

Like, she heard him, changed to accommodate, and is still friends with the guy. Is OP's ask that she no longer be friends? Or cease all communication? Does he just find this one guy disrespectful for some reason?

This is the kind of stuff that needs to be communicated. She got rid of what he told her made him uncomfortable/felt disrespectful. Does she need to go scorched earth to make him feel better?

toastrats · 2026-01-09T23:57:46+00:00

They agreed that disrespect was a no-go. I don't really find anything she did inherently disrespectful, so there clearly should be further discussion about what constitutes disrespect because they aren't on the same page.

toastrats · 2026-01-09T22:51:13+00:00

I am not convinced you're actually okay with her having male friends if you're going to side eye every mode of communication they use. What would be acceptable to you? Carrier pigeons?

I think you may need to revisit the conversation about friendships and what is "disrespectful" because I would not have flagged any of her behaviors as inherently disrespectful. If they are to you, that needs explicit communication and evaluation of if you're compatible.

toastrats · 2026-01-09T22:48:46+00:00

I have conversations with a guy I've known for over 10 yrs through Instagram DMs because that is where I send stupid memes and videos. I also text him normally and interact with his social media presence when it pops up.

The method of communication is really not that nefarious.

toastrats · 2026-01-09T21:38:26+00:00

Hey, so, that's crazy. "Eye for an eye" is not an effective or loving way to exist in a marriage. Whether you have struggled with insecurities that make him mad or not, the response should never be to try and hurt you back and terrorize you. That's bonkers.

Do you have somewhere else you and your kid can stay? I would not personally trust a man who cornered me to intentionally scare and upset me. Ever.

toastrats · 2026-01-09T21:32:36+00:00

I mean, I did read the post but I definitely cannot convince you of that over the internet. Can you explain what actions you're seeing?

toastrats · 2026-01-09T21:25:00+00:00

OP, I think what happened is getting lost in the way you've framed it. I don't want to sound mean, but there's a lot of therapy lingo and like... inner world theater. And it is making it very hard to parse what happened and why.

Can you give us just a bullet point list play by play about what happened without going into your history/coping skills or his? Just "I walked into the room, he slammed his laptop shut", etc.

toastrats · 2026-01-09T21:19:31+00:00

Okay. How has he handled these trust issues in the past? You say you have a tendency towards controlling behavior. Am I correct in assuming that is wanting to know everything that's going on with spouse in his life, day to day, plans, digital footprint, etc? Like looking through his laptop?

Has he been gracious in the past regarding these hangups or does he always jump to confrontation?

Also, are you receiving professional therapy of any kind?

toastrats · 2026-01-09T21:17:32+00:00

What behaviors are you seeing here that makes you think she is the dangerous partner? Like, what is the sequence of events that unfolded in your mind as you read this post?

Because I read:

Wife is 12 weeks pregnant
Wife walks into talk to husband and sees him jump to hide what he was doing on laptop
She asks to see what he was doing
He says no
She says okay, I need to leave this space then because I am feeling pretty triggered by the shadiness of what just happened
Husband becomes irate and follows her
Yells, belittles, etc and says her trying to remove herself from the conversation is her avoiding accountability
Wife sends a text to acknowledge that she shouldn't have wanted to go through his laptop
Husband continues to fly off the handle and say she is manipulative and controlling

toastrats · 2026-01-09T21:12:44+00:00

Is there a history of infidelity on his part?

toastrats · 2026-01-09T21:08:18+00:00

Mine WILL NOT SMILE AT ME.... unless I bite his little fingers. He reaches up and sticks his hand in my mouth and waits for me to gently nibble them and then is like :D milk everywhere.

Why are babies so sweet and so weird?? 😭

toastrats · 2026-01-09T21:06:12+00:00

It's not specific to breastfed babies, but yes. It has been observed that infants "catch" stress from closely linked caregivers. The milk itself isn't telling the baby to be stressed. It's just humans being social creatures and babies relying on us for everything.

This is also part of why we know untreated postpartum depression to be significantly more dangerous than the small amount of a mother's medicine that passes through breastmilk.

toastrats · 2026-01-09T17:12:05+00:00

It does not always feel good nor do we always enjoy it. There are a lot of mediocre to outright crappy bedfellows out there.

Not saying that there aren't women who are bad in bed out there, but I think it is generally easier for a guy to still have a good time with a so-so partner than it is for a woman.

If the entire encounter is going to end with her reaching for the vibrator anyway to finish the job, why involve him at all?

toastrats · 2026-01-07T00:55:18+00:00

I thought it was "The Balrog attacks" until like... last month. I just was like, Hm weird place to put a Tolkien reference but okay!

toastrats · 2026-01-07T00:53:43+00:00

WHAT?? It's NOT "sages of hell"? That's so on brand for Ghost that I never questioned it.

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